Once in a book, I saw the author tell an example: a father spent a lot of money to send his son to school abroad and entrusted foreign
Once in a book, I saw the author tell an example: a father spent a lot of money to send his son to school abroad and entrusted foreign friends to take care of his children. The child often skips classes and comes to live with friends. Not only does he often criticize food that doesn't suit his taste, but he also doesn't say hello to his host when he enters the door. His room is never tidied, and he also invites his friends to get together at home. The little master's son didn't like it and asked the child why. The child looked upright and said, who asked your family to accept my father's entrustment? Since you accept it, you have an obligation! ? Children even call their owners to complain that their parents are too hard on them and ask them how to find such a family to be friends. The host didn't want to embarrass his friend, so he had to swallow the child. Later, the child was expelled from school because of his bad learning attitude and bad conduct.
Why do children born in wealthy families have the opportunity to receive higher education?
Writer Lao She once wrote:? My real teacher is my mother. My mother can't read What she gave me was the education of life. ? The formation of family style has nothing to do with family wealth or parents' educational level, but with parents' moral cultivation.
As a generation of farmers living in the 1950s and 1960s, my parents are hardworking, industrious and simple, filial to the elderly and live in harmony with their neighbors, although they have not received much education. In the education of the three children, like many parents, they scrimped and saved, creating opportunities for us to learn. Although parents don't have many educational concepts and rules, they tell us how to be a man and how to do things by ourselves.
Home is the first space for growth. Family life style and cultural atmosphere constitute family style. Family style is the ethos, style and vogue of a family, and it is a comprehensive educational force. It is a synthesis of psychological factors such as thoughts, living habits, emotions, attitudes, spirits and tastes. It is a silent education, a silent classic, a silent force, a most basic, direct and frequent education, and a potential invisible force.
French writer Roland once said: Life is not an individual that can grow in isolation. As it grows, it collects flowers and leaves along the way. It is also like a sensitive camera, recording what you see and hear along the way. Every minute and inch of daily life is a fiber that weaves individuality. Everyone's words and deeds in the environment are building materials that are integrated into the growth process, infecting this person's thoughts, feelings and behaviors and affecting this person's attitude towards life. The influence of the environment on a person, in addition to tangible imitation, is more important to intangible shaping. ?
A good family style is not only a family heirloom, but also a family heirloom of the whole society. However, in the education of children, the whole society and parents are often kidnapped by various utilitarian hearts, ignoring the education of family style for themselves and their children. President Zhong Yihua, a primary school affiliated to Xi University of Architecture and Technology, who has worked in the front line of education for a long time, also pointed out that the most terrible thing in current family education is not that children are afraid of their parents, but that parents are afraid of their children, which is putting the cart before the horse.
So how should we create a good room for children to grow up and form a good family style?
First, parents are required to seek spiritual strength from traditional culture. Parents should pay attention to their own learning and the cultivation of cultural quality, especially in the aspect of excellent inheritance? Family style? Only by studying more and studying more, and teaching by example is more important than teaching by example, can we achieve the goal of educating and inheriting children. As the saying goes, what trees you plant will bear fruit; What seeds to sow and what flowers to bloom? For example, the lyrics in The Red Lantern? Children from poor families take charge early? , such as "Saint Amethyst"? Jade is rough, abrasive, ignorant and unreasonable? This includes the relationship between human growth and family environment, family style and family rules. For another example, the excellent qualities of all successful people in today's society are self-reliance, hard work, hard work, kindness, helping others, self-discipline and so on. Excellent family ethics education since childhood? Family style? Be influenced by. Therefore, parents are required to cultivate and carry forward the socialist core values and constantly improve their own quality in order to better educate their children.
Second, parents should change their ideas and turn gifted education into adult education. Professor Tang said: one of the biggest misunderstandings now is to ignore moral education and moral quality education. The basic purpose of a person's education is to turn this person into a real person. Therefore, we should not only educate him in knowledge, but also give him a good education in personality and morality. There is a saying in ancient China? The way of a university lies in virtue, in being close to the people, and in perfection? . The purpose of university education is to make a person a truly upright person, to make him understand the truth of being a man and to make him reach a perfect state. The emphasis is not on knowledge and vocational training. If children want to be successful, they must be adults first. Without good moral quality, no matter how high the professional skills are, they can't play a real role.
Third, the important foundation of a good family style is a United, equal and harmonious family relationship. Abnormal family relations, mutual accusations, complaints and fights make children feel indifferent, cold and hostile, leaving painful scars in their hearts and even affecting their academic performance. Therefore, in order to create a good environment for children's growth, family members should live in harmony, care for each other and love each other. Parents should also be democratic to their children, actively listen to his opinions and negotiate on an equal footing. Family members should pay attention to emotional input and give each other warmth and care. It is necessary to make the family full of joy and interest, adjust the emotions of children and adults, and improve the cohesion of the family, thus forming a comprehensive family education force and promoting the healthy and happy growth of children.
Fourth, the inheritance of family education style should be coordinated with school education. Two-pronged approach, all roads lead to the same goal, family style construction can be implemented. Schools should carry out more cultural activities, ok? Five old people? Comrades go to the campus to promote some? Family style, family rules? Knowledge. On Mother's Day, schools can carry out various forms of gratitude education so that children can learn to be grateful. On the Double Ninth Festival, young reporters will carry out investigation and interview activities, listen to grandparents' stories about the past, learn about the past history, the hard life of elders and the courage to overcome difficulties, so that children can cherish today's beautiful life more, strengthen their determination to cope with difficulties, effectively integrate moral education and excellent family style into their lives, inherit and carry forward the excellent family style, and let children get some good influences in a subtle way. Schools and parents should attach importance to the education of their children, starting from small things and starting from bit by bit, so that children can develop good moral character and practice the Chinese dream with civilized behavior.
We are everyone in the society, and we are the disseminators and founders of a good family style. Therefore, we should all start from ourselves, advocate, build and inherit a harmonious, natural and friendly family style, abandon bad family style, revise our own code of conduct, actively give children a healthy living environment, educate children with actions to establish a correct outlook on life and values, and make efforts to promote the improvement of social atmosphere, the rectification of national customs and the spread of positive energy!
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