Author: Bi Shumin
We have been used to living in reminders since childhood. At the first sign of trouble, my mother said, don't forget to put on more clothes. Just met a friend, my father said, be careful that he is a liar. You achieved a little success, but you didn't laugh. All the people who care about you say together, don't be proud! When you are immersed in joy, you keep saying to yourself, "Don't be too happy, maybe suffering will come soon …" We are used to living with reminders. Visible fear and invisible fear always hover overhead like crows.
In the bright moon night, the reminder will come out and say to you: pay attention to the storm. So regardless of the bright moonlight, we made all the preparations before the storm warning in a hurry. When our eyes are wide open, the storm is like a sheep coming back late, and I don't know where to wander. When we really can't stand waiting for disaster, we even maliciously hope that the storm will come early.
The storm finally came slowly. We were disappointed to find that most of the preparations were useless. After all, the risks that can be resisted in advance are limited, but the unpredictable disasters in the world are infinite. Overcoming the disaster depends more on the step at the door, and the previous anxiety can't help.
When the tail of the storm finally went away, we held a messy home. Before we could breathe, a new reminder sounded intelligently, and we began to look forward to the future in fear.
There are always disasters in life. In fact, most people have learned to be calm about disasters, but we have not learned to be happy between disasters. We pay too much attention to the awareness of suffering and ignore the reminder of happiness. Please pay attention to happiness from now on! Does happiness also need to be reminded?
Think of falling ... think of slippery roads ... think of being cheated ... remember honor and disgrace ... The sages reminded us 100 1 times, but did not remind us of happiness.
Maybe they think that happiness can't run away without reminding. Maybe they think you will cherish good things instead of exhorting them. Maybe they value blood and fire too much and think happiness is not worth mentioning. They always stand on the cliff and tell us how to escape the future suffering. But what is the time after avoiding pain?
That is happiness!
Learn to enjoy happiness and be reminded when happiness comes. People can naturally learn the pleasure of the senses, but people can't naturally master the rhythm of happiness. The pleasure of the soul and the comfort of the organs are like twin brothers, sometimes interdependent and sometimes diametrically opposed.
Happiness is the vibration of the mind. It needs constant training, just like an ear that can only listen to music.
In short, happiness is a moment without pain. It doesn't appear as often as we thought.
People often just pick up the golden mane on the ground and say, I've seen it before, after the happy golden carriage has sailed away.
People like to recall the specimens of happiness, but ignore the moment when happiness is covered with dew and emits fragrance. At that time, we were often in a hurry, looking back and thinking about what we were busy with.
Some people predict typhoons, locusts, plagues and earthquakes. No one predicts happiness. In fact, happiness, like everything else in the world, has its signs.
Happiness is often hazy, it will bring us moderate rain. Don't always hope for vigorous happiness, it just comes quietly. Don't try to turn up the tap, or your happiness will soon be lost. But you need to use a peaceful heart to quietly understand the true meaning of happiness.
Happiness is mostly simple. It won't flash red light at high altitude like a signal flare. It is wrapped in its natural coat, warmly wrapping us.
Happiness doesn't like noise and glitz, and often comes in gloom. A poor cake, a soul mate's troubled eyes, a father's rough touch, a girlfriend's warm note … these are all happiness that thousands of dollars can't buy. Like a ruby on an old silk, it is more and more dazzling in desolation.
Happiness sometimes plays jokes on us and comes in disguise. Opportunity, friendship, success, reunion ...
They are all similar to happiness, but they are not the same as happiness. Happiness will borrow their dresses, wave by wave, get closer, lift the veil and realize that it has a steel core. Happiness is sometimes short-lived, and it will not cover the sky like suffering. If the suffering and happiness of life are divided at the two ends of the scale, the suffering is enormous, and happiness may be just a small ore. But the pointer must be tilted to the side of happiness, because there is gold of life there.
Happiness has a trapezoidal cross-section, which can be expanded or reduced, depending on whether you cherish it or not.
We should be alert to happiness and enjoy every minute of happiness enthusiastically. According to the research of scientists, the result of intentional attention is much better than that of unintentional attention.
When spring comes, we should say to ourselves, it's spring! My heart will be green.
When we are happy, we should say to ourselves, please remember this moment! Happiness will accompany us for a long time. Then we will be happier!
Therefore, in the harvest season, don't think about the possible disaster year, we still have a long winter to think about. We will dance and sing with our friends to express our joy. Now that the seed has repaid the sweat, we have the right to immerse ourselves in happiness. Never mind the future wind, frost, rain and snow, let's grind wheat into flour and bake a delicious bread first.
So, when we meet from the ends of the earth, please don't hesitate to leave after a while. In the long years to come, there will be countless lonely nights to taste sadness alone. Now every minute, let it burn into a happy light blue flame like pure alcohol, leaving no residue. Let's raise our glasses and say: We are happy.
Therefore, when we are waiting at the knees of our elderly parents, you should have the courage to say to yourself: I am very happy, even if their temples are gray, even if they are old. Because heaven and earth are impermanent, one day you will lose them and regret this moment infinitely.