Not long ago, when I met Weibo, a topic struck my heart: Are you afraid of being single forever?
I am naturally afraid of loneliness. I have never felt the powerlessness of shopping malls for more than 20 years. I eat alone and watch movies alone. In my definition, if I have to do it alone, I'd rather not go out.
So, at that time, the result in my mind was "yes", but I thought it over, as if I would jump out of another answer.
Be single all your life, okay? This topic is very popular, but after a day of discussion, nearly 80% people think it is a very bad thing to be single all the time.
Of course, people are not afraid of living alone, nor are they capable of living alone, but are afraid of admitting that they are not loved.
As this netizen said: The worst thing for single men and women is not being lonely and suspicious, but suddenly feeling that they may not be loved by others. When I was young, I was very confident, because I didn't want my students to fall in love, so I had nowhere to meet. I thought I had set my sights too high and met the most suitable one.
However, it seems that this is not the case. I also had an affair with others, but they all ended in fiasco. However, people you love a little don't feel anything for you. Day after day, year after year, you seem to be more and more harsh on yourself, picky about your body shape and disdainful of your taste. When you see yourself in the bathroom mirror, you sigh how ugly you are. Afraid to come out and meet people, unwilling to accept a new relationship.
Self-confidence is polished away bit by bit, replaced by self-doubt and fear of the future. Be single all your life, okay?
This sense of frustration and inferiority caused by being single for a long time is what people fear most. Now that I think about it, what always makes me feel anxious and scared is that everyone is afraid that no one likes me.
Everyone is afraid of every aspect of their development. Fear of loss, fear of input _ have _ fruit.
As for me, I have had too many experiences: when I was in an ordinary high school, a boy who loved to work couldn't help looking at his part for a while every time he entered the classroom, but he just looked at it from a distance and didn't dare to move forward.
Every time I see him chatting with the girls in the class, when they talk about life and idealism together, I still envy him, but I am also afraid that the person I like very much will fall in love with others.
Later, when I was a sophomore, I studied hard and trained hard. If I want to enter his social circle, the teacher will put me in a group with him, so I will read all night and sleep only four hours a day. Since everyone's seat is divided according to the exam results, I have to study hard to be in the same group with him.
God helps others. I won the third place in the final exam that year, and I successfully sat directly opposite him. I also want to cherish the years of study and development together. Of course, it is a pity that no one has produced any stories since then.
Now, after so many years, I am still afraid, afraid of having no money, afraid of loneliness, afraid of being left behind by others, afraid of being unloved. Even if I want to break through this fear better, I have invested too much.
When I was in my twenties, I didn't pay much attention to the effect of things. The road of life is very long, and more importantly, the growth and transformation provided by this experience.
A few days ago, I wrote a topic discussion about not wanting to get married and have children, and then the latest comments below are extremely consistent.
One comment especially poked my heart: "I don't want to get married and have children after 90." It's not that I no longer believe in love, but that I don't believe that love will happen to me. "
Now most young people are gradually afraid of the object, including me. They want to love but dare not. They think anyone is suitable and no one is suitable. They have been waiting, but they don't know what they are waiting for. Where should the terminal lead?
My good friend Xiao said that at the age of the object, I suddenly became more and more afraid. I want to make a promise, but I'm afraid my investment will be missed. I have been living in a negative and pessimistic life cycle, denying myself and not daring to take this step. I am afraid that my life will pass like this, but I don't have the courage to take that step.
She said to me, "Are you afraid of dying alone?"
Probably scared.
Sometimes, people will find that they can't love someone wholeheartedly, and they don't have the longing and passion for their feelings when they were young. I've been wondering if I have the courage to go one step further if I want to go back to the age of 18.
Everyone in their twenties, even those who have never been in love, has long been overwhelmed by some negative emotions, and even feels that they are not worthy of feelings.
But in any case, you need to be full of hope from beginning to end. On that dark road, there will always be a light in your life.
Not long ago, I mentioned the topic of getting a marriage certificate with my best friend. They all think that getting married is crazy for you. They have nothing. They really don't have the courage to shoulder the burden of starting a family, and they still feel young. Where did they get the courage to find any goal? Everyone laughed and said that after 00, the children were married, and we single women over 90 still felt small.
There is a song called "The more you grow up, the more lonely you are." There is a lyric in it that says: The more you grow up, the more restless you are. You have to fly a glider to protect you, and suddenly you find out if the road ahead is uneven. Is this change inevitable? Everyone has less and less time to use others, and always thinks that he can overcome difficulties.
In life, the distance between my parents and me is getting farther and farther, and people around me are leaving one after another, which makes us more and more deeply realize that everyone has no choice but to rely on themselves, and no one can always be everyone's back, only pinning their expectations on themselves.
There is a saying in The Big Bang Theory: "People spend their whole lives looking for another person to celebrate their life. I never understood. Maybe I am too funny to wait for others. Therefore, I sincerely wish that I can get as much happiness from others as myself. "
Are you afraid of being single forever? Whether you are a person or a person, I still expect you to have an interesting and shining life. Being single is not terrible. The terrible thing is to find someone casually and start dating casually. Is this love what we expect?