The relationship between Yongzheng and many courtiers, such as his relationship with Nian Gengyao, had a good start, but it didn't end well. The evolution of this relationship is usually a pattern, which can be divided into four stages.
In the first stage, Yong Zhengdi took the initiative to jump forward, with no bottom line, no reservation, wholehearted and vigorous love, just like this song said: "Love is not happy after death."
For example, in Nian Gengyao, there was a man named Long Keduo, and both Long Keduo and Nian Gengyao were ministers with independent achievements. Duo Long is an idle royal family. He is Yongzheng's uncle. Therefore, Yongzheng issued a decree saying that a rule was established from then on. All the courtiers, big and small, including the emperor, are called Long Keduo. They must add two words before his name: "hey." I really haven't seen a precedent in the history of China that courtiers should have official names, called uncles.
Yong Zhengdi made it herself. In the early years of Yongzheng, many of his notes mentioned Long Keduo, with uncles in front, including conversations with courtiers. He praised Long Keduo, saying that he was a loyal minister of Emperor Saint Zuren, which means a loyal minister of Kangxi. This is my hero, an outstanding and rare minister, that is to say, I have never seen such an excellent minister. Let's look at this word, which is very exaggerated. If you want to love, try to love.
Then the second stage. Since I love you, all the people I love must love you as much as I do. We must be able to sleep together, love and hug. Let his two older children, Nian Gengyao and Long Keduo, love each other.
But coincidentally, these two people just don't love each other, especially Nian Gengyao, who despises Long Keduo anyway. Nian Gengyao thinks I'm an old man in San Francisco. I'll talk to you when you're not the emperor. What grass is Longkeduo? Where did he come from?
Yongzheng is unhappy now. I have a deep affection for him. How could you do that? So, he tried desperately to drag them both down. He told Rong Keduo to ask Nian Gengyao more if he had difficulties. I told Nian Gengyao that I looked down on Ronkedo, too, and later regretted it. Now I know I made a big mistake. Yongzheng praised Long Keduo in front of him, which he said in front of Nian Gengyao.
Later, he came up with a circuitous way to let Nian Gengyao adopt a son for Long Keduo. You know, this matter is immoral in the laws of the Great Qing Dynasty. Because Ronkedo has one son and two sons, what's wrong with that? But Yongzheng thinks you two are half-brothers. Aren't you two great? Can you two share a bed? Later, the two had to live in harmony. This matter has just passed.
The third stage is the turning point. Yongzheng's character is that everyone drinks together, I will do it first, and then see how you drink. If you are serious, I will be unhappy; Or I love you, but you don't love me the way I want. I'm sorry, but I betrayed you. Once I betray you, I will kill you. So many people say that Yongzheng brutally suppressed dissidents and so on, which really wronged Yongzheng, because Yongzheng's generosity is very rare for many people.
Yongzheng invited a teacher named Zhu Shi to Li Hong. He opposed all the reforms of Yongzheng, especially his contact with Mu and other gentry, and became an opponent of Yongzheng all his life. After Nian Gengyao was arrested, Zhu Shi wrote to resign many times, but Yongzheng didn't allow him to say anything to you. This example is in the history books of Yongzheng Dynasty.
Therefore, it cannot be simply said that Yongzheng is a person who opposes dissidents, and he has great tolerance for different opinions. But if the person he loves finds out that he doesn't love him, he will work with others.
However, he has a fourth more terrible stage: if you don't love me, I will put you to death; I love you and I want to kill you.
The most typical example is money. Previously, when Yongzheng befriended Nian Gengyao, he asked officials from all over the country to consult Nian Gengyao, hoping that ministers could write poems praising Nian Gengyao. Money rushed to the front line of praising Nian Gengyao, whose works were particularly disgusting. After the fall of Nian Gengyao, Yongzheng turned it over and said, who do you think Nian Gengyao is? This is the so-called "teaching sinners". I won't kill you. I will write these four words in imperial pen, make a plaque for you, and let you go back to your hometown with this plaque. Hang this plaque in your hall. Your descendants will have to put up with it. Don't take it off.
He also asked the judge to go to Qian Ming's house on the first day and the fifteenth day to see if he chose the plaque. Usually it's so embarrassing that he has to throw it to Chiyo at the end.
Lord Yongzheng also did a great thing. When Qian left Beijing, he had no official position and no job. He wants to take this plaque home. Yongzheng Ye summoned about 300 noncommissioned officers of Jiuqing University, sent money away, held a farewell party, and asked everyone to write poems and scold money. Then he compiled these hundreds of poems into a collection of poems called "Poems for Teaching Prisoners".
Yongzheng's logic is that if I love you, I will try my best to love you until I die. If you hate it, then the previous love doesn't count. I will do my best to humiliate you to death. This is Yongzheng's interpersonal strategy.
"I love you, so you must love me" or "I love you, what's it to you"?
I have been thinking that if Yongzheng lived to this day and listened to all the popular songs in contemporary China, he would like a song called Know My Heart: "Know My Heart, I am eager for a true feeling. Once hurt by love, why do good dreams wake up easily? "
Yongzheng did love many people wholeheartedly, but once he found that his love was not rewarded, he went crazy and retaliated in various dramatic, cruel and even hysterical ways. Of course, among the ancient emperors in China, only Yong Zhengdi had such a figure and way of doing things.
Don't contemporary China people live in such interpersonal relationships and understand love in this way?
An American scholar once said that the word "benevolence" advocated by China people is structurally characterized by one person on the left and two people on the right. People all over China live in a world of two people. Their understanding of the world is either a teacher-student relationship, a father-son relationship or a classmate relationship. They always live in the relationship between two people, thus losing their independent existence and personality.
Yongzheng's starting point is love, there is nothing wrong. But when love takes the form of kidnapping, when the logic of "I love you, so you must love me" is established, love becomes a toxin. Once this logic is developed in the empty social ethics, you will find many ethical entanglements.
For example. Someone posted on the Internet and finally attached a sentence: Don't look back, you are not from China. Your reason is your reason. You just need to keep it for yourself. If I don't look back, why do you say I'm not from China?
It can be seen that the starting point of morality is beautiful, but when it is used to kidnap others, it brings a kind of social chaos.
First of all, we will never force others; Secondly, we try not to be forced by others. In other words, we should release goodwill to others as much as possible while maintaining our independent personal dignity and personality.
To understand the word "love", I still like what Zhang Ailing said in "The First Kitchen of Aquilaria Resina": "I love you, what is your relationship?" This is a free view of love.