Nowadays, boys and girls are independent and self-centered. They deal with relationships and marriages very decisively, and then sadly declare ""I don't believe in love anymore."" In fact, many relationship breakdowns and marriage failures are not Because of material things, or trivial matters, or because you love yourself more than the other person, you fail to nourish love into a habit. From this, I thought of the poignant love between the ancient ""love saint"" Xun Can and his wife Cao Jiao. , although it is short-lived, it makes us understand that true love is always there, and what is missing is just a habit. 1. Xuncan, who is lustful but not lustful, romantic and not obscene. The youngest son of the minister Xun Yu, according to the records of "Three Kingdoms" and "Xiangyang Ji": Xun Yu is handsome and elegant, with great appearance and good appearance. He is especially good at incense. Over time, he has a fragrance on his body. He is a handsome man comparable to Song Yu and Pan An. . His father was a handsome man, and Xun Can’s appearance must have been the same. He was born in a famous family and had an outstanding appearance. He was also a famous metaphysician during the Three Kingdoms period. It can be said that Xun Can was a young talent that countless people admired, admired and imitated. As an outstanding young man with "talent, appearance, background and wealth", Xuncan was not only talented, but also dared to think and speak. He was a famous ""Qingtan"" leader in the Three Kingdoms ("Qingtan" refers to the Wei and Jin Dynasties) , some celebrities inherited the tradition of Qing discussion in the Eastern Han Dynasty, analyzing and asking difficult questions and repeatedly debating cultural phenomena). However, Xun Can's most famous and most popular saying is "" A woman's virtue is not worthy of praise. Color should be the main focus. "(Talent is nothing for a woman, the most important thing is beauty). He was so lustful and said it in a big way, Xun Can is indeed a man of true temperament. Young people always dare to think and do. After learning that General Hussar After Cao Hong's daughter Cao Jiao was as beautiful as a flower, Xun Can begged his father Xun Yu to propose marriage. Xun Can and Cao were from the same family, and it was a political marriage. Of course, Cao Hong agreed, so Xun Can got the beauty as he wished. "Xun Can's Farewell Biography" records: "" Can Can then engaged Yan, and his clothes and curtains were very beautiful, and his private room was Yanwan. " , Cao Jiao contracted a cold-heat disease (equivalent to typhoid fever or malaria, which was an incurable disease at the time). Seeing his beloved wife being tortured to death, Xun Can, who was anxious, searched for imperial doctors and private doctors. , but it still didn't help. Looking at his beloved wife who had a high fever and was suffering from internal and external injuries, he stood naked outside in the cold winter. When he was about to freeze, he ran back indoors and hugged his wife tightly. He used his cold body to cool her down. However, Xun Can's infatuation did not move God. Cao Jiao passed away with deep nostalgia for her husband. After his wife died, Xun Can stayed beside his wife's body. I wanted to cry but felt like my soul had been taken away. My friend Fu Gu couldn't bear Xun Can's torture and comforted him: "Your wife is just beautiful. It's not hard to find a beautiful woman in the world. You can't bear it." Why be so sad? Xuncan shook his head sadly and said: "Although my wife has not reached the level of charming a city, it is not easy to meet a woman like her." "On the day of the burial, Xun Can held his beloved wife's coffin and cried until he died. Everyone who saw it was moved. A year later, the grief-stricken Xun Can also followed his beloved wife and died at the age of 29. Regarding Xun Can's life People at that time and later generations did not understand the concept of single-mindedness and infatuation, and felt that it was not worth it to live for a woman. When Liu Yiqing wrote "Shi Shuo Xin Yu", he included it in the chapter ""Addicted to Confusion"", hoping that future generations would learn from it. . We will comment on Xun Can’s view of love later. Next, let us enter the second story. 2. I have abused you a thousand times, but you treat me like my first love. There is no harm without comparison. No comparison would make him look like a scumbag. Yuan Zhen, also known as Wei Zhi, was a famous poet in the Tang Dynasty with profound literary attainments. Together with Bai Juyi, he initiated the New Yuefu Movement and was known as "Yuan Bai" in the world. It is said that since ancient times, Celebrities are really romantic. Although Yuan Zhen's family background is not as prominent as Xun Can's, he is no less generous in the love between his children. When his wife Wei Cong died of illness, Yuan Zhen, who was grieved, wrote three poems in succession to commemorate his love. Wife: "" If you look at the same acupuncture point, it will be even more difficult to predict his destiny. "(Even if we can be buried together, we can't express our true feelings. How illusory the hope of getting married in the next life is.)" "I sincerely know that everyone has this hatred, and poor and humble couples suffer from everything." "(Who doesn't know that everyone will be sad when a husband and wife say goodbye, and thinking of many past events makes people extremely sad). The poem is sad and sad, making the listener cry and the listener sad, which shows Yuan Zhen's loyalty and infatuation. However, looking at Yuan Zhen, In Zhen's life, he was more sentimental than infatuated, and he was a heartless man. Among the things that were criticized the most was that he personally ruined two talented women, Xue Tao, also known as Hongdu, a famous female poet in the Tang Dynasty and a prostitute in Chengdu. , together with Yu Xuanji, Li Ye, and Liu Caichun, are known as the four great female poets of the Tang Dynasty. Xue Tao was born in an official family and received a good cultural influence since she was a child. When her father Xue Yun died, she had no choice but to join the family for the survival of her mother and daughter. Xue Tao became a prostitute in the music industry. Because Xue Tao was "common with music, good at eloquence, and good at poetry and poetry", she sang poems with Bai Juyi, Zhang Ji, Wang Jian, Liu Yuxi, Du Mu, Zhang Hu and other poetry leaders, and became famous. Xianzong of Tang Dynasty In March of the fourth year of Yuanhe, Yuan Zhen was sent as an envoy to Shu. He had heard of Xue Tao for a long time and specially asked her to meet him in Zizhou. In this year, Yuan Zhen was 31 years old and Xue Tao was 42 years old.
Yuan Zhen was impressed by Xue Tao's beauty and intelligence, and Xue Tao was attracted by Yuan Zhen's appearance and talent, and the two fell in love instantly. During that time, Yuan Zhen and Xue Tao stayed together, lingering on the banks of the Jinjiang River, accompanying each other in the mountains and rivers of Shu, leaving behind many love poems and words full of happiness. Xue Tao felt that he had finally found a lover who could be entrusted with him for the rest of his life. That year, Yuan Zhen's wife Wei Cong was only seriously ill and had not died yet. Happy times are always short-lived. Three months later, Yuan Zhen was transferred from Sichuan to Luoyang. When they parted, Yuan Zhen looked at Xue Tao, who was in tears, and vowed to tell her that he would pick her up soon once she was settled. After the separation, Yuan Zhen did send a few letters full of longing for Xue Tao, but that was all, and then there was no news at all. The infatuated Xue Tao waited year after year, and had no choice but to turn his constant longing for Yuan Zhen into tearful poems, pouring them out on pink paper that symbolized love, leaving behind a series of heartbreaking and sad songs. of poetry. What is Yuan Zhen doing here? Not only did he continue his concubine, he also fell in love with Liu Caichun, a famous Wuyue actress and well-known female poet who was as famous as Xue Tao. He took her as a concubine and lived with her for seven years. Seven years later, Yuan Zhen, who was in good times, returned to Beijing to take up a post, and immediately abandoned Liu Caichun and disappeared, just like he had done with Xue Tao. The heartbroken Liu Caichun left Yuezhou and disappeared. Xue Tao was completely unaware of what Yuan Zhen had done and was still waiting for Yuan Zhen's return year after year. Until one day, Xue Tao's poem "Husband" was seen by his father Li Deyu (who was the prime minister during the reign of Emperor Wuzong of the Tang Dynasty). Li Deyu, who knew Yuan Zhen well, told Xue Tao truthfully: Yuan Zhen is not the person he is in love with, let alone the person he is in love with. He is not a gentleman who can be entrusted with his life. Soon after, Xue Tao took off his colorful clothes, put on a crane robe and a Taoist crown, and lived in seclusion in an elegant courtyard beside the Jinjiang River and Huanhua Stream. He never married. His shadow can still be vaguely seen in the poems he wrote. In July of the fourth year of Taihe reign of Emperor Wenzong of the Tang Dynasty, 53-year-old Yuan Zhen died suddenly at home. Three years later, 64-year-old Xue Tao died of illness. A tragic love that started in turmoil and ended in abandonment finally came to an end. Xun Can's love for Cao Jiao was a habit deep in his bones. It was the feeling that you hurt me even more. The same is true for Xue Tao's love for Yuan Zhen. So why is Xuncan called the “Sage of Love” through the ages, while Yuan Zhen is called the “Scumbag” through the ages? I think this is because love is mutual and one needs to know how to be grateful. Xun Can Can loves Cao Jiao, and what Cao Jiao gives back to Xun Can is the tenderness between you and me; Xue Tao loves Yuan Zhen, but what Yuan Zhen gives to Xue Tao is a heart-breaking knife. Throughout his life, Yuan Zhen has never truly loved. What a woman loves most is herself. This is the biggest difference between Yuan Zhen and Xun Can. In today's society, love is often no match for the pressure of a house, a car, children and the expense of daily necessities. When you are tired and exhausted. , when you feel that love is dead, read "Die Lianhua·Hard work is the most pity for the moon in the sky" by Nalan Xingde, a poet from the Qing Dynasty. Xun Can stands naked in the wind and snow. Why do we not believe in and stick to our love?
Perhaps, the person accompanying us is the reincarnated Xun Can!