Text: An Zhi
One night, a fan sent me a message backstage, which contained only one sentence:
"I want to Is it realistic for a wife and her lover to live together peacefully?"
It can be seen that the speaker should be a man.
My first reaction at that time was to say to him angrily: "Friend, are you here to scold me?"
If in reality, faced with such incorrect views, If you ask this question, I might just swear and tell him to get out.
"My wife really agreed to have a peaceful relationship with my girlfriend, and the three of us will live together." The girlfriend he was talking about was his lover.
I was stunned and continued to listen to him.
I thought it was a boring discussion about male supremacy, but I didn’t expect that the story he told me later made me extremely happy.
Don’t be impatient, listen to him slowly. The following content is compiled by me based on the chat records between the two of us. Of course, he is mainly talking.
Let me first talk about my situation.
I am 36 years old. I have opened several small factories in a third-tier city. I can be considered a small boss. Although I am not as rich as anyone, I can still earn an income of millions every year easily. .
I am from a single-parent family. I lost my father when I was just born. It was my mother who raised me. My mother's financial ability is limited, and I have little interest in studying, so I didn't graduate from junior high school. I went out to work when I was only a teenager, and I have worked hard with my own hands until today.
My current wife was born in the same year as me. Let me call her Juan, because there is a Juan character in her name.
Juan and I met when we were 22 years old. We were working in the same factory at that time. I had a good impression of her. She was quite unique, able to endure hardships and was motivated, and she was not like other female workers. Love to care about small immediate interests. Later, I took the initiative to chat with her and chased her. After that, we got married, and we have been together till now.
In the second year of marriage, Juan gave birth to a daughter for me. We also wanted to have another son, but Juan’s health was broken due to dystocia, and it was a pity that she could not have any more children in the future.
Our family's career has achieved today's success, and Youjuan's contribution is part of it. I admit this, and this is why I can't bear to abandon her so easily.
Due to the nature of my job, I have access to many opportunities for romantic encounters, and in our circle, other small bosses who run factories will basically have a girlfriend outside, for no reason. Just for fun and to save face, some hide it from the family, and some wives don’t care at all even if they know about it. This is already the default unspoken rule.
In the more than ten years since I got married, I have encountered a lot of emotional temptations, introduced by clients, introduced by friends, and encountered in life. There are all kinds of temptations, but I have them all. They refused one by one until Yanzi appeared.
I met her at a friend’s cocktail party. When I first saw her, I didn’t know why, but she felt very familiar, as if I had seen her before somewhere, so I asked her for it out of nowhere. WeChat.
Later I figured out that the familiarity was due to the unique temperament she exuded, which was very similar to the temperament Juan had when she was 22 years old. It just so happened that Yanzi was also 22 years old.
Juan and I have not had a very good married life in the past few years. We are both busy with work and worrying about our children, but the relationship between husband and wife has become weaker and weaker, and we see each other less and less. There are fewer words, and there is a lack of effective exchanges and communication. Sometimes, if necessary, you can go a whole day without saying a word.
This was not the case when Juan and I first met at the age of 22. At that time, we had endless things to talk about every day, and we could be happy about all kinds of little things every day. She understood me very well, and she knew what I was thinking even if I didn't say anything. I also understood her very well and knew all her little thoughts.
But now, she is preoccupied with her children and various relationships with relatives and friends, and most of the time she is too lazy to talk to me. It is like there is a layer of veil between us that cannot be torn off, and I always see her vaguely. It's blurry, I can't see clearly, I can't guess, and I'm too lazy to guess.
As we get older, I feel like we are both getting more and more lonely.
I saw a sentence written by someone else on the Internet, which said, When you are in the dark, and someone is walking towards you from a distance holding a torch, you especially want to catch her.
Yanzi is the one walking towards me holding a torch.
I won’t go into details about the process. In short, I got to know Yanzi for about a month, and we got together.
It’s the same as when I first met her. Yanzi is very much like Juan when she was 22 years old. She understands me, is considerate of me, cares about my life and work, and greets me. All of this is good. It makes up for my current emotional void.
Other people around me were looking for girlfriends just for fun, but I was fascinated by Yanzi and I really liked her.
I thought Yanzi would ask me to divorce and be with her, or something stupid, but she didn't. She understood me very well, and recognized Juan's contribution to our family.
Yanzi told me that she didn’t care about her status, she just wanted to be with me. For this reason, I felt more and more that she was worthy of my love.
However, the good times did not last long. After we were together for more than two months, Juan still found out.
Although she was very angry, she was very rational. She did not cry or make trouble, nor make the matter a big deal. She interviewed me alone and asked me to give her an explanation.
I am in a dilemma between my wife who loves each other and my true love that I finally met.
After seeing me hesitating for a long time, she said directly: "Then I won't beat around the bush with you. I'll make my attitude clear to you: you send her away, and you can pay her as much as you want. I don't Concern. Live your life well and my daughter and I can forgive you. You can think about it for a while. I won’t force you. You must explain these things to me within a week."
Finished. She just left.
It is impossible for me to abandon Juan and my daughter, divorce and be with Yanzi, but the thought of ruthlessly abandoning such an innocent little girl makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and I cannot make any decision at all. I couldn't come up with any results for a day or two.
At this moment, Yanzi suddenly told me something happily: she was pregnant.
Although I was hesitant at first, I still tended to break up with Yanzi and live a good life with Juan. After all, we have been married for more than ten years. Even if we put aside the relationship, all kinds of complicated social relationships are also complicated. It was very difficult for me to make the decision to divorce.
But the news of Yanzi's pregnancy completely changed my mind. I couldn't give up on her like this, especially when she was pregnant with my child.
After thinking about it, I decided to have a good chat with Juan and discuss it.
I proposed that Juan accept Yanzi, and the three of us could live together peacefully.
At first, Juan decisively refused.
I think this request is not too much. First of all, China has had a tradition of three wives and four concubines since ancient times, and we are facing such a complicated situation now, and we should not stick to any single-minded emotional rules; secondly, Among my friends, someone did this, and his wife really accepted it, and even lived in the same villa with the mistress; moreover, Yanzi and Juan were very similar when they were young (not in terms of appearance), and what I was looking for in Yanzi was Juan's Shadow, I still love Juan; finally, my mother really wants a son, and if Yanzi gives birth to a son, she will definitely be very happy.
I told Juan all the points I had considered, but she didn’t say anything in the end, which was considered acquiescence.
Then, my mother and I had a showdown about the matter. Instead of being angry, she was very happy and said she wanted to meet Yanzi and hope to have a grandson soon.
Our family lives in a villa area. The house is very big. I originally bought a separate house outside to accommodate Yanzi. Later, at the suggestion of my mother, I let Yanzi move in for convenience. Pregnancy and care.
I thought Juan would be unhappy, but she didn’t mind at all. Together with my mother, she happily shared her pregnancy experience with Yanzi every day and helped take care of her diet and daily life.
I felt at the time that this kind of life was simply the pinnacle of life.
After nine months, Yanzi successfully gave birth to a child, a boy. My mother was so happy that she excitedly told me over and over again that we were having a baby.
Just when I was about to enjoy such a happy life, a man who claimed to be Yanzi's boyfriend found me.
As soon as we met, the man knelt down and begged me, saying that he was Yanzi’s boyfriend and Yanzi’s child was his, and that he asked me to return Yanzi and his child to him.
I was shocked when I heard the news, but I didn’t believe it at all, so I asked my assistant to chase him away.
Yanzi was not there at the time, but Juan was nearby. After driving the person away, she gave me advice: "I would rather believe it than believe it. Why don't we be more discerning and do a paternity test?" Make sure you don’t raise a child for someone else?”
I believe Yanzi in my heart, but there is no malice in Juan’s tone of voice, and after almost a year of living in harmony, I have completely trusted her. Accept Yanzi.
I didn’t want to offend Juan, and at the same time, in order to eliminate the rift, I hoped that through this paternity test, Yanzi could completely settle down at home, so I nodded in agreement.
It turned out that it was better not to check, but after checking, I found out that Yanzi’s child was really not mine!
I was so angry that I asked Yanzi about the paternity test. My mother was even more angry and slapped her in the face. I wanted to stop her, but I didn’t because she thought she had deceived me. It's so miserable, just fight.
But no matter how we questioned him or presented any evidence, Yanzi refused to admit it and insisted that the child must be mine.
Two days later, the man came again and claimed that he wanted to take Yanzi away. Yanzi was unwilling and refused to leave. Later, I asked someone to carry her out.
I gave her a sum of money as a breakup fee, but she didn’t ask for it. She tried her best to come to me every day and explained to me over and over again that the child must be mine and that the hospital must have made a mistake.
I avoided her at first, but then more and more times, I ignored her and walked straight past her, no matter how much she cried, I was indifferent.
Her mental endurance was already relatively poor, but after enduring this for more than a month, she went crazy.
At this moment, Juan came to me with a child in her arms and told me the truth.
When the fan’s story reached this point, the pause became very long. After about half an hour, I couldn’t help but ask him: “What is the truth?”
After a while, he typed slowly: "Once this woman gets ruthless, she is really crazy."
I sent him a question mark.
"The child Yanzi gave birth to was indeed my child, but when he was just born, the child was arranged to be transferred in the hospital. The man who came over was not Yanzi's boyfriend at all, but someone else. The person behind all this is Juan. I exclaimed: "Your life is so exciting!"
"Juan is not willing at all." I accepted Yanzi, but Yanzi was pregnant and my mother wanted a boy. She knew she couldn't stop me, so she pretended to agree and endured the humiliation for a year, planning this conspiracy. She just wanted me to drive Yanzi to a dead end with my own hands. , She has always been wronged, she couldn't bear the torture, and finally went crazy."
I nodded and motioned for him to continue.
"Actually, Juan has been secretly looking for someone to raise the child. Originally, she didn't want to tell me the truth so quickly. She even wanted to wait until the child was older before telling me, which would make me regret it, but Yanzi said Crazy, she felt there was no need to hide anymore, so she told me everything. I understand Juan, but Yanzi is innocent, she is only 23 years old!”
“But she is really doing things to destroy other people’s families. . ” I reminded.
"That's right. That's all, I can't protect myself now, and I don't have time to sympathize with her anymore."
I asked curiously: "Can't protect myself? Aren't all the children still alive? If I give it to you, the worst I can do is divorce you. How can I say that I can’t protect myself?”
“She has been working hard for so long. Do you really think she will be satisfied just by driving a wild goose crazy? It’s driving me crazy.”
After saying that, he sent me a photo, which was a survey sheet. It seemed that his company was suspected of tax evasion or something. I asked, “What is this?” "
"This is Juan's last revenge on me. Juan has always been in charge of the company's accounts. I have opened about five factories, most of which are in her name except one. In my name, these factories have never been clean in terms of taxation, but Juan has been arranging the processing, so nothing happened. In the past year, I didn't pay attention, and she quietly put the names of those factories in my name. The accounts were messed up, and I sent an anonymous letter to the tax bureau to report it, so I will probably face jail time."
I thought about it and said, "Aren't you a couple? She did this. , I can’t escape the relationship, right?”
“It’s not that simple,” he sent a helpless emoticon and continued, “She gave my son back a month ago. She gave it to me and then divorced me. She didn’t want any of my property, but the factory that was in her name. I didn’t think much of it at the time, and wanted to give her more to compensate, after all. My daughter followed her, but she didn't want it.
As a result, just a month later, she reported me, and the tax bureau also went to her place to check. All the accounts were clean, but The amount of the problem in my account amounts to millions."
I thought about it and said, "Although I really don't want to add insult to injury, I think you really deserve it."
He sighed and said: "Yeah, so I don't blame her. We have been married for more than ten years. I am sorry for her, and I admit it.
I'm going to jail soon. Even when a man is about to die, he always speaks kindly. I'm telling you this today not to gain sympathy, but because I want you to tell my story and warn all male compatriots about treating their wives. Good point, don't use those crooked brains.
I have lived for more than thirty years, and only now do I understand that a woman is gentle to you because she loves you. If you make her anxious and violent, you can never imagine that she will How heartless. ”
The chat that day only ended here. I don’t know what happened next. He didn’t look for me again, and I didn’t reply to the message I sent him.
Let the first wife I have heard such remarks about having a peaceful sex with a mistress before, but this is the first time I have heard of being taught such a bitter lesson in the end.
Men, wake up. , There is no room for third parties in the emotional world. Don't be as naive as a child at a certain age. We are all adults.
Never overestimate a woman's tolerance for you. Don't underestimate a woman's love for you and the resulting hatred.
There is no reason for others to be lenient to you when you make yourself a mess.
Women, wake up. , don’t think that you can live a peaceful life just by being a young woman. Like the wife of the protagonist’s friend in the article, she swallows her husband’s affair with a mistress and ignores it, and in the end there will probably be no good fruits.
This is a law of the jungle. In this world, when others love you, they like you, but when others don’t want you, your cuteness is the reason for others to bully you.
Find ways to make yourself stronger, so that when facing bullying, you will be strong. You have the ability to say "NO" to the other party in your own way.
You can not do evil, but you should not be too kind.
-THE END. -
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