There are always some controversial issues between brothers and sisters. If my parents were still here at this time, there would be no contradiction after a little mediation. Even if it's just for the parents' sake, it won't continue to make trouble with brothers and sisters.
What's more, there is a saying that "boiled beans burn beans, and beans cry in the kettle". No matter when, the feeling that blood is thicker than water will not change at all.
Brothers and sisters have often played together since childhood, and nothing can replace and erase this feeling between them.
Of course, with the growth of brothers and sisters and the formation of their own families, the communication between them will be much reduced, but fortunately, their parents are still there, and they will often hold some family gatherings and other activities.
However, if parents leave, brothers and sisters seem to have lost their backbone. Some families have good conditions, while others don't get along well. At this time, it is easy to create barriers because of differences.
From the experience of people who have experienced it, brothers and sisters should not get so close after their parents leave, otherwise it will only bring unnecessary troubles and troubles to life.
After parents leave, brothers and sisters should know how to grasp the scale.
Parents left, although brothers and sisters became the closest relatives, but after all, there is no backbone to mediate the contradictions between them, and carelessness may cause some quarrels and estrangements.
There must be some differences between brothers and sisters, especially family conditions. Frequent communication, if you can't prepare anything, will sting each other's hearts, easily bring a small gap, gradually accumulate some grievances, and more contradictions will break out over time.
After my grandfather died, my parents and my brothers and sisters broke out. The reason is that several families are too close together, and their conditions are very different from each other, which gradually leads to resentment. After all, the more close people are, the less they want others to live better than themselves. Several families have been ignoring each other until now.
The good relationship was originally due to frequent communication, which led to resentment between brothers and sisters. However, whenever problems arise, intractable contradictions may erupt.
When parents are around, there will inevitably be some friction between brothers and sisters, but because of their parents' face, they didn't take it seriously at that time and almost passed.
However, after parents leave, if they still walk frequently, they look like brothers and sisters. In fact, it is easy to turn over old scores, and then no one will suppress each other's dissatisfaction.
Especially in some eccentric families, when parents are kind to their older brothers, younger brothers are prone to resentment. Although it was not obvious at that time, there might still be friction between brothers and sisters after their parents left.
I have to admit that there are many things between brothers and sisters to settle old scores. In addition to parents' partiality, there are also the division of property, the amount of money paid and so on. No matter how you think about it, there will be no result that will satisfy everyone.
Brothers and sisters who live in harmony can't avoid the possibility of settling old scores, not to mention brothers and sisters who have frictions themselves. Only with as little contact as possible can we avoid settling old scores with each other.
In fact, it is good to maintain a harmonious relationship between brothers and sisters, and it is not necessary to rely on frequent contact to maintain this relationship.
Especially after parents leave, it is easy to have the opposite effect. Originally, they just need to take a walk when they have something to do, so that they will not disturb each other's lives too much, and their relationship will be as harmonious as ever, and everything will be in the best state.
However, you just want to break this situation. Sometimes frequent communication is easy to bring bad things. The situation will get out of hand then. Brothers and sisters break up easily, which not only makes them uncomfortable, but also makes outsiders look at jokes.
After you walk too often, you can't avoid money disputes, especially when such a harmonious relationship is suddenly mixed with other impurities, and everything seems to get worse. Then parents can't help you resolve conflicts, they can only watch each other go further and further.
Everything in the world has its own unique human feelings, even between brothers and sisters, but with jealousy and resentment, it is particularly easy to cause the relationship to break down. If the parents are okay, but if the parents have left, it is difficult to go back to the past.
When facing brothers and sisters, we must master the degree of communication. Only by mastering the degree can we gain a sincere affection, a general harmony, and the happiness and well-being of our respective families.