Just like the classic line in the movie Forrest Gump: "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get." You can't be sure, if you haven't read Kafka by the Sea, what strange changes will happen to the above-mentioned Zhejiang University girls. Maybe she can read another good book to dispel her demons, but it is also possible that she will go astray. Whether life is cloudy or sunny in Wan Li, and where the key to Zhuan Gan Kun is hidden, everyone can't know in advance when he is a teenager.
When talking about Kafka by the sea, Haruki Murakami once said: "What I pay special attention to is that although there is a 15-year-old boy, there should not be too much enlightenment. Don't guide him, don't do such a thing. What I want to do is to let him think and let him judge with his own head. "
Unfortunately, in the process of our growth, we are often wrongly "guided" and preached by some people. These people may be your teachers or your parents, and their words are hard to refute. Just like my father often tells us why he gave up mathematics from the first year of high school, the reason is very simple. His high school math teacher often asks him to answer questions on the blackboard, and he feels humiliated if he can't answer them. Seeing that he can't answer questions, the teacher often calls him to the office and gives him a "class".
Of course, adults can see at a glance that this is a teacher's concern for a student, but people are not mature enough to think in their youth. In my father's view, going to the blackboard and calling the office were all teachers' deliberate insults, so he became more and more rebellious. Finally, he gave up mathematics completely and swore to the math teacher that he could go to college even if he didn't study mathematics.
The final result is that my dad's math score is only single digits, and he went to college with a total score difference of 30 points. In the end, he chose to be a soldier when he couldn't go to college. Although the trajectory of life is complicated and changeable, no one can guarantee that a person will be more promising when he goes to college in that heroic reckless era, but he lost the opportunity to study further, which will make my dad reveal a trace of sadness and unwillingness every time he talks about this past.
There is no doubt that Kafka by the sea is largely inspired by the ancient Greek literature "King Oedipus". Oedipus, who was kind, upright and brave in Greek mythology, failed to be redeemed and was finally destroyed by the curse of fate. In Kafka by the Sea, Kafka Tamura, a boy of 16 years old, also faces a similar cursed fate.
In this regard, Haruki Murakami said frankly: "In this work, I want to write a story about a teenager. I want to write about teenagers, because they are still changeable, their souls are still in a soft state, not fixed in one direction, and factors such as values and lifestyles in them have not been firmly established. "
In my opinion, people in their youth are like walking on a smoky mountain road. Although they are easy to change, they are also at great risk of being lost. In the movie "Better Days", Xiaobei was lonely since childhood, and even ate meat buns once, and was insulted and beaten by his biological mother. 13 years old, she began to lick the blood on the tip of the knife. One of the most touching scenes in the movie is that Chen Nian asked Xiao Bei, "Why did you fight?"? Why do you live like this? " Xiaobei was silent for a while and replied, "You are too clean to understand." At that time, Xiaobei was holding Chen Nian's textbook in his hand, and his eyes stayed on a famous saying by Wilde: "We live in sewers, but there are still people looking up at the stars."
Of course, not every teenager who slips can be as lucky as Xiao Bei to encounter old age, but in reality, not every teenager is born as miserable as Xiao Bei. The fuse of many teenagers' depravity is just trivial things that seem insignificant in the future. For example, after quarreling with parents, parents' self-esteem was hurt by fierce words and deeds; Or because a teacher intentionally or unintentionally made things difficult for him, he gave up the course in a rage; Sometimes I even have a crush on a boy or girl who never talks to me, so I have no intention to learn from now on. Many people, when recalling their childhood memories many years later, regret why they insisted on trivial matters that seem insignificant now, and even gambled on their own future, but they had to let go, and the understanding that they learned after the event could not change the established reality. This may be one of the greatest pains in life.
But back to teenagers, as Haruki Murakami said, teenagers are changeable, and their values and lifestyles have not been fully established. If a teenager has read more than one book, perhaps a good word is enough to dispel the haze in his heart; Contact a favorite sport, in which the words and deeds of idols may give him energy and courage; It may be enough for his parents to talk to him calmly and find out what really puzzles him.
In China, there is a famous saying: Look up at the age of three, and grow old at the age of seven. Wu Zhihong, a famous psychologist, once said in his book: What you suffered in childhood will be suffered again when you grow up. Moreover, it is an ideal situation to suffer only once. More likely, we are repeating the same kind of suffering all our lives and falling into the samsara led by the same psychological model. "
In this way, people who are unhappy in childhood will struggle in pain all their lives. This is also fatalism. It seems that our life is doomed in childhood or adolescence.
So we can't help asking, is this the final answer to the question? At least I don't think so.
In the book, Kafka Tamura comes to a strange city and has no friends. The only thing he can think of is to find a library and then a gym to start his new life from these two places. Later, because the library knew Saeki and Oshima, it changed his life.
Haruki Murakami once said about his 15-year-old boy: "I was quite strange when I was fifteen. In a sense, he belongs to a very ordinary teenager, climbing mountains, swimming in the sea and having a good time with his classmates. But at the same time, he is a teenager who likes reading very much. When he enters the room, he often stays indoors. In me, a strong introverted part and an extroverted part of the body seem to exist at the same time. "
When you are lonely and helpless, don't trust a stranger easily. Try to establish contact with something you are interested in. Maybe you will have unexpected surprises.
Recently, a song called "Teenager" became popular. The word "teenager" seems to have a kind of magic, which can pull everyone who has experienced social storms back to that hopeful youth. It's a pity that people are often animals that can't live in the present. When we were 15 or 16 years old, how many people hated the present and constantly looked forward to what they would be like when they grew up?
Someone once asked Gao, if the time machine could make you 20 years old again or even 15 years old, would you choose to go back to the past? Gao replied, "I won't, because I'm almost old enough to know my destiny, and I've figured out problems that I haven't been able to figure out for so many years." Why should I go back? " I don't want to experience the confusion and sadness when I was young and frivolous again. "
That's what I want to say. Whether you are a teenager now, or you have entered youth or even middle age, it is most important to live in the present. I hope you can know that the troubles of 15 and 16 years old make you confused, but they are the patents of youth. Young people are often confused, but that is the golden age of a person; When people reach middle age, although you may not be young, think about it, maybe now you are the middle-aged person you envied when you were young.
"You want to dance, no matter what the result is, maybe your life and your result are constantly losing, losing friends, losing lovers, losing ambitions and losing passion, but you want to dance and dance beautifully, not for anyone, just because you don't go there." (Dancing, dancing, dancing)
In my opinion, the so-called "other shore" means that a person is constantly entangled in fatalism all his life and is troubled by the past, so that he can't live forever.
So whether you are 40, 25 or 17 today, I hope you remember that there is only one time here, and the train of time will never go backwards.
Then, a young boy, at this moment, has no burning passion, even in the night when no one pays attention, he is like a soul who refuses to rest, in order to thank this short time.