Everyone likes prosperity, and a gentleman likes adversity.
Mr. Jiang Yang once wrote a passage:
"It's hard to look back when dark clouds cover the sky, but what remains indelible in my memory is Phnom Penh with light and heat."
Looking back on Jiang Yang's life, it is full of ups and downs.
But she always keeps a calm heart to accept all the experiences.
From her experience, perhaps we will understand that there is no satisfactory life in this world, only an optimistic self.
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There is a saying: Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory.
People's life will inevitably have some unlucky moments and some tragic experiences.
An open-minded person, no matter how many difficulties there are, is not easy to be depressed; No matter how much trouble you are in, you are not easy to be sentimental.
Since 1966, Jiang Yang has entered a long period of low tide.
At that time, she was criticized and shaved half her hair.
But she was not bothered by this "yin-yang head", but had a brainwave. She went home and made a beautiful wig with big braid cut by her daughter Qian Yuan, and put it on her head and went out generously.
Even she joked that when I was a child, I envied my brother to shave his head and wash his face, which would make me shave off at least half of my head, and envy would come true sooner or later.
At that time, she was ordered to make a "ghost" sign and wear it on her chest, but she still didn't feel down and out.
Instead, he skillfully wrote his charges in the labor book and quoted a famous saying in Alice in Wonderland: "The weirder it is, the weirder it is."
She was almost sixty years old when she was sent to the cadre school to grow vegetables.
However, when she is in charge of the vegetable garden during the day, she will take time off and use this time to sit on a pony and use her knees as a writing desk to read or write.
At that time, the companion who was sent down with Jiang Yang recalled: "You can't see her sadness or grief. She always smiles and says that the biggest education for me during this period is to blend in with the masses."
It was in this difficult period that Jiang Yang completed the translation of Don Quixote in eight volumes.
There is a saying in Caigen Tan: "Everyone is happy in prosperity, and everyone is happy in adversity."
What can really crush a person is often not a bad experience, but a bad mentality.
Chewing on the hardships in life will only make you more and more unbearable.
Always with an optimistic heart, laugh at the ups and downs of life, no matter how difficult it is, you can find a little sweetness and sadness, and you can also find a happy place.
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There is a passage in The Analects of Confucius.
Zi Gong asked Confucius: Is there a word that can be used for lifelong pursuit?
Confucius said that is "forgiveness".
Many times, in the face of others' slander and injury, we often want to fight back or retaliate.
However, a truly cultivated person can not only let go of grievances in adversity, but also let bygones be bygones and help others, one step at a time.
Jiang Yang once had a colleague named Ji Yuanzhang.
He took part in the criticism of Jiang Yang, and later he was labeled as a bad element and arrested.
At that time, he was in the countryside, his father was lying in a hospital bed, and his helpless wife lived on his salary every month. After he fell, life at home was unsustainable.
After Jiang Yang knew, instead of gloating, he chose to forgive, and even insisted on sending some money from his meager salary home every month to help him tide over the difficulties.
Because she is always willing to believe that Jiyuan Zhang may not have intentionally hurt herself, but was forced by the situation at that time.
At the same time, she doesn't want to keep such hatred in her heart, embarrass others and torture herself.
Think of Professor Chen Guo of Fudan University once said:
"If you can keep an open mind, a self-restraint and a grace when you are most frustrated, down and out, and most incomprehensible, this is the real effort to really see your cultivation."
Living in the sea, in the ebb and flow, it is inevitable to form so-called hatred and resentment with others.
But letting go in time is an atmosphere, and ferrying others is a pattern.
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There used to be a saying: "Sometimes, we have to be strong, so in pretending to be strong, we are really getting stronger and stronger."
We used to think that there were many insurmountable obstacles in life.
But slowly you will find:
The bitterness you have eaten and the pain you have tasted will eventually make you learn to bear it.
The injuries you have suffered and the tears you have shed will eventually make you strong.
1997, Jiang Yang's daughter Qian Yuan died of illness.
Soon after, her husband Qian Zhongshu also died.
Since then, she has completely become a lonely old man.
At that time, a lady visited her and didn't speak at the door. Seeing Jiang Yang alone, she couldn't help feeling sad and took Jiang Yang's hand and began to cry.
Jiang Yang, 88, in turn, comforted her:
"You are four years younger than Qian Yuan, silly boy, I survived, are you still so sad?
You don't understand. If I walk before my daughter and Zhong write, think about it. Can Qian Yuan and Zhong Shu stand it?
So, this is not a bad thing. Deep thinking, let me carry the burden of pain. Isn't that a good thing? "
Suffering can crush a person, but not a strong heart.
From then on 18, Jiang Yang lived a simple life, staying at home almost every day to sort out the manuscript of her husband Qian Zhongshu.
She said humorously:
"I have many things to do now. I am the only one who has done so many things. I'm a family member now.
This "home" is a family's "home", not a "beauty". I have no descendants. If I don't do it, no one can. "
Perhaps Jiang Yang suffered enough pain and suffering in his heart to be so open-minded and free-spirited.
As long as she is alive, she will do her part and shine again.
Seneca, a thinker, once said, "Why should we cry for the fragments of life? Our life has made people cry. "
In this life, there are many powerless moments.
I don't know when to leave, when to die and when to come.
But nothing is impossible.
A person's pattern is often gradually propped up in a lot of pain.
Mr Jiang Yang once said:
"Everyone will have extremely difficult times, the pressure of life, the frustration of work, the pressure of study, and the fear of falling in love.
If you survive, your life will be suddenly enlightened; You won't succeed. Time will teach you how to shake their hands, so don't be afraid. "
There are many roads in life, just to go further.
Keep an optimistic heart:
In the midst of difficulties and misfortunes, open roads on every mountain and bridge bridges when encountering water.
In frustration and pain, we can survive from adversity and cultivate ourselves.
You should always believe that what can't beat you will eventually make you stronger.
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