If interpersonal communication is not your strength
You may not realize it, but you already have interpersonal skills and you use them every day, both at school and at home. . You embody people skills every time you work, talk, and learn with others (and you probably can't find a day when you don't do these things)! Even if you're shy and quiet, or you feel uncomfortable being around strangers, you have underlying people skills. Maybe you just need to perform and become familiar with the techniques so you can feel more confident using them.
And you can also help improve your interpersonal skills by using your best or strongest talents.
There are several ways to do this:
If you have a talent for words: Share your words and ideas with others. Writing a speech for a class presentation or debating an event you support is one way to get started. Writing a play or skit and having someone else perform it is another way to do it. A further step would be to make cartoons and movies with friends. Borrow a video camera or use a computer program to make your story come alive. Start a writing group with friends or classmates to share and critique each other's stories and poems.
If you have musical talent: join (or start) a choir or band and experience the joy of creating music with everyone. Schools, community centers, and churches are all great places to find music groups. Share your favorite music with friends and family and ask them to let you share their favorites. Go to a concert with others - including high school or college band performances, concerts in the park, or even the occasional concert organized by the library.
If you have logical thinking skills: Join or start a math discussion or study group, find some books about brain teasers, riddles or mazes, and solve them with friends, classmates or family. Make logic puzzles and have others solve them, discuss their (or your) solutions, and conduct science experiments with friends.
If you have a graphic talent: Find ways to make art with others. Group projects like painting a wall painting, making a collage, making a sculpture or moving sculpture, using your computer to create cartoons and movies are all great ways to create with friends. Share your love of art with others by teaching them how to sketch, paint, or make ceramics. You can also study various types of art and people by attending art classes in your community.
If you have physical coordination: Join a sports team or participate in an activity. You can also join an athletes group or association to make friends while learning a new sport. Find a workout buddy and enjoy conversation while running, biking, or dancing. Find activities you can play with friends, such as hide-and-seek, swimming, and practicing juggling together. Your social skills and physical fitness will improve at the same time!
If you have self-awareness talents: Think about what you like to do most - reading, singing, painting, sports, etc. Then, think about how to get the group to do this activity. Sharing your interests with others is a great way to proactively make new friends.
If you are particularly good at interpersonal communication
Perhaps you are full of love for others, but your current group activities and the help you provide to others make you feel unsatisfied. You are in luck! You'll also find new ways to express your interpersonal talents more fully.
If you get along with just about everyone, you can have some fun ways to share your interpersonal experiences. For example, you can participate in peer moderation activities to promote cooperation and rapport between people. If you think an issue is important, don't just talk about it; you should take action. Like calling on others to get involved and contribute to it. If you like organizing friends to participate in meaningful activities, try your organizing skills on a larger scale—at school, a community center, or a parish. Your interpersonal skills have limitless potential.
Improve your language skills: Check your vocabulary and spelling with friends and family. Discuss the books you're reading with friends, family, and classmates. You can even start a reading group to have in-depth discussions about books. Practice your reading skills by reading a play (especially aloud with a friend) and analyzing each character's actions and causes.
Improve your musicianship: Enjoy music and share feelings with friends and family. Discuss what types of music they like and why. Volunteer with a local arts organization and take the opportunity to learn about more musical genres—classical, opera, musical theater, and more.
Improve your logical thinking skills: play math games with friends. Find puzzles and riddles for everyone to solve as a group. Start a math or science research group. Ask your friends questions about math and science phenomena, and then have them question you.
Improve your graphics skills: Join a friend in an art class at school or a community center. Meet new people in an art class and practice art together outside of class, or do group activities like painting a wall painting. Offer to paint a portrait of a friend. Start a craft guild and get people together. Guilds should sell their handicrafts to raise funds for worthy causes.
Improve physical coordination: Learn new activities that you can do with others. Take a dance or martial arts class, or join the intramural volleyball team. Walk, run and bike with friends. If you are a member of a sports team, pay attention to how the captain and coach use people skills to get the best out of you and other players.
Improve self-understanding of talents: List what you think are your best interpersonal skills and the areas that need improvement. Use this list to develop three goals for improving areas of weakness. For example, you may feel that you are good at making friends and getting along with others, but would like to improve your leadership skills. Your three goals may be similar to the following: (1) Find a mentor to help me improve my leadership skills. (2) Check to see if my school, Boy Scouts, or community youth association offers activities that would help me improve my leadership skills. (3) Find opportunities to practice leadership skills - organize people to participate in volunteer activities and participate in student union elections.
Boost your natural talents: Join an environmental cause you really care about. It might be saving sea otters or protecting local wetlands so migratory birds have a place to stop over. You can raise environmental awareness through advocacy, get people to sign petitions, or organize others. You can learn a lot by working with other environmentalists.