But how many people know that Yu Xia's parents were present at their wedding in 2009 because of Yolanda's insistence.
At that time, only one sentence in Yu Xia's speech was about his father, and the rest were all thanks to his aunt and uncle who raised him, showing how bad the father-son relationship was.
Later, Yu Xia's reconciliation with his parents was mediated by his good wife Yolanda, so that he could live to middle age, honor his parents, reunite with them and really enjoy his family happiness.
What is the gap between Yu Xia and his parents, so that he can cope with 30 years? How is the knot opened?
Yu Xia, male, 1976, from Qingdao, Shandong. My father is a wandering painter who pursues painting art, and my mother is a shop assistant.
When I was 3 years old, my parents divorced because of personality disharmony. Later, my father chose to drift north for the pursuit of painting ideals, and my mother remarried soon. Yu Xia's small custody belongs to his father, who is in his aunt's house.
My aunt and uncle also have a sister who is one and a half years older than him. I thought I would like my children better, but my aunt and uncle love Xia less, and his parents are not around, so all the delicious food is eaten before Xia.
Whenever Yu Xia wants to find his father, his menstruation will hold him gently and say:
"Dad is at work, Aunt, this is your home. I will come to see you when Dad is busy at work."
Uncle menstruation's love has never been the love of his parents. With repeated disappointments, Yu Xia also had a deep estrangement with his father.
Under the care of his uncle and aunt, Yu Xia grew up healthily, with a wide range of interests and likes literature and art.
1993, he got a chance to change his life.
At that time, the film Sunny Days directed by Jiang Wen was looking for a leading actor, and the requirement was to look like him.
As a result, Yu Xia, who looks like Jiang Wen, was taken to the set by his father and won this good opportunity.
Since then, Yu Xia has officially entered the entertainment circle.
Through this film, he became the winner of the Venice Film Festival, the Golden Horse Award in Taiwan Province Province of China and the Singapore International Film Festival.
He has also become a typical peak debut. At that time, he was only 17 years old, which was an important moment to choose his life path. After the movie, he chose the road of acting.
From 65438 to 0995, he was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama to study acting, and at the same time he met Yolanda, the greatest luck and love in his life.
Yolanda was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama with 1996. She is the youngest in Yu Xia. Yolanda was young and beautiful at that time, and she was outstanding even under the beautiful women in the performance class.
On campus, they cooperated in a drama, which made them know each other better in communication, and then naturally fell in love.
Yolanda at that time was also a typical debut. When she was at school, she participated in the film "Spring is bursting" and won the "Hundred Flowers Award for Best Supporting Actress", becoming the youngest judge of the Golden Rooster Award.
The combination of these two people is enviable, golden couple.
Xia Yu is definitely lucky to meet Yolanda.
In 2006 and 2007, Yu Xia and Yolanda fell in love for about 7 years, and their feelings gradually faded.
At this time, Yu Xia had an affair with 800 million fans and Gao Yuanyuan.
The former was photographed kissing. As soon as the news came out, everyone focused on Yolanda. She chose to face her boyfriend Yu Xia together to prove that her feelings have not changed.
At the same time, the hero and heroine of the photo also issued a press release saying that this was taken out of context by the media. There were only two people whispering.
The crisis was solved perfectly with the support of Yolanda.
I thought Yu Xia would be honest with Yolanda after this, but when a boy has it, no matter how considerate you are, you will never be cherished.
Soon, the news that Gao Yuanyuan stayed in Xiajia for two consecutive nights was reported by Zhuo Wei. This time, Yolanda did not come out to tear Yu Xia, but paid tribute to Yu Xia and said to the media: "We broke up for some time."
The implication is that it is normal for Yu Xia to be single or have company now. We don't know what the truth is, but Yolanda is really a good person and is very kind to Xia.
Perhaps after two scandals, Yu Xia finally realized what he had missed. At the end of the same year, Yu Xia and Yolanda were in the same frame again, telling the media and the public that we were together again.
Seeing this, we can only say that Yuan Quan is really a woman of the new era with the bearing and strength of traditional women in China.
This time, reunion is a completely acceptable choice for Yu Xia. Since then, he has never had any gossip.
In 2009, the two decided to hold a wedding.
This wedding once again proved Yolanda's blessing to Xia.
At that time, Yu Xia said that his elders here were uncles and aunts. They are relatives raised by themselves and want to hold a wedding in their witness.
Yolanda understood, but she asked, "Aren't your parents coming? I hope your parents are there. "
It's not that Yolanda has to meet Xia's parents, but in years of communication, she knows that Yu Xia has a knot about her parents in her heart.
As a person who wants to hold hands with Yu Xia for a lifetime, Yolanda doesn't want Yu Xia to have a lifelong knot.
However, yolanda Yu Xia invited his parents to be present. At that time, my father was already a well-known painter, but he lived in Japan for a long time, and his son came back from Japan to attend the wedding.
His mother knew that her son was married and went directly from Qingdao to the scene. She really kept her son in her heart.
At the wedding scene, Yu Xia made a speech and mentioned his father, who was very polite and brushed it off:
"Dad, thank you for giving me life. I wish you a better development in painting. " Turned to mention uncle aunt, he gratefully said a lot of:
"Uncle and aunt, I thank you for your years of parenting. Without you, there would be no me today. In my heart, I have always regarded you as my parents. "
After that, according to the procedure, Yolanda should give the bracelet to Yu Xia's parents to show her respect for her mother-in-law, but Yu Xia asked her to wear it to her menstruation and uncle.
Seeing their son's behavior, Yu Xia's parents said that it was impossible not to feel sad, but they also knew that they owed their children many years ago.
Since then, Yolanda has been working hard to untie Yu Xia's heart and bring her husband and in-laws closer.
In fact, Yu Xia has admiration and filial piety for his parents.
He expressed his filial piety to his aunt and uncle who took care of himself when he grew up.
Every month, Yu Xia will put money into the accounts of his aunt and uncle, just to make the two old people live better.
They can't adapt to the life in big cities, and the summer rain doesn't force them. But to decorate Uncle menstruation's house, install heating, and ensure life.
20 10 learned that menstruation had made a stone, so I drove directly to Qingdao to pick them up and go to Beijing for treatment. It can be seen that the aunt and uncle who are kindly raised want to be filial.
But for his parents, deep down.
On 20 10, Yolanda and her daughter "Xia Haha" were born. When she became a grandmother, Yu Xia's mother soon came to Beijing from Qingdao and lived for more than a month, taking care of Yolanda's confinement, helping with the children and buying many toys and clothes for her granddaughter.
At that time, it was mainly Yolanda who communicated with her mother-in-law. Yu Xia doesn't communicate much with his mother. He doesn't know what to say to his mother who hasn't been together for many years.
When his mother was going back to Qingdao, Yu Xia directly discounted what she bought to her account, which made his mother lose control of her emotions and really felt that her son was alienating himself and still had bad feelings for himself.
At the airport, she cried into tears, which also left Yolanda speechless at the airport.
Yu Xia's father was very happy when he became a grandfather, and immediately gave his granddaughter an expensive bracelet. Yu Xia didn't want to accept it, but Yolanda accepted it to avoid embarrassment.
After his father left, yolanda found Yu Xia drinking alone in his room, which made yolanda very upset: my husband cares about his parents, but he has a knot here.
In the Spring Festival that year, Yu Xia was supposed to go back to Qingdao with his new wife, but this made Yu Xia very upset: according to the truth, he had to take his wife to see his parents first.
My father said that I can leave it in Japan, and my mother is still in Qingdao.
For this troubled Yu Xia, he chose to escape and made no mention of this decision.
But how can Yolanda keep letting Yu Xia escape? She directly to chardonnay said:
"You are a son. Shouldn't I go to see my parents first when I return to Qingdao? "
Yu Xia was speechless and had to take his wife to Qingdao to visit his mother. Although the mother and son are still unfamiliar, they have made great progress.
On the way to menstruation's uncle's house, Yu Xia was emotional and told Yolanda the truth:
"When I was a child, I lived in my aunt's uncle's house and knew that this was not my home. I have been thinking that one day my parents will open the door of my aunt's uncle's house and ask me to take me home. But after so many years, I won't look forward to it. "
Yolanda loves Yu Xia dearly and looks at Yu Xia's small attachment, but he is determined to let him come out and ease the relationship with his parents.
After that, she told her mother-in-law what Yu Xia thought. At this time, her mother-in-law realized that she really owed Yu Xia a lot over the years, and then she took the opportunity to see her granddaughter and gradually paid more attention to her son. Since then, the relationship between Yu Xia and her mother has eased.
In 20 12, when he returned to Beijing to hold an art exhibition, he revealed to his son and daughter-in-law that he wanted to settle in Beijing. Yuan Quanju agreed with both hands and thought it was appropriate.
When Yu Xia's father wanted his son to help him see if there was a suitable house, and Yu Xia didn't take over, yolanda said, "Dad, we'll look for it well and let you know when we find it."
Yu Xia didn't take it to heart, but Yolanda was different. My father-in-law returned to China to settle down, which gave her a good opportunity to dissolve her husband's heart.
After seeing the house in many ways, she chose a small two-bedroom apartment, so in 20 13, Yu Xia's father returned to China and settled in Beijing, often visiting his granddaughter.
For his granddaughter, he always buys some new clothes for his children from time to time, and recites poems with his granddaughter, which is very compatible with his children.
However, Yu Xia has never been able to overcome that hurdle in his heart. He is always polite and respectful to his father.
Sometimes, due to exhibition work, Yu Xia's father will visit his son's family and even want to spend the night at Xia's house.
But Yu Xia always pulls his father's luggage to open a hotel for his father, and his mouth is full of politeness:
"Your granddaughter is young, I'm afraid she will disturb you in the middle of the night. You'd better stay in a hotel. "
Hearing these words, although how much is true, Yu Xia's father was still a little lost.
Yu Xia always keeps his father at arm's length so subconsciously that he doesn't give him a chance to untie the knot.
Fortunately, yolanda was very enthusiastic about her father-in-law's arrival, which gave Yu Xia's father some courage. He threw his face aside and directly told his son about his thoughts and regrets for his children in the past few decades, and also told him that these years have not been easy.
It turned out that after the divorce, Xia's father did business while pursuing his painting dream in Beijing, but he didn't have much business talent, which made him very upset.
At this time, his partner absconded with money, and all suppliers asked him for debts, which made him live a life of avoiding debts. He is so poor that he even lives in a culvert.
With such an unstable living environment, how can you bring your son to suffer together?
Then he devoted himself to the pursuit of painting, but all unknown painters were down and out. Although he misses his son very much, he knows that his son is the best choice to follow his sister and brother-in-law.
After seeing his son go to college and have his own life, he went abroad with confidence and continued to pursue his painting dream.
Soon after, he finally became a famous painter abroad and settled down. At this point, Yu Xia had already passed the age of expecting his father to come back to pick him up and live together. At this point, Yu Xia heart only knot, without any expectations.
As a man, facing his children, how can it be difficult to tell him this? Yu Xia, who has been a husband and a father, has a deep understanding of his father's difficulties.
His heart knot has also been untied: mom and dad don't love themselves and don't want to take care of themselves, but there is too much helplessness in reality.
On one occasion, Yu Xia accidentally fell down and was injured while skiing. He was seriously injured and was taken to the hospital.
Yolanda and Xia Fu, who got the news, rushed to the hospital. Xia Fu also left her sunglasses in the car because she was too anxious.
In the evening, Xia Fu directly advised Yuan Quanxian to go back: "There is still Haha at home that needs your care. Don't worry, I'm watching. "
In those days when Xia was hospitalized, Xia Fu asked the escort bed to massage Yu Xia's legs regularly every day to help him recover as soon as possible.
In fact, Yu Xia just feels that his parents don't love him.
But from these days in hospital, he understood that his parents love him. As my parents explained before, it's just that there are many helplessness in life, which is not easy to explain.
When he was discharged from the hospital, Xia Fu made a rare request to Yu Xia: "I am distressed by your injuries. I'm too old to stand your tossing, so I'd better do less dangerous sports in the future, okay? "
Knowing that his father was worried about himself, Yu Xia agreed and promised not to let him worry again.
In fact, their family are very concerned about each other, but the previous distance and lack of expression have caused many estrangements and distances between them.
Now that we've said it, it's much closer.
Now Yu Xia can accept the kindness of his parents. After all, these are all parents' love for him, and he will also visit his parents on holidays to maintain this rare warmth.
After so many years, Yu Xia finally untied the knot 30 years ago.
Thanks to my good wife Yolanda, if she doesn't understand, she will mediate and lubricate, and I believe the knot may never be untied.
Today, Yu Xia is 45 years old and has a stable career. Although there are not many works, they are all his carefully polished works, which have won the support of many audiences.
For example, the movie "Searching for Dragons" and the TV series "Close Contact with the Ancient Style of Mahjong".
In addition, his family has a good wife and daughter, which can be said to be a winner in life.
In his mind, mom and dad have the same status as his uncle and aunt, and they are all relatives of his life.
With Yolanda's support, he repaid their filial piety.
I sincerely wish this big family happiness forever.