In ancient Nanjing, there was a place called Changqianli. There is a boy and a girl in Changgan. The two played together since childhood, grew up to be a talented man and a beautiful woman, and became a couple. Li Bai wrote a poem "Changgan Xing" based on this: "My hair has just covered my forehead, and I am playing in front of the door with folded flowers. The man came riding a bamboo horse and went around the bed to play with green plums. Living together in Changgan, the two young people had no problem guessing." This popular poem is probably the most accurate interpretation of childhood sweethearts since "The Book of Songs: Meng".
In ancient China, childhood sweethearts were like grass on the ground and could only grow in the countryside. A princess of the royal family, a daughter of an official, living in a deep boudoir with a high wall, is like a daughter of a wild family in the country. She can go out to pick wild vegetables, go outing, play, and get acquainted with boys of the same age. Later, when the education of men and women became unclear, like a tight curse spread from heaven to the countryside, the daughters of ordinary families no longer dared to play with boys unscrupulously. As a result, aunt's new family, cousins ??and cousins ??became the only type of childhood sweethearts.
Huating said, "Two childhood sweethearts are like naked children playing freely in the Garden of Eden. Their world is smooth, round, and self-sufficient." This is pertinent. They were childhood sweethearts, and the process of growing up was like a boat going with the current, or a kite going with the wind. They had never experienced the torment of ordinary human relationships, the troubles of love, and they had never experienced the feeling of sailing against the current or going against the wind. They can play however they want, and their occasional distress will be soothed by their usual playfulness. Their hearts are like a paradise, where there is no one else but birds and flowers, and the wind and sun are beautiful.
How can young people not yearn for such a love that is as carefree and as mellow as wine? When I was young, I have always been fascinated by this kind of childhood love. Imagine that you are the handsome bamboo horse, and a girl from the same village or at the same table is the shy green plum. It was not until later that I learned the truth behind the Tang poetry. It turned out that this romantic pair of childhood sweethearts, after getting married, spent the whole day leaning on the bamboo, worrying about their beauty. Only then did I realize that the poems in "Changgan Xing" contained not only the innocence of childhood, the perfection of lovers finally getting married, but also the deep-rooted lovesickness and loneliness. I gradually realized that the most beautiful flowers in the world are also the most vulnerable to wind and frost. The epiphyllum is beautiful, but it only appears for a moment.
I really doubt that if there was such perfect happiness in reality, God would be jealous. Such happiness, because it is too perfect, is too easy. Like a brittle glass figure, it cannot withstand the slightest touch. When such glass figures fall into the hands of ordinary people, some are not intoxicated or happy, but are frightened and despondent all day long because they are afraid of being touched and injured, and are afraid that the red apricots will be picked off by hands outside the wall. . Therefore, God arranged for them to grow up, arranged for them to be free, and arranged for them to eat the forbidden fruit. But those inside the door wanted to go out, and those outside the door wanted to come in. The harmony finally had a crack, and then the wind, rain, thunder and lightning outside invaded in one after another. Love that has not experienced frost, rain and snow is like the tender green in a greenhouse. It cannot withstand the pressure of frost, rain and snow, and finally withers and falls apart.
So, a fairy tale finally ended.
Since the story of childhood sweethearts came into existence, it has not been a romantic comedy, but a fable and tragedy. Such tragedy was born in the Book of Songs long before the idiom "childhood sweetheart" came into being. It's just that we were blinded by Li Bai's romance later. The famous long narrative poem "Guo Feng·Meng" in "The Book of Songs" tells the story of the whole process of a mulberry girl and a gangster from childhood sweethearts, courtship, love, mutual agreement, marriage, to the gangster's change of heart and a clean break. The grief and indignation of being abandoned are expressed in a clear and vivid way. But later generations remembered the romance of "Changganxing" and forgot the pain of "Guo Feng·Hang".
Looking back, we look at the woman in "The Book of Songs: Mang": she was originally a country mulberry girl who made a living by picking mulberries, raising silkworms, reeling silk and selling it. Meng is a small businessman who "holds cloth and trade silk". The two met and got acquainted at the market. When Meng proposed to her, he had a sneering and honest smile on his face. She was moved by Meng's honesty and simplicity, and then she developed a liking for him and started to get along with him. Every time they meet, the woman has to be escorted across Luohe River, and they won't break up until they reach Dunqiu. Through getting along, a passionate pursuit and an infatuated love. Sang Nu agreed to marry the gangster. And made a pledge of "Autumn is coming". This experience and emotion, in my opinion, are real and beyond doubt. It makes people envious. At that stage, she "rided on the other side of the mountain to look at Fuguan. When she didn't see Fuguan, she burst into tears; when she saw Fuguan, she smiled and talked about it." She looked through the autumn water, her tears faded, and she smiled, feeling joy, anger, and sorrow in a moment. They all revolve around the coming and going of the person they love. She was completely immersed in the bliss of love.
But Sang Nu doesn’t know that love is always an unknown. Just like childhood sweethearts, guessing is a waste of time. You can guess the beginning but not the ending. But everything in the world is full of variables. When Sang Nu first became a wife, "I was a wife at the age of three, working hard in the house. She worked hard and slept hard at night, and I had a long life." What kind of toil and toil was this, for the dream that she once had, the circle that she had drawn for herself - love. She took on all the hard work and care, getting up early and going to bed late, regardless of today and tomorrow. No matter what kind of hardship she was willing to endure, no matter what kind of setback she was endured, she was brave enough to bear no matter how heavy the burden was, and she did not even complain about her husband's violent abuse. Unexpectedly, in the end, she still could not get rid of the tragic life tragedy of being abandoned. The gangster's sudden change of attitude made her three years of longing and hard work come to naught.
The cruel reality left her with only a handful of bitter tears. Before her appearance faded away, her former lover had already left her. No one could understand her pain. Even her brothers laughed mockingly at her, "Brothers don't know, so they are laughing." This is very similar to the situation that Liu Lanzhi envisioned on her way back from vacation in "The Peacock Flies Southeast": "I have a biological father and brother who are sexually violent, and they may not do what I want, and they will torture me." In fact, the ridicule and ridicule of the world has long ceased to concern her. All she has left to herself is to reflect, "I will think about it quietly, and bow to myself to mourn."
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