In an era when the Internet is rampant, how many people want to have an Internet "anti-bar guide". If possible, how many people want to worship an "anti-bar master"
If there is a candidate for this master, the poet Yu Xiuhua must be on the nomination list.
Just recently, Yu Xiuhua was awarded the title of "Keyboard Man's nemesis" and "poetess of combat department", and personally demonstrated how to "hang up" netizens who made trouble at home with superb language skills.
In fact, Yu Xiuhua "can fight" for many years.
As a disabled poetess from the countryside, Yu Xiuhua's fame affects the public's nerves. Five years ago, Yu Xiuhua became famous overnight on the Internet with a poem "Sleeping in Most of China". Later, this shocking poem attracted her overwhelming abuse.
The word "sleeping with you" changes the position of women in sexual relations from passive to active-such a rare direct expression of women's desires is hard to accept for netizens who are used to women's "innocence" and "reserve". Therefore, many people describe Yu Xiuhua's poems as "vulgar" and "lowly", and even name her style "slut style".
Yu Xiuhua responded smartly: "Some people say that my poem is a slut, then I am a slut."
So since her debut, abuse and criticism have been mixed with praise and applause, and mountains and rivers have poured into her life.
But Yu Xiuhua has never accepted the discipline of the Internet world. She still openly expressed her desires, love and hate, refused to "swallow" the harassment extended to her in the network and fought back one by one.
Yu Xiuhua, a "disabled poet", interprets different vivid female images with his rich emotions and sharp words on the Internet dominated by "beautiful" and "not old" female images. Inside and outside the network, Yu Xiuhua is a rebellious "real punk".
A poetess in the warhead: "Only curse the beast, not the beast."
On the internet, public figures have no emotions.
When cyber bullying becomes a common occurrence, when words and deeds are infinitely magnified, public figures have to accept the code of conduct of "self-denial" and "cautious independence", or they can only silently close the comment area and retreat to their own "territory" to achieve "out of sight, out of mind".
In April this year, the poet North Island closed the comment area because of cyber violence.
"Don't talk about length" seems to have become the internet survival criterion of public figures. For foul-smelling personal attacks, we can only constantly upgrade our emotional management skills and forcibly cultivate "open-mindedness" beyond things.
But when we look at Weibo in Yu Xiuhua, we see an ordinary person with rich and changeable emotions, who dares to speak out and loves and hates. For the attacks and abuse of netizens, Yu Xiuhua blasted all the way, never hitting.
She took out the superb writing skills and extremely keen insight of the poetess, and in the repeated contests with Keyboard Man, she brought out the new art of "swearing" and hit the key of "the enemy" with tricks.
First of all, Yu Xiuhua showed his "curse" principle-only curse people who lack humanity. Her goal is clear: "hooligans don't need quality, they just need to be beaten" and "only scold animals and don't swear".
Her reply is always full of innovation, hitting the nail on the head: "The fetal position is not correct after decades of birth", "Since you care about my ex-husband, you have the courage to marry him."
For those outrageous personal attacks, Yu Xiuhua knew that rational dialogue was invalid, but he did not hesitate to use foul language to fight back, which was magnificent.
Some online sprayers are adamant about her physical defects, attacking her "disability", and Yu Xiuhua is also aiming at each other's weaknesses accurately.
Yu Xiuhua is good at using "psychoanalysis" to tear apart the unbearable subconscious of the other party and expose the despicable psychology behind his words in broad daylight.
For the "sword" inserted in her body, she will only fight back with sharper words.
Female public figures often bear the idols of elegance, propriety and modesty, and avoid using any indecent words in the public sphere to avoid criticism. But in the face of indecent, inappropriate or even vicious comments, Yu Xiuhua will respond in the same way, and it is hearty-spraying is inappropriate, why should I be decent?
In recent years, countless public figures, such as Su Li, Kohara Seiji and Miura Haruma, have fallen into depression and committed suicide because of cyber violence. The public demands that public figures have no emotions or can only show positive emotions.
But as a poet with strong senses and rich emotions, Yu Xiuhua obviously refused to castrate his emotions on the Internet. Facing the cyber violence of Keyboard Man, anger is one of her many emotions.
Some people criticized Yu Xiuhua, saying that her swearing was detrimental to the poet's image. Critics believe that poetry, such as Chun Xue, has broken the poet's detached image. But in fact, "elegance" has never been the life of poetry, but emotions and feelings are. Poetry belongs to the art of emotion in essence.
Therefore, writing poetry, like swearing, is an explosion of emotions and intuition in the body and a flow of life emotions. Some critics called her "brilliant".
Yu Xiuhua's anger is not only an outlet of life, but also a kind of self-protection in the face of slander and insult.
16 years ago, Jay Chou sang "My site listens to me" in the song; Today, Yu Xiuhua performed My Weibo Listen to Me in real time.
Who was offended by Yu Xiuhua, who boldly showed his love?
Yu Xiuhua's poems are always about love and desire. Lust is her way of interpreting vitality. In an interview, she said, "I'd rather be an amorous anthomaniac."
Yu Xiuhua has many desires. On Weibo, in her blog, she expressed her passion of staying in various places all the year round.
"There is nothing in life, only love, and the loved ones leave a trace in our hearts." /video screenshot
Her infatuation with Li Jian is well known, and the love poems written to Li Jian are enough to make a series. Compared with specific people, "Li Jian" in Yu Xiuhua's poems is more like a symbol of an ideal lover-as the object of her love. Just like in Weibo, she sometimes uses "Dong Jian" interchangeably as the object of her talk. It doesn't matter who she is infatuated with.
But in many people's subconscious, it seems that the behavior of "actively saying love" can only be related to beautiful women. The public's attitude towards a disabled rural woman can be harsh and unreasonable-"cerebral palsy" and "ugliness" have become the key reasons for netizens to humiliate "Yu Xiuhua for showing love".
They mocked "Yu Xiuhua loves Li Jian" and thought that Yu Xiuhua, a simple rural woman, was not worthy of Li Jian. They also accused Yu Xiuhua of publicly publishing love poems, thus "disturbing Li Jian".
However, in rice circles, it has long been the norm to call your idol "husband" and "wife". In the hearts of fans, idols often play the virtual role of "lovers", so many "girlfriend fans" will strongly oppose idols falling in love.
In contrast, Yu Xiuhua, who has never sent a private letter to Li Jian, or even rarely made blind dates, is very considerate of his idol.
For a long time, public figures rarely express their passion directly. People acquiesce that lust belongs to the private sphere and is not suitable for expression in public space. However, this rule is often more tolerant to men. For example, the writer Li Ao doesn't care about "touching the taboo of lust". He openly expresses his infatuation with women, so don't worry that it will become a "stain" on his career.
In contrast, women tend to be evasive and vague about their desires. Therefore, Yu Xiuhua's direct expression of lust makes many people feel that it is against common sense.
Disability "is another fetter of Yu Xiuhua.
In a report on the sexual rights of disabled people, the author pointed out that "sex and disability seem to be far apart. People often think that disabled people do not have sexual needs like normal people and have no ability to exercise sexual functions at all. To some extent,' asexual love' has even become a moral boundary to suppress the desires of disabled people and regulate their behavior to meet the expectations of social roles. "
Therefore, a disabled woman who freely expresses "love and sex" will be even more unacceptable. Those who are agitated and angered have to judge Yu Xiuhua's words and deeds by "moral boundary".
In an essay entitled "There are yellow poems in the world, and the scenery is endless", Yu Xiuhua exposed the hypocrites who criticized him for writing "yellow poems", and hit the nail on the head-"They think that a woman doesn't care one day, but they won't write in poems because they think poems are pure" and "all pure things are buried under dirt, so there is no truth, so they deceive themselves".
And exuberant lust is the embodiment of a person's subjectivity and vitality.
He Shining, a professor of sexology in Hong Kong, said, "Physical lust is a very important channel to stimulate vitality." But the reality is that the ancient voice of "chastity" still lingers over women's lives. Once a woman becomes the subject of desire, she will probably face a series of humiliation from the whole society if she expresses her love desire.
On the Weibo, some people criticized Yu Xiuhua for "coquetry", "lack of self-respect" and "foul language", and even described her writing as "slutty style".
Yu Xiuhua responded smartly: "Some people say that my poem is a slut, then I am a slut."
Intense headlines, naked and straightforward words, and the established undercurrent of desire that needs to be covered up are all displayed by her without fear.
She wrote in her poem: "Come on, let's go to the back hill and put the spring flowers to shame." Frank and fierce, desire seems to burn everywhere, and the initial impulse of life gushes out from the words.
The real punk Yu Xiuhua: "I am liberating myself"
Yu Xiuhua was born with cerebral palsy due to lack of oxygen, which caused facial muscles to be different from ordinary people, with crooked mouth, unclear speech, wobbly walking and frequent wrestling.
In rural areas, "disability" often makes a person lose his choice, so arranged marriage has become the only "outlet" arranged by Yu Xiuhua's parents.
The person Yu Xiuhua married has no spiritual intersection with her, and she and her husband have never experienced love since they got married for 20 years. For people with extremely rich emotional world, this is tantamount to the greatest torture in life.
Therefore, the desire for love has become an unavoidable motif in her poetry creation.
Apart from escaping from the bitter reality through literature and poetry, Yu Xiuhua's greatest rebellion against fate comes from her long divorce.
At the age when urban women are waiting for their marriage partners, Yu Xiuhua is looking forward to the end of marriage all day.
Yu Xiuhua's road to divorce is arduous and long, and no one around her supports her divorce proposal, including her only dependent parents. What she is fighting against is the marriage concept of "marry a chicken with a chicken and marry a dog with a dog" that pervades the whole rural society.
20 15 years, Yu Xiuhua is 39 years old. After 20 years of marriage, she finally has the ability to negotiate a divorce with her husband. After becoming famous, she saved enough money for her husband's breakup fee.
In the documentary "Interlaced World", Yu Xiuhua touched the red cover of the divorce certificate the moment he got it, and said happily, "As long as you give him money, everything will be easy. I gave him all the money and it was solved!
Later, in her poem, she wrote: "At the age of 36, I landed safely. At least for a while, I am no longer a tightrope walker. "
After the divorce, Yu Xiuhua's lust can fly more freely, and she can sleep with her sweetheart more safely.
For Yu Xiuhua, it took him half a life to escape from the marriage cage. Perhaps because of this, the subsequent slander and abuse can't take anything away from her life. On the contrary, in the saliva, Yu Xiuhua gained self-confidence and domineering.
She said: "I will continue to keep my desire and chastity in spitting."
Yu Xiuhua in her forties, her strength and charm do not come from beauty, wealth, partner or family. Compared with those "young and permanent" sisters on the big screen, Yu Xiuhua has a real "rebellion" in thought and spirit.
She rebelled against the "behavior framework" stipulated by the whole society for women, rural people and disabled people, and she personally rebelled against the rule of society over individual life.
In an era when women's words and deeds need to be "decent", Yu Xiuhua's rudeness, wildness and calm pursuit of desire show the public a powerful woman who lives according to her own wishes.
Punk is bone, not skin. As she said in a speech: "I am liberating myself."
In this sense, Yu Xiuhua is a rebellious "real punk" both inside and outside the network, compared with a punk wearing smoky makeup and a little leather skirt.