Three friends who gain are gentlemen, and three friends who lose are villains. The villain is both hateful and helpless. After all, it is impossible to directly judge a person's thoughts when communicating with others. As the saying goes, "people know their faces but don't know their hearts." Most of the time, they realized that he was a villain after being framed! But we have paid a great price to see through each other, which is really not worth the loss.
The sentence is magnanimous, a petty man is anxious and worried.. ",most villains have a common feature, that is, they haggle over every ounce, have no broad mind, often suffer from considerations of gain and loss, and constantly satisfy their own selfish desires.
Someone once asked me, how can I read a person's mind and know whether the other person is worth making friends? In fact, the method of distinguishing villains is very simple. As early as 1000 years ago, Guiguzi told us three sentences. As long as we feel, study and understand with our hearts, we will avoid being framed by villains, find out each other's psychological activities at the first time, and make actions to avoid misfortune, so that the intrigue of the other side cannot be applied to us.
Profit, to put it bluntly, is money. When villains see money, they often show their foxes' tails, because interests are too attractive to them. Villains often forget the benefits, and in order to get the benefits at all costs, they forget their family and friendship, so there is a human tragedy in which brothers settle accounts clearly.
What about surgery? We can give the villain some small favors, for example, in modern life, occasionally invite each other to dinner, give them some material help appropriately, and then see how they react. Some people took us dozens of dollars to thank us, but after a while, they found that the other party never invited us to dinner, or pushed our luck and asked us for it. In fact, such people are not worth making friends, so they should be avoided.
? Guiguzi thinks you can use villains. As long as we give them some benefits, they will take us as the center, keep their word and do things in a short time. Small people will be carried away by temporary interests and be pushed around by others, but it should be noted that this situation will not last long, because small people do not know how to be grateful. If there is no long-term interest supply, they will turn against us, so friends made with interests can be summarized as small people and cannot work with them for great things.
When you get along with villains, you should always be vigilant. Many people are careless and have no plans, which is exactly what villains like to see. Therefore, when we do things with our hearts, we should always be cautious when dealing with villains, and don't leave a handle on each other. In the face of the villain's step-by-step questioning, we sometimes have to play dumb and don't promise each other easily.
The "wisdom" here is not confused by the smiling appearance of the other party, but directly observes the words and deeds of the other party. On the surface, laughing and cursing are villains' specialties. Many friends can enjoy themselves, but they can't share weal and woe. Therefore, we can create some difficulties appropriately to test whether the other party is willing to lend a helping hand. This is actually a clever use of "wisdom" to quickly distinguish villains.
Many times, we have to give in to the villain, and once we confront the villain, it is likely to cause a lot of trouble. Some people are strong-willed and will fight the villains to the end, but in a gloomy environment, maintaining their own strength is an effective strategy.
Although we admire Yang Jisheng of the Ming Dynasty, he dared to confront the powerful minister Yan Song, and was finally killed in prison. It took many years to rehabilitate him. We also admire Yang Lian, who single-handedly impeached 90-year-old Wei Zhongxian and gave his precious life to save the chaos. But sometimes, in the face of the threat of villains, it is not bad to save your strength and bear the burden of humiliation. When our strength is strong enough, we can launch a Jedi counterattack and make the other side's "evil deeds" public, and often we can win with one blow.
When we are alive, we always have to deal with all kinds of people. When we ride a bicycle on a sunny day with good wishes, we will always meet several "puncture" villains, so let us take great pains. In fact, the villain came to provoke us, in a sense, because we were not strong enough and gave each other a chance. Maybe you are too kind to be used, maybe you are too naive to be cheated, maybe you are too powerful to be hated. All these should be worthy of our deep reflection.
Only by constantly summing up experience and lessons and remembering these three wisdom proverbs of Guiguzi can we quickly distinguish the true features of villains, leave each other nowhere to hide, and clear the way for their own lives.
Text | Guo Xue Grand View Garden