Walking between heaven and earth, man is the only animal whose back does not face the sky. He is a little more noble than animals, that is, the spiritual world is good. That is, this fist-sized heart, if placed well, can live a happy life all its life.
Loneliness is not unique to people, but we care too much about our inner feelings. Faced with the current differences between people and me, a wrong concept has been formed, which in turn has produced a negative psychology, accompanied by frustration, "great pressure."
In fact, life is not as bad as we think, nor as good as others say. When the harder you work, the stronger your desire. When loneliness comes, the inner loneliness is unbearable. What should we do?
If you conquer fear, you will conquer loneliness. Don't let negative emotions crawl into your heart and spread wildly, but focus on happy things. Who cares about the value of happiness without loneliness? Enjoying loneliness occasionally is of great benefit to life.
It is a girl. Find someone you can trust and have a good talk with him. It's a boy. (The responsibility is still there.) Just reduce your desire and repair yourself.
In short, overcoming fear is to ignore the "imaginary enemy" in your heart. It is enough to do everything well, so that the outside is bright and beautiful and worthy of being fresh and full inside.
Dispel the dark clouds and see the sky,
The breeze blows gently, and the willows are carefree.
Even if all goes wrong,
Someone is distressed.
People sometimes feel lonely and empty in their daily life. Generally speaking, people who talk about this phenomenon are introverted, and introverted people generally don't like excitement, so they can cultivate reading books of famous sayings, essays and poems and form a habit. Books with good content can increase knowledge, cultivate sentiment, improve people's ideological and moral character, and sometimes practice calligraphy with pen. It's hard to practice when writing. Sometimes you can go into the wild, look at the mountains in the distance, smell the grass in the field, and use fresh air to relieve your chest, which will make people feel refreshed. I am also an introvert. This is my experience when I was young. Generally speaking, people's personality is difficult to completely change, so we can only rely on this to cultivate interest. Can make up for the lack of introversion, I wonder if I can give you some reference.
In fact, the so-called inner loneliness is mainly because you are too inferior and too autistic. You should seldom make friends and like to be alone, right? Want to make friends and worry about others' premeditated and harm to you? So there will be no friends to listen to and no one to talk to. Whenever I encounter some difficulties, I feel that calling every day should not be ineffective, but I will not admit defeat.
I suggest you try to make some friends. Don't worry about being heterosexual or homosexual. Talk to them more about life. You don't need many friends, just two or three, and then go out to travel together and see the outside world.
You will find many beautiful things. Maybe you will try to make money and strive for perfection after your trip. After your life is full, you have no time to be alone.
What should a lonely person do?
1. Admit the existence of loneliness. Loneliness is often confused with failure, and it seems that the label of "failure" is attached to the head of the lonely person. People tend to deny or hide their loneliness. In this way, loneliness will become more intense.
2. Accept loneliness. When we know loneliness, we need to really accept it. We should learn to accept our loneliness. We understand that this is just a normal state of life that everyone will encounter and experience. No big deal. Everyone is the same, I can accept it, and everyone should learn to grow up by themselves.
3. See the sunny side of loneliness. In fact, loneliness is not so terrible. Often we only see one side of it, that is, we are always left out in the cold and ignore the benefits it brings us. In this noisy society, it is difficult to find opportunities to be alone. Everyone has their own things to do every day, and they always seem to be endless, so when you find yourself alone, smile, and we finally have a chance to be alone, haha. Just like when you are in love, you will find freedom when you are single.
4. Enjoy loneliness. When you are alone, it is also the time for you to talk to your heart. You will find that you are constantly talking to your brain, that is, talking to yourself. You can better examine yourself, slowly sort out your recent life state and so on. In addition, you can also concentrate on thinking better about things that have been bothering you.
5. Pay attention to the present. We can only concentrate more when no one bothers us, and when you are lonely, no one bothers us, so focus on the present, do what you are doing seriously, don't entertain foolish ideas, take back all wandering thoughts, base yourself on the present and do it well.
Response. Connect safely again. Social media can't replace face-to-face communication, but talking is better than nothing. A patient found that her loneliness began to change when she signed up for a women's basketball league. "I'm nervous, I can realize it, but I forced myself to do it," she said.
If loneliness is accompanied by anxiety or depression, you need to seek the help of a therapist. Loneliness deepens privacy and distrust. If you find someone other than your acquaintances, you can talk freely. Simple social behavior can make a big difference. So next time, just say hello to your neighbors, sisters who haven't been in touch for a long time, or colleagues who rarely talk, it will be very effective.
Loneliness does not conflict with the company of friends. Loneliness is a kind of subjective consciousness, a kind of psychological state that subjectively rejects contact with others or society. It is not called loneliness, it is just a form of loneliness. For example, even when you are alone with friends, you will show silence or depression that you can't integrate at all.
Loneliness is a compulsory course for everyone. If you complete all the credits and get the meaning of loneliness, you won't be so resistant to loneliness, so tired of loneliness, and you won't escape loneliness. If you don't take enough credits, you will become a lonely patient, immersed in loneliness.
Loneliness often accompanies a person's life. Life is lonely, but staying is lonely. No one will always be bound by two people. Loneliness is always with you. When you learn to understand loneliness and know its inevitable attributes, you are growing.
Loneliness, don't refuse, accept it gladly, and don't refuse to socialize with friends with loneliness as a barrier. Being alone is just growing up. Learn to understand it and you will grow. I think loneliness and the company of friends should coexist. It is not that lonely people no longer need friends, nor that people with friends will not become lonely. Friends and loneliness are like us at different times. Sometimes we like excitement, we are optimistic, sunny and cheerful, and sometimes we like tranquility. We learn to think in loneliness. These two are very important to us, not substitutes.
Loneliness can make us learn to think. In loneliness, we face ourselves, so we enjoy ourselves more. Some people can enjoy loneliness, let themselves grow up in loneliness, become strong, and find themselves without being influenced or changed by other people's remarks. As the British naturalist Heguli said, "The greater and more original people are, the more they like loneliness". Loneliness not only brings negative effects, but also has positive effects on us to some extent. Therefore, we should learn to enjoy loneliness and grow up in loneliness.
Friends are also essential to us. It is friends who accompany us all our lives. Friends bring us joy and help us in times of crisis. Friends are our strongest backing. We should spend more time with our friends, talk to them and walk hand in hand with them for a long time in the next ten or twenty years.
Therefore, it is not advisable to abandon friends for the feeling of loneliness or for the company of friends. In other words, even with friends, we will feel lonely. In fact, loneliness is everywhere. Only by learning to get along with loneliness can we make ourselves better.
Everyone has a certain degree of loneliness, but the degree is different. Why everyone looks good and not lonely at all depends on the way everyone gets along with themselves.
Finally, everyone will gradually get used to loneliness, except for a few times when they are eaten by themselves late at night. As for how to get used to it, everyone has their own way of getting along.
Don't do what others say is useful. Forget it. Everyone is doing it. The most important thing is to listen to your inner voice.
Share with you a passage from Love and Loneliness written by Zhou. If you don't know what to do, just read more books. No matter when, the book will give you the answer.
Well, try to do something that makes you happy, such as, well, going shopping! There is also eating things that you like better and doing things that you have never done before. To please yourself, after all, there are very few people who want to do what they like in their life.
Empty, often with loneliness, loneliness and other words are universal.
You can try it according to the following suggestions;
First, the human heart is self-regulating. Find something you like to do, listen to music you are interested in and read novels you are interested in. If people have something to occupy their minds, they will be enriched and will not feel lonely!
Second, loneliness is actually a kind of beauty. Try to change your mood and you will figure it out!
Third, try to cultivate hobbies. Sometimes when you are busy, you may forget loneliness.