Letters from parents to their daughters in Grade Two.
Danny, my daughter:
I attended the parent-teacher conference yesterday and listened to the speeches of parents of outstanding students (including your father). Their speeches are sincere and have many similarities. In the process of children's growth, they have more or less positive influence on children, hoping that these influences can educate children into people who are useful to society. I was particularly moved by the speech of one of the mothers. When she introduced herself as a single-parent family, my tears almost fell, and I don't know why I was so excited. Her children have always been the first in the class. She is really a great mother and deserves my respect.
Your class teacher called me, hoping that I could speak at the parent-teacher meeting and introduce you to the experience and how to educate you so well. She praises you for your kindness, clever personality and good homework. I hope I can give you some experience in various requirements and principles. Put the phone down, I thought about it in my mind for a while, and soon a framework came out. Call your father at night and tell him the news. He was very happy, saying it was a big event for the whole family and promised to write an article. I think if he is busy, I can read what he wrote. As a result, he took the initiative to write in the office on Wednesday night and didn't go home until after 1 am. His spirit is especially commendable. Seeing that he worked so hard, I suggested that he write it the next day. There's still time anyway. Who knows that he said that he thought it over at night and didn't go home until after 1 am. When two Yi manuscripts came to the real speech, he saw that none of the other parents took the manuscript. He probably felt embarrassed and didn't take it out, just said the general content.
I mainly explain it from one principle and three requirements. I hope you can abide by it throughout your student days, and I hope these will really benefit you for life. It will be my great honor.
One principle: never fall in love while studying. Most girls mature early, the surrounding environment, TV publications, etc. Is imperceptible. Although it is not as terrible as a scourge, it will bring incalculable consequences if you sit idly by. This lesson happened in primary school, and I don't want it to happen again in junior high school and senior high school. I have warned you many times, and you know my principles very well.
Three requirements: being diligent, not biased, and mastering good learning methods.
These days, I have been reading A Thousand Cups Not Drunk written by Professor Kong of Peking University. There is a sentence in the book, which roughly means that anyone who is admitted to Peking University must be diligent. I agree with you with both hands. As the saying goes: As you sow, you reap. No pains, no gains, no pains, no gains. Learning is hard work. Get up early and go to bed late. There is no music to listen to and no TV to watch. I once saw Mr. Liu Yong talking about his school days and his mother on Phoenix TV. He said that when he was a student, he studied very hard and often reviewed his lessons until late at night. At this time, his mother will prepare fruits and snacks for him to supplement nutrition. If he is lazy occasionally, he will be scolded by his mother. He studied all night while preparing for the college entrance examination. At this time, his mother advised him not to work so hard and asked him why he worked so hard. He analyzed that his mother's mood at this time should be very contradictory. She hoped that he would be admitted to a prestigious school and worried that once he was admitted, he would leave her, which she did not want to see. Finally, he said something that has always impressed me: young people just have to work hard, and if they don't work hard, they will be young people in vain. To tell the truth, you are not very diligent, but I hope you can be diligent. I often say that learning is a personal behavior, and the purpose of learning is not for me, but for yourself. Whether you study well or not, you have to test your grades in the senior high school entrance examination and college entrance examination.
Impartiality, which your father has repeatedly demanded. Don't pursue the sharpness of the door, pursue the Excellence of the door. Of course, this also includes sports. I don't want to see you do well in your studies, but you are ill.
It is very important to master good learning methods during the whole study period. More than once, your father asked you to write down what you didn't do at ordinary times or in exams, find a notebook, and often take out these mistakes and things you can't do, so that you won't make mistakes again. There is also a learning goal. I once gave you an example of driving on the road. If you want to run faster, look at the car in front, the throttle will overtake him, and then overtake another car. Learning is like driving on the road, you can only move forward and not backward. If you return, you will definitely be honked by the car behind you, and there will probably be an accident. You can drive fast or slow and keep walking completely. Always move forward. Driving needs safety, which requires drivers to be clear-headed and quick-thinking. Not falling in love during study is a safety requirement to ensure the progress of study.
You should also be one step ahead, one step ahead and one step ahead in your study. In learning, you should also humbly ask the students with good grades for learning methods, learn from each other's strengths, and you will certainly realize your wishes.
I have always been a liberal education for you since I was a child, and your uncle Zhou laughed at you for being a big farmer. Other people's children play the piano at the age of four, but you didn't learn dulcimer until you were ten. You only studied for two years, and then you gave up after taking the CET-4. I didn't ask you to learn this and that. It's all your interests. Your interests change, and so does what you learn. You learned painting, dancing, electronic piano, badminton and swimming. After two summers in the children's activity center, you didn't learn to swim, but you finally taught yourself in the swimming pool of the cultural center. When you grow up, I hope you can form a good habit of reading. Now it seems that this habit has been maintained very well, which makes me very pleased. Your father also wants to create a reading atmosphere for you, so he has been insisting on reading and letting me read. The books you read are very miscellaneous. Of course, I hope you can read and look after them. I'm just worried that what I think is good, you may feel bad. This needs to be understood Generally speaking, all the books that can be handed down are good books. I hope you will read more Chinese and foreign classics in the future.
Learning is important, but good quality is more important. You are kind, sensitive, intelligent, fond of small animals, caring and filial, but I hope you can be brave, more independent and have your own unique and correct views on everything, which requires constant learning and wisdom. Russell said: the pursuit of love, the pursuit of wisdom and sympathy for others are three reasons for his life. I hope I can use the power of celebrities to take the right path of life.
The second letter written by parents to their daughter in grade two.
Dear daughter:
Your question excites me.
You are fourteen years old today. You crossed the line. If you cross it, you will be an adult woman. You ask me: Dad, what is love?
Thinking that I am not talking to a naive child today, my heart is beating more and more happily. You crossed the line. May you be happy. But to be a happy person, only when you become a wise person.
Millions of women, especially those girls aged 14, are thinking with anxiety: what is love? Each has his own understanding of this. Every young man, when they have sprouted the temperament of an adult man, is also thinking about this problem. Now, dear daughter, my letter to you is different from before. My long-cherished wish is to teach you the wisdom of life, which can also be called life skills. I hope every word of my parents is like a small seed, from which your own views and beliefs sprout.
Once upon a time, this question also made me uneasy. When I was a teenager and entered early youth, my grandmother Maria was the closest person to me. She is really something. I owe all the beautiful, intelligent and honest things I got in my heart to her. She died before the war. It was she who opened the fairy tale world, the language of the motherland and the virtue of mankind in front of me. Once, in the quiet evening of early autumn, she and I sat under a leafy apple tree and watched the cranes fly to the temperate zone. I asked. Grandma, what is love?
Grandma is good at explaining complicated problems with fairy tales. Her black eyes showed a thoughtful and uneasy expression. I don't know why, she gave me a special, unprecedented look.
? what is love ? When God created the world, he scattered all living things on the ground and taught them to carry on the family line and reproduce. Give men and women land, teach them how to build shacks, give men a shovel and give women a handful of grain. ? Continue to live and reproduce. ? God said to them? I went to do my own thing. I will come back to see the situation here in a year. ?
? Just a year later, God came with the archangel Gabriella. It was early in the morning, when the sun rose. He saw a man and a woman sitting beside the hut. The land in front of them is ripe grain. There is a cradle next to them, in which lies a sleeping baby. The man and the woman watched for a while, then you looked at me, and I looked at you, exchanging feelings with each other. At the moment of their eye contact, God found a beauty he didn't understand, a power he had never seen before. This beauty is better than the sky and the sun, the earth and the wheat fields? More than anything God has created. A beauty that confuses and alarms God.
? What is this? He asked the archangel Gabriella.
? This is love. ?
? What does love mean?
? The archangel shrugged helplessly. God walks up to men and women and asks them what love is. However, they could not explain to him. So God flew into a rage.
? All right! Look, I won't punish you! You will get old from now on. Every moment in your life will kill your youth and strength until it disappears! I'll come back in fifty years and see what's left in your eyes, damn people.
? Why is God angry? I asked my grandmother.
? Because he created something he had never heard of or seen without asking. You'd better listen! Fifty years later, God and the archangel Gabriella came again. This time, he saw wooden houses built where there were shacks, wasteland turned into orchards, fields covered with golden ears of wheat, sons plowing, daughters harvesting wheat, and grandchildren playing on the grass. The old man and the old woman sit in front of the house, sometimes looking at the bright red sunrise, sometimes you look at me, and I look at you, exchanging feelings with each other. God saw unparalleled beauty and greater power in the eyes of this man and woman, which also contained some new things.
? What is this? He asked the archangel.
? Loyalty. ? The archangel replied, but he still couldn't explain clearly.
God was furious.
? Aren't you getting old fast enough? Damn it, you won't live long. I will come again and see what your love can become! ?
? Three years later, God came here again with the archangel Gabriella. At first glance, there was a man sitting on a small mound. His eyes are full of melancholy and sadness, but it still makes people feel an incomprehensible beauty, with the same strength as in the past. This is not only love and loyalty, but also something else.
? What is this? He asked the archangel.
? The memory of the soul. ?
? God touched his beard and left the old man on the mountain. Lift your eyes and look at the wheat fields and the burning dawn: there are many young men and women standing in the golden ears of wheat. They looked at the flaming sky for a while, and then you looked at me, and I looked at you, making love to each other? God stood there and stared for a long time. Then he left with deep thoughts. Since then, man has become the god of the earth.
? This is love, little grandson. Love is higher than God. This is the eternal beauty and strength of mankind. When people alternate from generation to generation, each of us will inevitably become a pile of loess, but love has become an eternal bond to maintain human vitality. ?
This is love, dear daughter. All things exist, multiply and carry on the family line, but only people can love. Similarly, from the perspective of people themselves, only those who can love in a human way can become real people. If we don't treat love well, we can't raise it to the height of human beauty, that is to say, it is just a creature that can become a person, but it has not become a real person.
The third letter written by parents to their daughter in the second day of junior high school
Girl, with the end of the summer vacation and the beginning of the new semester, you have become a junior two student. Dad has been concerned about your growth since childhood. Dad doesn't want you to be a learning machine. I hope you will develop in an all-round way and become a sound person. Looking back on the study life of senior one, you did it. This year, you continued the momentum of excellent performance in primary school and quickly adapted to junior high school life. Your academic performance has improved from more than 200 of the 998 students in the junior high school placement exam to the best score in the first mid-term and final exam 1 1. As a monitor for one year, both semesters were rated as "three good students" and "excellent class cadres"; Won the first prize in the Guzheng Competition of the School Art Festival, the school? The most beautiful chorus? The best conductor of chorus competition; I wrote my favorite words, won 8 awards for various compositions, and published 18 articles in various publications. Especially when you participated in the magazine "Middle School Students' World" in the summer vacation? Top Ten Campus Writers in Zhejiang Province? Competition, has been shortlisted for the finals.
Girl, you have grown into a middle school student. I am very pleased to see your lively, optimistic and positive expression. In the face of a strange environment, you got into it so quickly and achieved good results, which is gratifying, but shortcomings and deficiencies are inevitable. In the first semester, your final exam score was only 86. The head teacher left the following words on your junior high school students' quality development report: This semester, the teacher found that you have changed a little. I don't know if you realize that your concentration is not as good as before, and your study status is not as good as before. Think about the reason. Adjust your state and expect yourself to perform better. After careful analysis, you still have slackness and lack of tenacity in the first stage of study; Uneven distribution of study time, unstable grades in all subjects; When encountering difficulties, they sometimes shrink back and lack the courage to break through; Writing is content with the status quo and lacks enterprising spirit, which needs to be paid enough attention to in the growth process of Grade Two or later.
Someone said:? The first day is neck and neck, the second day is polarized, and the third day is on the ground? . The second day of junior high school is the key to change a child's life, which is a hurdle: some students can adapt to the environment and stand out, while others are in a state of many troubles. Based on this understanding, to get over this hurdle, dad thinks you should strengthen in the following aspects.
The first is the allocation of time. Because of the unstable grades, do you often have them in your studies? A headache, a sore foot? Situation. Therefore, it is necessary to allocate the study time of each course reasonably, make more efforts in the weak classes appropriately, and don't pay attention to one thing and lose sight of another. Besides, you can also try to learn some tips on the schedule. For example, when I am a little tired, I mainly review old lessons or do some hands-on exercises; When attention is easy to concentrate, take the time to do homework or write a composition; Before doing homework, you can arrange a certain time to review; When arranging self-study, we should pay attention to the intersection of arts and sciences and the collocation of words and practice; Review the lessons of the day, and review the contents learned and reviewed on the first day, so as to connect the old and new knowledge.
The second is to deal with difficulties. Difficulties will inevitably be encountered in study. When the old difficulties are solved, new ones will follow. The key is to treat the difficulties encountered in learning correctly, build up confidence and make progress despite difficulties. Here, dad would like to praise your attitude of insisting on asking questions, not understanding and not giving up, and criticize your attitude of being afraid of trouble, unwilling to spend more time on learning the basic knowledge of Chinese, a little discouraged and giving up after knowing the difficulties. Girl, show your skill and accept the challenge!
The third is the adjustment of mentality. As a monitor and an excellent student in all aspects, you are under great pressure, and dad understands your feelings. But this is a challenge and exercise. The monitor is not bragging. As long as you see yourself clearly, believe in yourself, persevere, and don't be a coward who escapes from reality, are you afraid that you can't do it well?
The fourth is the interest in writing. You have given up studying calligraphy and guzheng. You must not give up this writing hobby easily. In reading, we should increase the reading volume of classic works and accumulate more material vocabulary; In writing, it is necessary to strengthen the writing practice in the examination room, conscientiously complete the editing of the manuscript composition, and maintain a good publishing momentum.
Girl, dad cares about communicating with you and wants to know your mood, your thoughts, your study life and even your teachers and classmates. On the way with you, dad was very happy to spend a lot of happy time with you. Travel together, take photos together, observe together, read together, take a walk together? Laugh and hate together? Although the ways and forms of expression are different, the happiness of accompanying reading and the continuous continuation of happiness will be the inexhaustible wealth of dad's life.
Girl, dad is just an ordinary member of the accompanying parents. Dad and you have the same goal. On the way to raising children, dad felt that success was not the ultimate goal. Success is a process in which dad and you work together and have no regrets. Dad often reminds himself to try to be one? Different parents? Eager to harvest one? Different children? .