"In life, we need three consciousnesses, which are nothing more than knowing ourselves, exercising ourselves and voluntarily transforming ourselves."
Come to think of it, it's true.
Many people have been confused all their lives, unable to find the direction of life, and have been marking time.
But some people have a clear understanding of themselves, are good at discovering their own shortcomings, constantly improve themselves, and move towards success step by step.
The fundamental reason is self-knowledge, self-control, self-sufficiency and self-healing.
0 1 insight
"The real greatness of a person is that he can realize his own smallness."
Indeed, a person can truly recognize himself only if he does not deceive himself and frankly faces his shortcomings.
Recently, the hit TV series "Dear Children" became a dark horse and won the first rating.
Actor Ren Suxi Su Yan appeared in the camera, which truly explained the anxiety during pregnancy and the pain of childbirth. Exquisite acting has won unanimous praise from the audience.
She knew that she came from a non-professional class, insisted on honing her acting skills, carefully pondered the personality characteristics of the characters, kept learning, and gradually accumulated experience, thus forming her own performance style.
The media commented that Ren Suxi's role was confident, relaxed and self-aware.
This is because Ren Suxi has a clear understanding of himself.
She said, "I know what's wrong with me, and I will improve." I'm not afraid of being killed, as long as I don't commit suicide, no one can kill me. "
On one occasion, director Chen Kexin of "Chinese Partner" invited Ren Suxi to participate in the film, but Ren Suxi declined.
It turned out that after the audition, Ren Suxi found that the role was far from his life, and he was worried that he could not interpret the role well. No matter how Chen explained and persuaded, Ren Suxi refused, saying, "I only play the role that I can be responsible for, and I refused everything else."
It is Ren Suxi's clear understanding of his acting skills and positioning, as well as his painstaking study of each role, that will make him go further and further on the road of acting, and excellent films will continue.
Those who know others are wise, those who know themselves are clear, and those who know themselves are expensive.
A self-aware person will remain calm, neither complacent nor self-deprecating when facing other people's comments.
Do what you can and live a transparent and comfortable life.
In the rest of your life, I wish you to know yourself, be strong, and live sober and strong.
02 automatic control
Hear a word:
People are most comfortable, comfortable and happy when they can control themselves.
The older you get, the more temptations you face. Only those who have real self-control can stand the temptation.
People with self-control tend to achieve their goals better and gain a stronger sense of satisfaction and happiness.
Recently, it was shown in Liu Genghong. From 70-year-old grandmothers to children of several years old, they are all dancing the shuttlecock kicking in Liu Genghong's own Compendium of Materia Medica.
His popularity is more inevitable than sudden, and all this is inseparable from his strong self-control.
Liu Genghong, 49, has been healthy for more than 30 years.
He kept exercising for decades. Sometimes I am busy at work and it is inconvenient to go to the gym, so I will use things around me to help me exercise.
After having children, there is less time for exercise, so Liu Genghong created the "negative baby fitness method" to exercise with children.
During the epidemic, most of the stars basked in food, basked in life and filmed jokes at home, but he took netizens to exercise through live broadcast, five days a week.
In Liu Genghong's view, fitness can not only manage your body, but also improve your self-control.
He strictly controlled his diet, exercise, work and rest, and for decades, he developed strong self-control.
I agree with one sentence:
The gap between people is not IQ, but self-control.
The strong are not born strong, and the strong can become strong because they can resist all kinds of temptations of life and overcome their own desires with self-control.
Only by integrating self-control into life and becoming a habit can we precipitate the best appearance.
The rest of my life is precious. May you and I have self-control, bring our own highlights and live beautifully.
self-sufficiency
The ancients said:
Seek an inch inward, and an inch more wisdom. Put out one foot, and put out another foot.
Looking forward to changes in the outside world is just asking for trouble. Really smart people know how to fill their hearts.
Ye Jiaying, an expert in classical literature research, has been wandering around all his life. Facing the ups and downs of life, Mr. Ye Jiaying used poetry to resolve the setbacks of life, enriched his spiritual world with classical poetry, and resisted the storms of the real world.
When he first went to Vancouver for cultural exchange, Mr. Ye Jiaying faced many difficulties: he left his hometown, he could not speak the language of Vancouver, and his housework was heavy, so it was very difficult to translate China's classical poems into foreign languages. ...
But even in such a difficult situation, Mr Ye Jiaying remained relaxed.
In the dead of night, I sat at my desk alone, consulting materials, translating ancient poems and preparing lesson plans.
After the closure of the Harvard Yanjing Library, she still stayed inside and worked alone.
After returning to China, Mr. Ye Jiaying lived a simple life, enjoyed the company of classical poetry, and completed many masterpieces handed down from generation to generation, which opened the door for modern people to understand classical poetry.
Lin Qingxuan, a writer, is right in saying:
Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory. Always thinking about one or two, not thinking about eight or nine, everything goes well.
Seize the wishful thinking and forget the unsatisfactory eight or nine.
Everyone has different wonderful things. Cherish what you have and appreciate what you meet.
People are always happy when they are satisfied.
Happiness lies in contentment.
04 self-healing
In life, we often encounter all kinds of thorny problems, and it is inevitable that there will be moments of collapse.
There is no real empathy in this world, and everyone's pain can only be smoothed by themselves.
Jung, a famous psychologist, once said: "For ordinary people, the most important lesson in life is to learn to accept yourself, and only you are your savior."
Jung's childhood was lonely, his mother was mentally ill, his parents quarreled constantly, and his personality became sensitive and fragile.
When he grew up, Jung began to read a lot of books about philosophy and psychology, studied his dreams in various periods, constantly explored inward and reflected on his growth experience.
As an adult, due to the disagreement of academic thoughts, parting ways with Freud, and the misfortune of childhood, these pressures led to Jung's very bad mental state and long-term bewilderment.
Facing these sufferings, Jung insisted on reading a lot, writing a healing diary every day and analyzing himself. Pick up childhood games, practice yoga, travel and heal your soul.
It was Jung's powerful self-healing ability that finally freed him from being lost and became the founder of analytical psychology and a great psychologist.
Like a sentence very much:
Life is not always staring at sad things, but stepping out with your head held high and heading for the sunrise.
Indeed, no matter how uncomfortable it is, I still want to live.
As an adult, everyone will collapse and recover.
When a person has a strong self-healing ability, he will become a strong man in life and he will move forward all the way.
I have heard a saying: "the value of a person lies in himself."
Consciously have self-knowledge, only at the key intersection of life can we make the right choice;
Knowing self-control and controlling excessive desire can control your life;
Fast and self-sufficient, no matter whether the days are good or bad, accept them frankly;
Learn to heal yourself, even if you are in a trough, you can pull yourself out without fear.
In this world, there are some things we can't change, but we can change ourselves.
May you and I have self-knowledge, self-control, self-control and self-healing, be strong in life, put on armor, not be afraid of challenges, fight harder and harder, and strive forward.
About the author: Zheng Xiaoying &; Four-leaf clover, warm heart, hidden and vulgar.