Text: Zhu Mingan
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All days, all life, all struggles, all persistence, whether it is happiness or pain , sweet or bitter, it’s all two words: suffering!
Suffering is a necessary experience in life. No matter how brilliant, heroic, and triumphant you were or are now, at a certain period, at a certain stage, at a certain moment, you will experience suffering in your heart. In the past, there are still shortcomings; in the future, there is uneasiness; now, we are facing suffering...
Suffering is everywhere.
Not having enough to eat: Let’s see how we survived the “Three Years of Difficulty Period”
I was born during the Three Years of Difficulty Period. As a result, my thinness when I grew up was all attributed to lack of food. The old man told me that what nourishes you is millet porridge. At that time, adults rarely ate those precious things. Because there is little food, adults often substitute vegetables with melons; millet is not only used, but also like brown sugar in tea, it is a complementary combination.
A small amount of rice, a large amount of wild vegetables, or a large amount of sweet potatoes, or other things that can satisfy your hunger. As long as it is non-toxic, it can be eaten.
My brother, in order to take care of me, tries his best to leave food to me and eat more substitutes. Once, unable to resist the temptation and feeling hungry, he secretly ate some soybean meal.
Soybean meal is a good thing. It is a waste product after soybean oil extraction. It's bright yellow and has a strange fragrance. It's stimulating at first sight and whets your appetite instantly. Although, it is used to fertilize fields or raise livestock. It's absolutely delicious when you're hungry. I couldn't help it, so I ate more.
Unexpectedly, the hunger could not stand, and the intestines suffered in the end - constipation appeared quietly.
Many methods were used to solve constipation: drinking oil, plugging the anus with soap, picking with hands...
The constipation was solved. How painful it is to suffer before the solution! I was unaware of all this at first. Mother later said that in order to help you grow healthy, your brother gave up all the fine food in the house to you. He secretly ate soybean meal and almost suffocated to death...
His mother said that during those three years, we had a large number and variety of wild vegetables and fruits on the Hubei Plain, lotus roots in the water, and water chestnuts. , fish, got over it.
The word "endurance" requires patience, diligence, acceptance, search, support, carrying, mutual help, support and waiting.
Once you get through it, it’s over.
Just like we are waiting for light in the shadows, and we are looking forward to clear skies in the rainstorm. Just get through it and it will pass. If you don't survive that time and collapse, you will never see hope.
I am still deeply moved by my mother’s philosophy. She said that to get through life is to get through it. What should you do if you encounter difficulties? Go through it one section at a time. Day is like a bamboo, we use iron bars to pierce its knots. Section after section, keep doing the same movements, and there will always be a time when you get ahead...
Back then, in order to save money for my sick brother, my mother did government work during the day. Do private work after work: go to the island in the middle of the vast lake to cut thatch. One summer and one autumn, there are more than a dozen thatch stacks. The dealer comes to collect it and exchange it for a small amount of money. My father carried his brother on his back and traveled north and south to seek medical treatment, while my mother raised money and worked day and night. Suffering, relying on perseverance and perseverance, until my brother returned to health. Four or five years ago. Despite enduring the muddy road and faltering steps, they never stopped.
I have always been thinking silently in the midst of suffering, it will be fine and it will pass. My mother's philosophy has influenced almost my entire life. Simple, sincere, and practical, I have always practiced it in my bumpy life.
Being misunderstood: the suffering after passion makes us return to normality
Like a madman. Encountering misunderstandings from friends or relatives is common in this life, and everyone's feelings are an indescribable suffering. A person with a peaceful mind turned into a lunatic: a farmer and a snake, crossing rivers and burning bridges, eating inside and outside, greedy and greedy... grievance, anger, regret, sadness, all kinds of negative emotions are surging.
Negative emotions will destroy your own cognition and frustrate your confidence. Sometimes, you will feel helpless, helpless, anxious, lament the impermanence of life, lose your appetite, and suffer from stagnation of liver qi and even affect your normal life. .
I have experienced it. And, not just once. At that time, I was a madman who almost collapsed.
A lunatic is actually a person who is alienated from the pain, anger and indignation of being wronged after misunderstanding. It's unclear, the way is unclear. Explanation is useless; failure to explain is unacceptable. Annoying! sad!
We can avoid misunderstandings, but we cannot satisfy people's hearts.
We can ignore it, but we cannot have a boundless heart.
The human heart is fragile and cannot bear trauma, just like clear eyes cannot get in with sand. The pain is indescribable, especially when you are misunderstood by your closest relatives, dearest friends, and no one can complain.
How to sue? You were so kind to him, and if you tell others about it, wouldn't it be a slap in the face and a humiliation for yourself?
After the passion, there is endless suffering and endless suffering...
There is a right way, but the reason is not clear! However, arguing, in the early stages of misunderstanding, adds fuel to the fire. Therefore, when you have a clear conscience, just suffer. When you endure it for a certain period of time, maybe those knots will be solved automatically. Instead of saying nothing, why not wait for the flowers to bloom?
I once misunderstood someone. The days of regret lasted for a long time. Finally, with the passage of time, the mediation of friends, and both parties calming down to examine themselves, the differences gradually disappeared.
Of course, when you meet someone who understands, misunderstandings will be cleared up with a little adjustment. When the parties involved in the misunderstanding are not understanding enough and are narrow-minded, the adjustment may last for a long period of time, and may even turn brothers against each other.
In this case, only we ourselves can be more open-minded. Suffering is inevitable!
The reason for offending people is the entanglement of interests. If we have not harmed the interests of the other party, or have no ability to help others and obtain some kind of benefit, there is nothing we can do about it, but to no avail despite our efforts. If you have a clear conscience, the suffering does not have to last indefinitely.
Business failure: How does a man support his family, and when can he take a break?
In the Year of the Gengzi, a new coronavirus epidemic overturned the beautiful homes of many people and destroyed them. The dream of many people. Especially, what kind of suffering does it feel for a man, a man who needs to support his family, to be unemployed, sick, or have a failed business?
I have a friend who is a famous local crayfish farmer.
In the past three years, it has expanded several times and the business is booming. Just last spring, he made a huge profit of 200,000 yuan from selling lobster fry. Due to the expansion and new development in other places, shrimp seedlings became a hot commodity, and for a time, the price skyrocketed.
This year, not only are large and good-quality adult shrimps difficult to ship and prices are low due to the epidemic, but also the prices of shrimp fry that were popular last year have plummeted - three times higher than the normal price before. The price dropped from ten yuan per catty to three yuan per catty. Even, fifty cents a pound. It stunk the street.
Shrimps stink up the street. Want to cry but no tears. Such suffering.
My wife had mild mental illness before and has been stable for many years after treatment. At this time, he was hospitalized due to a recurrence of anxiety.
He felt tortured.
Previously, because of the good returns, he purchased multiple commercial insurances for himself and his family members. A year's fixed expenses cannot be vague, even if there is no income. what to do?
Suffering!
However, he survived.
He told me that I was going to plant a hundred acres of shrimp pond to grow millet. The increase in shrimp production does not increase income, but the price of millet in shrimp fields is good, and if you plant it, you can make up for it. He made a calculation: after excluding the cost of breeding, it can be worth 100,000 yuan; the price of millet is good this year, and based on three yuan per kilogram, it is worth another 150,000 yuan...
Business acumen, plus good business skills Mentality, he properly coped with the sudden changes in his business and family during such a major epidemic, business setbacks, his wife's hospitalization, and subsequent unpredictable hardships.
Picking up my wife from the hospital. After treatment, my wife's sleep improved greatly. He smiled and said to him, "I'm done." Can eat and sleep. I will go back to raise shrimps with you and go to work in the textile factory. The losses in the fields will be repaired in the factories! It's okay!
Yes, the sky will not fall! He kept saying yes, with a naive smile on his face.
It’s not easy! For men, the arrogance in their youth, whether it is to guide the country or rule the roost in a drinking competition, when they reach adulthood, they have a family, a career, a circle, connections, social connections, resources and constant communication, impassioned bravery, and arduous struggle. With a series of life plans...
Who knows, the future life road will be bumpy, full of thorns, or there will be countless traps and pits. If you work hard, you may not necessarily gain something; if you struggle, you may not necessarily succeed; if you endure humiliation and bear the burden, you may not be recognized by others; if you are wronged, no one may patiently listen to you; even if someone listens, they will be absent-minded or even talkative. Sympathy on the surface, ridicule on the inside...
Suffering is inevitable. To live, you have to withstand suffering! ,
Suffering, no matter you are a high-level elite or a commoner at the bottom, you will encounter it. Life, two words: suffering! One word: endure!
About the author: Zhu Mingan, deputy chief physician, member of Hubei Writers Association.