Now the importance of early reading is self-evident, but how to stimulate children's interest in reading and how to correct some common problems in early reading, I think we can use parent-child reading to solve a series of problems.
When a child is reading, her reading posture is always varied. When I lead my children to read independently, there are always children who will bring books to their eyes and chat with the children around them while reading. How children read while reading is also a problem. Most children in small classes browse a book in three minutes. Some children read the book upside down, some children read it from the back cover, and some children read the book for too long, which is not good for their eyes. Children often don't know what kind of books to choose. They usually choose animated books with bright covers or hot sales in the market. These are some problems I observed when I got up early to read books.
I have tried to read collectively about these problems. This method can solve the problem of children choosing books. I found that I have led my children to read the stories of books, and children especially like to read them when they are reading independently. But other phenomena have not been corrected. So I tried the method of parent-child reading for individual children. Leading him through the pages and reading with his fingers, I found that the child seemed to like this model very much. When I read to one child, other children flocked to me. When I spoke, they responded.
The purpose of parent-child reading is also to make children like reading as soon as possible, and parents and children can also enhance their feelings. Parents can let their children start reading independently early to expand their knowledge. Parents can pay attention to the size of reading and the distance between eyes and hands when leading their children to read, so that children can develop good habits from an early age. Parents and children share, communicate and discuss their own life experiences with each other, and get ideas and experiences from them. Let parent-child reading drive morning reading, which is a good family education and a ladder of progress!
Reflections on Parents' Reading Niels's Goose Riding Journey
In a blink of an eye, my child is already a fourth-grade primary school student in the city.
To be honest, I didn't value children's reading before. I always thought that children only need to recite new words and phrases, texts and texts. But through attending the parent-teacher conference, the principal and teachers talked about the importance of reading in children's learning, especially the importance of parent-child reading in children's learning, which made me feel that my idea was wrong. In terms of educating children, I am actually a student, and I should also learn from teachers seriously.
This time, I was lucky enough to participate in the parent-child reading activities held by the city primary school. I feel that this is a rare opportunity for our father and son to recharge.
On Sunday, my son and I came to Xinhua Bookstore happily. My son chose a young version of Niels's Goose Riding Journey for us. The writer is selma lagerlf of Sweden. The story mainly tells that Niels, a little boy, is very naughty, has no interest in reading, loves playing pranks and bullying small animals. Because he plays tricks on elves, he turns him into a thumb-sized villain and can communicate with animals. Just then, a flock of geese flew through the air, and Morton, a male goose at home, wanted to fly with the geese. Niels clung to the neck of the goose to prevent it from flying away, but he was lifted up by the goose and began to travel with the clever goose Aka and the goose. Their destination is the northernmost Lapland province.
During this strange trip, Niels gained a lot of knowledge, helped and made many friends, experienced all kinds of difficulties and obstacles, and learned many advantages from other animals, which made him an excellent character who was brave in self-sacrifice and helpful. Back home, he not only recovered his original appearance, but also became a brave, kind, responsible and hardworking child.
After reading this book, my son said to me, "Dad, if I can understand animal language, I can also ride on the back of a goose for a thrilling and interesting trip!" " "I smiled and said," this is just a fairy tale, but who is your favorite character in the story? "
The son said, "Niels, also known as wild goose and male goose."
"Why?"
"Because they are loyal, caring and share weal and woe."
"Then who do you like least?"
"Fox Smith, because he is cunning and greedy, always wants to hurt Niels and those geese."
I smiled happily. The child is still young and has some shortcomings, but after reading the article, you can distinguish between good and evil, beauty and ugliness. Isn't this a very happy thing? We often come to Xinhua Bookstore when we have time.
Parent-child activity "rolling tires"
On the second day of the sports meeting, we participated in the parent-child activity of "rolling tires". My mother is at the starting line and I am at the other end under the guidance of the teacher. The rule of the game is that my mother rolls the tires to our side and then we roll them back.
Before the game started, my mother always told me not to look at others, but to be quick, so as to win the first place. While we were playing, my mother quickly rolled the tire to my side, and I quickly rolled back with the tire. My mother also cheered for me, and I tried to move forward. After the game, I said to my mother, "Mom, I didn't look at anyone else." Mom: The baby is great today! Not being the first is not the most important thing, but the happiness of parent-child cooperation is the most important and irreplaceable.
How about dealing with disobedient babies in different ways?
Children aged two or three always seem to be disobedient. Many basic principles in daily life, such as eating well and sleeping well ... No matter how many times you whisper or say it seriously, they always refuse to listen, which often annoys many parents.
Careful observation shows that it is not that children are disobedient, but that parents will not say what children can understand. Children of this age have a certain ability to understand and accept, but this potential ability can only be activated and fully exerted through the way of speaking suitable for their age characteristics. So, what should parents say to make two or three-year-old children obey?
With the help of familiar physical or animated images in children's lives
Two-or three-year-old children have no independent judgment ability, and can't make corresponding behavioral responses directly according to their parents' yes, no, yes, no, yes, no, should and shouldn't. However, if we regard all kinds of objects and images they like or dislike as "external forces", we can encourage or stop their behavior, because these images are full of their pure and profound emotions. For example, children like black cat sheriff, white crane aunt and woodpecker doctor, hate caterpillars, flies and mosquitoes, and are afraid of wolves, bears and hedgehogs. According to children's emotional tendency, consciously and often using these images to communicate with them can further strengthen children's emotional and behavioral responses to these images. If you don't like to cover the quilt when sleeping in winter, dad said, "It's getting dark, and the children are going to sleep. Mosquitoes will buzz and say,' Gee, I'm so hungry. Go and find something to eat for the children. Winter, winter, you cover yourself with a quilt, and mosquitoes bite badly. Ouch! What is this? It's not delicious at all, and it crooked my teeth. Find a good place to take another bite. "Dongdong listened to, obediently covered the quilt. Since then, whenever I sleep, as long as my mother says, "Mosquitoes are out looking for food again," I will take the initiative to cover the winter quilt.
With the help of stories with children as the "protagonist"
Dong Dong, who is almost 3 years old, is particularly attached to his mother. My mother cries when she is not around, but my aunt in kindergarten and the nanny at home can't coax her. One day, my mother wanted to make up a story for Dongdong and received unexpected results.
The story goes like this: "There was a child whose mother gave him a nice name, Dongdong. However, the child changed his name to a foot follower, and his nickname was bug. Because he always follows his mother's ass like a bug. When he arrived at kindergarten, his classmates asked him,' You must be a bug classmate.' Dongdong thought: the names of the children in the class are very nice, and the name bug is so ugly. I will never cry again when my mother is away. As a result, the child has become a good winter for his mother. "Love to tell stories is a child's nature. In their minds, the fictional plot is also real life, and they are convinced of the content of the story. Especially when turning him into the protagonist in the story, pay special attention to his performance. If everyone is satisfied with the performance of the protagonist, he will be happy and like it, reflecting the protagonist's behavior tendency in real life; If you are not satisfied with the performance of the protagonist, you will be disgusted or afraid and avoid the protagonist's behavior tendency in real life. This way of speaking has great flexibility and effectiveness in the application process.
With the help of "authoritative figures" in children's minds
Two or three-year-old children often express this meaning to you in an unquestionable tone: you are not doing it right, and our teacher says you should do it. In other words, the attitude and behavior of people close to children will effectively guide children's behavior. We might as well call such people "authoritative figures" in children's minds. However, children's attitude towards authoritative figures has a characteristic: when they are with you, they may not listen to you, but a third party who is not at the scene may be regarded as an authority. For example, at home, kindergarten teachers may become authorities. In kindergarten, parents may become authorities. It is often clever to use these amiable and respectable people to guide children's behavior. For example, after bathing in winter, winter and summer, she wouldn't let her mother put talcum powder on her body. Her mother said to him, "When the baby takes a bath, it will feel very comfortable to apply this powder, and it will never grow that annoying red bean again." Look, your skin is as white as snow, how lovely it is. Teacher Shen in kindergarten will be happy to know. " Because the teacher will be very happy to know, the "ideological work" will be done soon.
Encourage with interesting activities.
As the saying goes: children love to grab food, which is true. A child may not eat well. When several children eat together, they will compete for it. Is the food delicious? Not necessarily. The reason is that this is not just a meal, but also a small game. Children generally love activities, and the fun, competitiveness and motivation of activities have magical attraction to them. We can consciously design children's lives into various activities and guide children's behavior through activities. For example, a little soldier can wear pants by himself before he is 3 years old. Seeing the little soldier put on his trousers, his mother clapped her hands and said, "The little soldier is really capable", which aroused his desire to learn to wear shoes and wash his hands. In fact, children's sense of honor is even stronger than that of adults, but it is simple, simple and rarely utilitarian. Think about the weight of a small red flower made of paper in children's hearts, so there is no doubt that spiritual rewards have a great incentive effect on guiding children's behavior.
Practice has proved that as long as our parents change their way of speaking, closely combine the principles of guiding their children's various behaviors with their familiar images, stories, characters and activities, and patiently inspire and urge them, they will find that your child is a very obedient and lovely boy.
When children can't follow their parents' instructions, they should pay attention to:
● Parents inspire in various ways, but children still don't respond to instructions. Parents should pay attention to observe whether their children's intellectual development and acceptance ability are backward, so as to find out in time and intervene in treatment in time.
● Some children often rush to do it before listening to their parents' requirements, so there is a deviation.
● I can understand my parents' instructions without any problems in my intellectual development, but I just don't want to do what my parents ask. It is very likely that the child is not interested in what his parents say and is unwilling to do it on purpose.
Childlike heart-happy reading
Kangyue parents
My daughter Doudou is in a small class. As a mother, I can't always do my duty because of my work. Not only can I not pick up and drop off my children normally, but I rarely attend occasional parent-teacher meetings and garden activities, and the time spent with my daughter is even less. My daughter has always been afraid of me more than intimacy, probably because she spent too little time with her, didn't know her very well, and was more powerful than liking her.
After organizing a picture book drifting activity in kindergarten this year, I signed up my daughter. After getting the picture book, my daughter was very happy. As soon as I got off work that day, she took my hand and asked me to tell her the story in the book. Usually there is little time to tell stories with her, mainly because the stories in books are long, and it takes a long time to tell them once, and a book often has many stories. After one speech, Doudou pestered me to talk about the next one, and all the time was consumed in one night. So telling her stories and reading with her is one of my biggest headaches. I have a headache at the sight of my daughter bringing books, but this day my daughter said to me, "Mom, you have worked hard today. Let me tell you a story. " When my eyes lit up, the sun came out in the west? Today, my daughter was very good and told me a story that helped me. I'm surprised. Although I didn't believe it, I accepted her suggestion happily. So, Doudou opened this picture book named "Rose Hen Going for a Walk", and then looked at the picture and told the story of "Rose Hen Going for a Walk". There is only one sentence on each page of the picture. The first sentence is that the rose hen goes for a walk, the second sentence is that she walks through the yard, and the third sentence is that she walks through the pond, then she walks through the mill, the haystack, the fence, the hive, and finally returns to the nest. There are only eight sentences in one sentence, but the picture shows a fox following the hen Rose to catch chickens again and again, and Doudou looks at it after failing again and again. When she sees the fox fail, she will say, "That's stupid." When she sees the fox knock down the hive, she will say, "The fox is in trouble." When she sees Rose the hen coming home, she will say, "Rose came home safely." Rose hen goes for a walk Every Monday, Doudou takes back a new picture book from the class teacher. When she gets home, she will read it herself or ask an adult to explain the words in the book, then read it herself and say it herself. She added many stories in the picture book by observing the contents of the picture book by herself.
Now my daughter Doudou is still pestering me to tell stories, but more often she tells me stories, and her automatic ability is constantly improving. Now even some complicated stories, such as three little pigs, gecko borrowing its tail, seven-color flowers and so on, can be told to me by myself. It is my happiest thing to watch my daughter grow up and make progress day by day. Picture books bring happiness to our family.
Although parents force their children to learn a foreign language with good intentions, it may backfire.
With foreign languages playing an increasingly important role in people's lives, many parents in China have been cultivating their children since childhood: making plans to learn foreign languages at the age of zero, sending their children to bilingual kindergartens, and teaching them "father" and "mother" since they can speak "father" and "mother" ... In short, parents try their best to create an environment for their children to learn foreign languages, but they don't know that their original intention is good.
American kindergartens don't teach foreign languages
According to the reporter, American kindergartens generally don't teach children to speak foreign languages. They think it is incredible that such a young child learns a second language. Teacher Barbara, a kindergarten teacher in downtown Hagerston, New Jersey, told the reporter that English is the official language of the kindergarten and the education children receive is also conducted in English.
Because children have different family backgrounds, kindergartens do not object to children going home to speak their mother tongue, but in most cases kindergartens only teach English, starting with letters. Barbara said that children's intellectual development has a process. The child's pronunciation organs are still immature, and the pronunciation is still in a relatively naive and unclear stage. Although they are very imitative and easy to accept new knowledge, it is ok to learn a pure foreign language. If they are wrong, they can't change it in the future, which is not conducive to foreign language learning in the future.
The parents of Zhang Duoduo, a Chinese child in kindergarten, also said that American children generally learn foreign languages from their teens. American parents don't have the idea of "wanting their children to succeed" like people in China. They generally believe that as long as children grow up happily and healthily, learning foreign languages can proceed slowly.
A multilingual environment may make children "dumb"
In addition, premature exposure to foreign languages can easily make children suffer from aphasia or autism. According to the statistics of the US Centers for Disease Control, the incidence of autism among children in the United States has increased by 10 times compared with the 1980s, and 1 person in every 300 children suffers from the disease. One of the important factors is that they live in a multilingual cultural environment and suffer from autism because they don't adapt to this complicated language environment.
Ms Li, who lives in Manhattan, is a Cantonese-speaking Hong Kong immigrant. Her nanny is a Wuhan native who speaks dialects, and her husband is a northerner who speaks Mandarin. The cartoons on TV are pure American English. I don't know when their children became less and less talkative in such a language environment. Later, they simply didn't say anything, but bowed their heads and played with toys all day and became dumb. I thought it would get better after a while, but who thought that it was still difficult to speak and refused to go to school when I was 6 years old this year? Diagnosed by medical experts, in the chaotic language environment, the child was at a loss and suffered from severe childhood autism.
Luo Hanzhong, an official of the New York State Department of Education, recently said that almost every parent thinks that their children are the smartest children in the world, but in fact, each child's situation is different, so in
Education should also take into account that it varies from person to person. Even 1-2-year-old "gifted children" with strong expressive ability, parents should not force them to learn a foreign language prematurely.
Children should have a real bilingual environment when learning a foreign language. Linguists point out that mother tongue learning ability can be transferred to a second or even a third different language. As long as the guidance is proper and there is an authentic language environment, there will be no interference. Like Chinese Americans, they can communicate fluently in Chinese and English, because families provide Chinese environment, and schools and society provide English environment.
Zhang Duoduo's parents told reporters that many immigrants from China value the influence of traditional culture and worry that their children will become "Huang Xiangjiao". So they have been speaking Chinese at home and more, and more received English education in kindergarten. As a result of long-term persistence, Duoduo is not only fluent in English, but also has no problem communicating with his parents in Chinese. Parents of other children in kindergarten are envious when they see that many of them are bilingual and can perform and recite Tang poems on stage. Some Italian-born parents said regretfully, "I knew we had taught our children Italian since childhood, but now our children can only speak English." If we don't accommodate him, he won't communicate with us, and it's too late to change. " But if there is no such authentic bilingual environment, parents should let nature take its course.
I grew up with my children in the world of stories.
Because my son speaks late, in order to cultivate children's ability to speak and communicate, I often use The Story of Jessica Hester Hsuan to help my son review the activities of the day, and my son really listens to it as a story. The last story before going to bed every night is The Story of Jessica Hester Hsuan. Because the hero of the story is himself, and the story is about himself, he often listens carefully and looks at me with big round eyes without blinking. While I help my children review their day's life, I praise what my son did well, such as being polite and loving labor. I also tell my children what he did badly, such as not losing his temper. I hope.
If the above is "the story of the original Jessica Hester Hsuan", there is also a "story of Jessica Hester Hsuan in a fake version", which is also my son's favorite.
There is a story of "wolf coming" at home. One night, my son suddenly said, Mom, tell me the story of Xuanxuan herding sheep!
So I turned the free-range children into Jessica Hester Hsuan, the lambs into lazy goats, pleasant goats and beautiful goats, and the big bad wolves into big bad wolves and red taro. When my son first heard me tell the story of Shanzhai, his expression was simply too rich, especially in the end, "Hong Tailang and Big Big Wolf jumped on Jessica Hester Hsuan to eat Jessica Hester Hsuan". At that time, his son was particularly nervous and his eyes were wide open. That cute look made me laugh. Finally, I asked my son, "Jessica Hester Hsuan, do you still dare to lie?" My son looked at me and shook his head in fear: "I dare not, I dare not."
After that day, our "shanzhai story" was out of control. We "cottage" tadpoles looking for their mothers, Pinocchio's story, kittens fishing and so on.
The world in which children grow up is a world composed of many stories. Before going to bed every night, I share the story of growing up with my son. One story after another helps children take a step forward in a way that is close to their lives and perspectives.
As a mother, when I told the story of "Wolf", I was given not only the truth that "I can't lie", but also "Why does this child lie again and again?"
Xuanxuan's bedtime stories, each of which contains an educational story, are the education of children's life path and how to be a parent.
I grew up with my children in the world of stories.