Bi Shumin's prose often contains metaphorical techniques. Similes, metaphors, metonyms, and irony are used in the prose, and similes are the main ones, making the article lively, interesting, and popular. Next, I will bring you Bi Shumin’s classic prose, I hope it will be helpful to you. Bi Shumin's classic prose 1
Nowadays, almost all couples under middle age have one child, and their love for each other has probably reached the highest level in China's history. Family love is like an apple. If there are more sisters and brothers, it will be divided into several parts. If there is one seedling in a thousand acres, the child will be unique in the universe of his parents.
Does a child who is immersed in unprecedented love get value for money and feel great happiness? I asked curiously. The children curled their lips and said, "No, I don't think anyone loves us."
I was shocked and said calmly, "Look, mom is so busy at work and has to wash and cook for you, and dad is working outside to earn money to support the family. How difficult it is! How much they love you...
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The child said indifferently, what the hell! Who asked them to be parents? They can’t do it in vain, they should. This will happen to me when I become a parent. Is this love? Love is too common!
I was shocked. A child who does not know how to love is like a fish that cannot breathe. If it leaves the family water tank, in a dry society, it will not love others or love itself, and will surely die of thirst.
However, how do you let the child who has been raised by you know what love is? When he receives the first ray of light from his eyes, he is already surrounded by meticulous care and has already been caring and considerate. Turn a blind eye. There is a rule in biology that when a certain substance is too strong, the senses are quickly dulled and paralyzed.
If love is positioned as care, as the child grows older and the care for him gradually decreases, the child will complain about the decline of love. The simple proposition "love is care" has led many adults and children into misunderstandings.
A sudden drop of frost can also make people feel happy, such as when parents divorce or die young. But the by-product of its catastrophe is a coldness that cannot be overcome by the power of heaven and man. Although the children understand what it means to be loved during the reminiscences, it is a classroom that normal people would not want to enter.
When a child is born into the world, he should receive the milk of love with one hand and spread the rain of love with the other. Love is a balanced account book. It's a pity that from the beginning, the adults poured all their love reserves into the child's head and stuffed the child's hand too full. It's all income, no expenses, love is settling, accumulating, turning from magic to decay, but it makes children unable to feel that others love you?
I asked a group of children again, what about you? When do you feel that others love you?
I didn’t expect to get a decent answer. How much can a child understand about a question that adults debate endlessly? For example, if you ask a woman in love when she feels loved by her boyfriend, the answer will be bizarre.
Unexpectedly, the child’s answer was clear and firm.
I am helping my mother buy vinegar. When she saw that I didn't fill the bottle or spill the vinegar, she said that my daughter could help my mother with work... I was very happy. From that moment on, I knew that she loved me. said the girl with curly braids.
My dad came back from get off work, and I poured him a glass of water, because I just learned a song in kindergarten, and the lyrics said to pour water for my mother, but my mother hasn’t come back yet. I poured it for my dad first. My dad only said one sentence, "Good son..." and he burst into tears. From that time on, I knew he loved me. said the bald boy.
I put a flower on my grandma’s ear. If it had been anyone else, she wouldn’t have let it go and would have pulled it off right away. But I inserted it, and she always carried it with her. When she saw people, she would say, "Look, this is my grandson dressing me up... I know she loves me..." another girl said.
I was greatly surprised. I was surprised by the trivial nature of these things and the child's ironclad logic. I was even more moved by the solemnity in their discussions and the firmness of their conclusions. Loving and being loved are highly simplified and unified. Children feel the meaning of a young life when they are needed by others. When adults notice and emphasize this value, they feel deep love. When they try to give, they understand what acceptance is. Love is a vast and smooth echo wall. The tiny love echoes and refracts repeatedly, turning into a huge roar. When the love given is solemnly accepted and treasured, the child finally feels strongly the dignity and sanctity of being loved.
A child who is numbed by too much love and cannot spare his left hand has to use his right hand to complete the dual tasks of giving and understanding love.
Parents in the world, if you love your child, you must let him start loving you and the people around him from the moment he is able to do so. This is by no means selfishness of adults, but the foresight of thinking for the whole life of children. Don't complain that children are born without love. To love and be loved is the ability to cultivate people over time. Just like walking, it takes repeated practice before you can move like flying.
If a child is soaked in boundless love until his mouth turns white, depriving him of his ability to perceive love early, and raising a loving imbecile, even if it is not a huge mistake, it is still an adult's right. Those who abuse it may be punished by God.
If you understand being loved in love, you will have a double harvest.
As the child grows up, a young man who loves himself, the world, mankind and nature is ready to burst out. Bi Shumin's classic prose 2
An ancient Korean book tells a short story.
A Prime Minister named Huang Xi was on a visit incognito. He passed by a farmland and sat down to rest. He saw a farmer plowing the land with two cows, so he asked the farmer, which of your two cows is more popular? ?The farmer looked at him without saying a word. When the fields were plowed and the cows grazed aside, the farmer leaned into Huang Xi's ear and whispered softly, "Let me tell you, the cow next to it is better." Huang Xi was very surprised and asked, "Why do you speak in such a low voice?" The farmer replied, although cows are animals, their hearts are the same as humans. If I loudly say that this cow is not good, they can tell from my eyes, gestures and voice that I commented that the cow is not good enough despite trying its best, and I will feel very sad... < /p>
From this, I think of people, children, and youth.
No matter how smart the cow is, it will not be more sensitive and intelligent than a fully developed person, even a slightly sensible child. Compared with the farmer who is considerate about the psychology of cows, as adults, leaders and people with the right to judge others in the world, do we often neglect to comfort the soul at the moment of praise or criticism?
Parents often think that children have no or lack of self-esteem. Randomly yelling at them and nagging them for minor offenses. No matter what the occasion is or who is present, he only cares about speaking happily and does not care whether the little child can bear it. Thinking that it is just good medicine, no matter how bitter it is, the child should swallow it without changing his face or heartbeat. The more painful the child is, the more impressed he is with this education, and the more effective it can be to draw inferences from one example to other cases.
The only thing that can restrain people from repeating the same mistakes is introspective self-esteem and self-control. Its essence is a kind of cherishing oneself and respecting others, and abiding by and obeying the public laws of society. If a child has lost his dignity due to endless psychological torture since he was a child, no matter how professional his future education is, it will be difficult to make up for the darkness and incompleteness of his psychology, and a huge crisis will lurk in his personality.
People often think that only criticism requires attention to the occasion. If it is praise, it is appropriate at any time and under any circumstances. This is also a misunderstanding.
Criticism is like ice water, and praise is like hot compress. The temperatures are different, but they are both ways to heal wounds and pain. Criticism can often wake us up, refresh us, reflect deeply on our own mistakes, and inspire us to move forward. Praise is like a warm and pleasant bath, which makes people feel refreshed, high-spirited and full of enthusiasm.
However, if it is criticism and praise in public, in addition to lashing and encouraging the direct target, it will also involve the reactions of others who are listening at the same time. Not to mention that the common strategies used by leaders are often like this: criticism of an individual is generally criticism of everyone, and praise of one person is a silent spur to most people. As for parents, if you mention other people's children's behavior in front of your own children, no matter whether you criticize or praise them, even the most naive children will know that it is a drunkard's insinuation.
Criticism and praise are always double-edged swords. Used well, it is extremely sharp, cutting out a clear path, and using it, we can move forward quickly. If used improperly, you may injure yourself and others, resulting in strings of dripping blood.
I think that for children, there is no need to stick too much to any part of their talent, whether it is praise or criticism. Just like the beauty of roses and the weakness of grass, there is a strong and irresistible providence contained in them. No matter how hard an individual tries, the degree of change will not be very large, or even useless at all. The roses will never turn green, and the grass will never be fragrant.
The same goes for people. We have many innate qualities and everyone is different. For example, appearance, height, strength, IQ... In this category, there is no need to praise or criticize too much. Praising how beautiful this child is and how smart that child is not only does not help others learn in a targeted manner and turn other people’s strengths into their own, it will actually breed resentment in the child who is not praised, and make the child who is not praised become full of resentment. Praise breeds inexplicable superiority. The same goes for criticism. They ridicule this child for being stupid and that child for being stupid. They cannot choose to change their brains or nerves. They will only become pessimistic and dejected and perhaps give up on themselves from then on. If other children gain the advantage of looking down upon others for no reason through this kind of criticism, they may become complacent and relax their efforts.
The main territory of criticism and praise should be the scope and depth that human power can reach. They are a yardstick for evaluating attitudes rather than a spectroscope for identifying talent. We can criticize children for their laziness but not their intelligence. We can praise a girl for washing her handkerchief cleanly, but it is not appropriate to praise her for her noble clothing. We can criticize cowardice and incompetence for running away from battle, but we should not insinuate congenital illness and frailty. We can praise the strength and agility that have been trained, but we don’t have to pay too much attention to the tallness and might that are inherited...
Improper criticism and praise are like ice water that is too cold and steam that is too hot. Wreaking havoc on our psyches. A child's skin and mind are more delicate and delicate.
Their ability to repair themselves is not strong enough. If the damage is too deep, it will leave traces that will be difficult to recover for life. They will suffer from pain every time it rains. The scars left behind infringe upon the splendor and beauty of life.
A farmer in the mountains has such a sincere heart for his cattle.
People are more sensitive than cows, so whether it is praise or criticism, let us learn to listen to it and say it softly...