Confucius' love is tragic, and his "only villains and women are hard to support" has become a famous saying throughout the ages.
However, this is normal. People with ideals and ambitions have to give up other feelings in order to realize their ideals. There are many such people in history. Such as Lao Zi, Han Fei, Guo Jia, Yu Xun and Zhuge Liang.