Show love, stop after the ceremony. A gentleman does not bully a darkroom, his own heart and others' hearts. What do you mean?

It is ok to fall in love, but you can't go beyond the boundaries of etiquette, that is, you can't have sex. Stop here is not to stop feelings, but to stop within the scope allowed by etiquette, and you can't do anything beyond etiquette because of love.

As a gentleman, even where no one sees you, you don't do anything shameful. You can't fool your own heart or others.

This sentence comes from the Book of Songs, and it is said that the first article was deleted by Confucius. It describes a young man who can't sleep because he misses a woman. Confucius' student son wrote a biography, saying that' it's all courtesy and righteousness', that is, Confucius advocated' music without lewdness'.

Confucius' evaluation of Guan Ju essentially expressed his view on emotional control, that is, everything should be moderately "neutral beauty", and further study is what the golden mean says: "The golden mean is the most extreme!"

Extended data:

A poem similar to love: Guo Feng Nan Zhou Guan Ju.

Guan Heming's osprey, accompanied by the small continent of the river. A beautiful and virtuous woman is a good spouse of a gentleman.

Mix shepherd's purse and salvage it from left to right. A beautiful and virtuous woman wakes up to pursue her.

If you can't pursue it, the black nightclub misses her during the day. Miss Long, I can't sleep over and over again.

Mix shepherd's purse and choose from left to right. A beautiful and virtuous woman came to her with a couple and a couple.

Pull shepherd's purse from left to right. A beautiful and virtuous woman rings the bell to please her. ?

Vernacular translation

Guan Guan and Ming's pheasant doves are accompanied by small and medium-sized rivers. A beautiful and virtuous woman is really a good spouse of a gentleman.

The ragged shepherd's purse keeps picking from left to right. A beautiful and virtuous woman will never forget when she wakes up.

Good wishes are hard to come true, just wake up and think. I can't sleep without thinking about it.

Pick the ragged shepherd's purse from left to right. Beautiful and virtuous woman, playing the harp and watching, dear.

Uneven shepherd's purse, pulling left and right. Beautiful and virtuous woman, beating gongs and drums to please her. ?

References:

Show love ends with ceremony-Baidu Encyclopedia

Guofeng Nan Zhou Official Gong-Baidu Encyclopedia