I admit, I am a strong person. No one can restrain the stubbornness that flows out of my bones, and no one can change my character. Sometimes I compare myself to a horse, an unruly horse. Heart is grassland, galloping thousands of miles, unrestrained and unhappy? In fact, because of my unruly, I did lose too many friendships and good opportunities, but I am not afraid, I will pursue the life I want, as free and happy as a horse.
Some people say that women are made of water. Gentle, delicate, charming and affectionate. I have been used to living like a boy since I was a child. It's really too much for you to make me a gentle and delicate little woman. I will also be afraid, because I am not a vain person. I don't care about other people's feelings, what others say about me, or what bad impression I will leave on others. I just want to be myself. I just want to make myself happy, my family happy and my friends happy. That's enough.
Many people will try their best to improve their relationship with others, spend their own money on others, spend too much time eating and chatting with friends, get drunk and lay down their lives to accompany gentlemen, and even worry that someone will stab them in the back. Living in various circles is like being put in various condoms. I can't get out by myself, and the more I tie it, the tighter it gets. Finally, I was black and blue all over. I really don't know why. In exchange for a little sympathy from others? Or did you get a lot of fun in your life? We will meet many people, walk a lot, suffer a lot and suffer a lot in our life ... Some things can be solved by our own efforts, some things must be completed with the help of others, and some things can only be resigned to fate. We can't make everyone like it, nor can we make everyone dislike it. Everyone is independent and shuttles back and forth in the bustling crowd. You don't know me, and I don't know you. Sometimes I meet a few acquaintances and just say hello and continue on my way. It seems that I have been on the road all my life, doing things and passing strangers thousands of times. Those strange eyes, those familiar faces will eventually walk away in silence, do their own things, eat their own meals, and go back to their homes, free from infection and involvement.
There is a young couple who go out early and come back late, doing medicinal materials business. At first, the two were crowded in a rented house of more than ten square meters, with only a bed board of one meter two. But they embrace each other and sleep, and live a simple life in a down-to-earth manner. They are afraid to have children because they still owe hundreds of thousands of loans. There are more and more customers, and the business is getting bigger and bigger. In a few years, they have paid off all their debts and gradually become rich. The husband wanted a child very much and finally persuaded his wife. Pregnant in October, pregnant wife, busy business.
When the child was born, the husband was still on a business trip. When he came home tired, his wife had been in the delivery room for a week. He sympathizes with his wife and children. Seeing his lovely son, he kissed and kissed. He held his wife's thin hands again. It is these hands that have accompanied her through many ups and downs, and accompanied him, a man with nothing, through many difficulties and hardships. He silently vowed to be kind to his wife.
The child grows up slowly, and his wife resigns to take care of and teach the child at home. As time goes by, my wife is no longer as beautiful as before, her face is gradually wrinkled, her waist is full of fat, her eyes are covered with crow's feet, and her speech is not as gentle and pleasant as before. She always talks about this and that. She always pesters him to chat when she comes home, and sometimes he feels bored. I don't know when it started, but he really felt that his wife was so annoying and unreasonable. Sometimes he mistakenly thinks that his wife has stayed at home for too long and has forgotten the hardships and difficulties of career struggle. If women are not idle and bored, they will do some boring things to pass the empty and lonely time. He thought like this and decided to find something for her to do. The wife shook her head and said that the child can't live without her, and the husband can't live without him in poor health. Hearing this sentence, he felt sad and the past was vivid. Yes, his wife is thinking about him, and she is silently devoting her life to him, selflessly dedicating her youth and dignity.
He is becoming more and more famous in this industry, and many women come here, including business partners, beautiful young girls and charming baby daughters ... In short, he is surrounded by a garden full of colorful butterflies, and his eyes are blurred every time. He faces flowers and applause every day, but when he gets home, he can't see those beautiful faces anymore. All day long, he faces wooden expressions carved by years. When he goes to bed at night, he always goes to the study alone, leaving his wife alone in bed on the excuse that he is very tired.
He admitted that he was really possessed. To tell the truth, those beautiful young women are many times more beautiful than their wives when they were young. However, he tried to sniff out some tricks on the edge of temptation, which was not bad. But subconsciously, he stopped.
He thought of many things. How did he succeed today? Who gives him the most solid backing? Why on earth are those women so obsessed with him? What do you see in him? If you have nothing today, who would want to meet such a useless man? Even if you divorce, it is the most unfair to your wife? And what will my son think of him in the future? He is almost forty years old and has passed the age of pursuing love. What people of his age value most is the stability and harmony of the family, not the fragmented emotional entanglements ... Thinking of this, his thoughts are becoming clearer and clearer, and his life trajectory is becoming clearer and clearer. He knows that what he lacks most is that he has not thought about the meaning of life.
He's really happy to think about it. I almost lost myself. This is a dangerous move. It turns out that all the mistakes happened in a flash. As the saying goes, one step is wrong, one step is wrong. Yes, anyone, when you are tempted by any outside world, whether you can resist the power of this temptation depends on how strong your concentration is and how long you have been qualitative. When you bravely cross such a dangerous step, every step in the future will go smoothly and calmly.
Indeed, he has really changed. No longer squint at the goddess and actress in the eyes of the public, and no longer spend a lot of time on meaningless things. As soon as he gets off work, he will go home happily. He felt more and more warm, safe and precious at home. The outside world is wonderful on the surface, but actually it makes people feel terrible and insecure.
He gave all his salary cards to his wife, and the phone was changed back to the most primitive old man-machine Apart from normal business dealings, he seldom goes out with other women alone. The woman who once ate and chatted with him found that he had really changed and stopped contacting him.
Time is like a song, you can control your own life, why complain about others, live your truest self and be the most handsome person. He and his wife are as good as ever, and he likes this kind of life best because he is practical and moved.
There are many post stations in life, and you need to stop and pack. If you go too smoothly, you will forget many beautiful past events. I will also dislike the hardships along the way. If you walk too fast, you will miss a lot of scenery along the way and lose too many precious memories.
There is a rich man who has been unhappy. One day, he met a wise man. The wise man asked him why he looked so sad. He replied: "When you have no money, you can live a simple life every day, but you are also very happy. You always think that having money might make you happier. But when you really have money, you lose happiness. "
The wise man smiled, patted him on the shoulder and said, Look at the wild flowers on the roadside. They bloom for a short time and fluctuate all year round. Everything withers in winter, and everything that connects you will turn to ashes. What did it get? Next spring, it will still take root and sprout, blossom and bear fruit. In the cold winter, it became dead branches and leaves. Who knew it lived so happily and contentedly? Just like the changes of the four seasons in nature, everything follows this law. As long as you have a normal mind, the gains and losses are all in one thought ... "The rich suddenly realized that money is not the root of happiness, it is just a form, it can make your life better and let you do many things you want to do. However, money is money after all and will depreciate. Happiness and life are eternal. As long as we pursue eternal happiness, we will not belittle happiness.
Sometimes, I see many young post-80s parents discussing how to educate their children. Of course, this topic is also my greatest interest. When we were very young, there were so many brothers and sisters that our parents couldn't take care of them. Except for three meals a day, all other growth processes are the natural growth of children. Parents are just a supervisory role, as long as they don't make mistakes, play truant, steal, fight or behave badly. Parents don't care.
There was quite a lot of farm work at that time. On holidays, we will go to the fields to help. Children aged three or four can only play in the fields. At that time, when parents were sitting together, what they said most was that their children could work, wash clothes, cook, be polite and pay attention to hygiene. They seldom talk about learning. After all, they don't care much about their children's learning. As many parents say, our dolls are not made for learning. Just don't starve to death when you work in the future
Later, when we grew up, some chose to continue studying, some chose to go out to work to earn money, and some chose to do small business. Partners who grew up together have different lives. Then what kind of living environment will your children have? Of course, anyone's growth is inseparable from the environment, and it is also inseparable from the environment in which parents live.
We are the parents of the post-80s generation. Have you ever wondered what kind of world children will become when they grow up? The development of science and technology is amazing and changing with each passing day. So what kind of answer sheet will you give your child? Why do many parents' painstaking education methods become the most direct factor of children's rebellion in the end? Why can some parents keep smiling with their children? A great mother once said, "I see every child is dear, lovely and angelic." I don't want to refuse any children. I am always willing to find every little bright spot in them, expand infinitely, praise them sincerely, give them full confidence and encourage them to do better; " I never tire of telling every parent and friend I can contact that I should cherish my children and repeat my strong inner feelings countless times: good children will brag.
My child is bragging. Anything will be my reason to praise my daughter. My two-year-old daughter blew a kiss to her parents. I praised her for her bright face and my tears. My three-year-old daughter saw her tired father coming home from work and immediately moved a small bench for him to sit on. I praised her for being polite and loving her father, and my daughter jumped up and down excitedly. The first time I took the exam, I was even more complacent and praised her. I hugged my daughter and kissed her, praising her for turning the first page of her life so wonderfully. I solemnly told her: Mom is proud of you! If someone must say that I am a successful mother, I can only say: I am a brave and kind person who is willing to praise my daughter! "
This is the inspiration from teacher Zhao Suoxian, who is called the mother of heroes. Her two daughters are excellent, one is Tsinghua, and the other is Peking University. It is true that a good boy is praised. The more you praise, the better your child will be. No matter where you go, praise your child, so that his Excellence can be infinitely expanded to the point where you can touch the warmth of the whole world.
In the face of the child's crying when he is disobedient, I seem to have lost my mind and want to beat him up. What if you say nice things but don't listen? Can only be reasonable, let his little understanding understand that there are boundaries between right and wrong. I can understand that this is wrong. Why is it wrong? It is necessary to explain the reasons for the mistakes to the children.
In a person's life, we will grow old and gradually withdraw from the historical stage. And our children are the proudest capital of every parent. Children have their own ideas, their own aesthetics and their own hobbies. We shouldn't interfere with his choice, we can only provide feasible suggestions. I have always believed this sentence of teacher Zhao. Good children are boasted.
One day, when I was still studying. My son clamored for me to draw him a train, and I drew him a long train. As a result, a few minutes later, my son asked me to draw a train, so I drew another carriage. He smiled with satisfaction. Later, I simply drew it myself and showed it to me after painting. God, this is not a train. It's just graffiti After seeing my son's painting, I pretended to be surprised and said, "Baby, it's really good, just like real …" My son was very happy and drew several pages of "Little Train". He also pointed to every "little train" and gave it a name, "Henry, Gordon, Edward, Thomas ..." It seems that every train ran away full of his hopes. ...
Every day after that, he became smarter and smarter, and his imagination was surprisingly good. He revised the story in the cartoon and told it to me, and revised the Tang poetry into a new "poem". For example, he arranged Li Bai's Thoughts on a Quiet Night in this way. "There is moonlight in front of the window, and it is suspected to be sugar on the ground. Looking up, I found it was moonlight and bowed my head to eat apples. " Well, it's a little creative. In kindergarten, the teacher only taught 1- 10, but he could write from 1 to 100. When learning to sing nursery rhymes, he couldn't remember the lyrics clearly, but he also sang passably. A four-year-old can understand everything. He knows everything an adult says, so don't treat him like a child.
When the baby was 3 years old, her husband took him to a dairy farm once by bike. A few months later. One day, when the milk was not delivered, the mother took the baby to get the milk. Mother has long forgotten the name of the dairy farm, but the baby remembers it, or he told her. But where is it? When my mother first went there, she asked around. People just say go straight. No one knows how far she will go. As a result, after arriving at a place, the baby told his mother that this was it. A big truck just blocked the view and I don't know where it went. The mother followed the baby's finger and walked into the alley. The result is really this dairy farm, not bad at all. Afterwards, the mother always praised her son for being too smart, and I always praised him for being very smart. The more we praise him for his cleverness, the smarter he really is. It can be seen that a good boy is boasting, and a smart boy is boasting.
This is especially true in married life. What I have been pursuing is a quality marriage. Respect each other, tolerate each other and have their own private space. Do not interfere with each other, do not doubt each other. My husband is a very easy person to satisfy, and I don't trust many things he does. From the previous interference to the final disagreement, the two men made a scene. In the end, he simply ignored everything, and everything was up to me. Although I am a woman, I don't care about trivial things. I don't care much about the daily necessities at home. Having a husband to worry about is enough. If it is the biggest expense in the family, there are still many major events that affect our future and destiny, or I have the final say. You can clear customs smoothly every time. Of course there are mistakes, and there is nothing I can do. After all, I am not a fairy.
I have a bad temper, and my husband has a mild temper. When we quarreled, I spoke alone and he said nothing. I started attacking his patience again, but he still ignored me. Finally, I talked and scolded for a while until my mouth smoked, but he still ignored me. Finally, all the anger disappeared, all the scolding was over, and all the talking was over. A chubby belly is as depressed as a deflated balloon. I often do this, and he seems to have caught my weakness. When my anger subsides, he will repeatedly laugh at me and say, say hard ... I have said it, what can I say? Hehe, he is a fool, and he is used to getting my temper bigger and bigger. He always told me that only I can stand your hot temper, and no one else can. Yes, I am a bear-tempered person, and I am only a queen in front of him. If I were someone else, I would only be a maid who is not liked by my master. ...
Everyone's life is colorful and ups and downs. Whether you are facing family or work, as long as you have a clear conscience, it is an excellent spiritual realm. You and I are mortal, born in the world, and don't need too many languages. As long as you are kind inside, God will give you unexpected happiness and happiness.
I have a writer's dream. A good writer will also be the brightest mirror. He devoted his whole life to his works, and his own reality has been squeezed to the skin. Writers are also pioneers of human souls, and great writers will become spiritual leaders of an era, even the spiritual navigation of human development.
It is not the lack of writers in our time, but the lack of writers who are responsible and can find a real way out for us in such a spiritual empty field plagued by money and fame. Don't be eager for quick success and instant benefit, don't show off your false reputation, don't rely on talent and arrogance, and don't talk big. And some writers are infected with empty drugs by telling sad words in order to cater to the tastes of the public. Singing decadent music for some people looking for marriage. There are also some self-righteous writers who can write several books and articles that are particularly popular with the public, and are shrouded in this temporary aura, repeatedly talking about their articles and pursuing better click-through rates. There are also some beautiful chicken soup articles, which seem to be well organized and read with relish, quite like masters of Chinese studies, but they can't really guide people to think far and purify their hearts.
Many people are writing, and many people are pursuing a better life. However, we must calm down and think about it. What is the purpose of this writing? Is it to become an epoch-making spiritual leader like Lu Xun, or to become an excellent poet Fu who specifically reflects the sufferings of ordinary people?
Writers should not be too selfish, not just for themselves. We must speak for the people at all times. Speak for everyone, dare to tell the truth, tell the truth, and dare to be the first in the world.
Works must have connotation, depth and educational significance. Networks and magazines full of words seem to have lost a lot of charm under the impact of all the messy words. Anyone can write an article, anyone can be a screenwriter, and anyone can publish many books and buy millions in just a few years. In fact, his works are generally not difficult to read and well-founded. If you chew carefully, you will suddenly lose your taste. Why do you say that?
Many writers are too eager for quick success and instant benefit, pursuing a writing style that encourages others, turning writing into commodities, words into transactions and entrepreneurs into entrepreneurs. No matter whether the article is good or bad, as long as the click rate is high, it is a good work. Whether you can write or not, as long as you pay, someone will publish it for you. No matter how bad your work is, as long as someone holds it and someone looks at it, it is a good work.
This understanding is in line with money. In line with utilitarianism. The writer's heart is full of the poison of the whole world. How can he write a good article? How can he enjoy the real literary charm in his heart?
Ordinary people lead a hard life. But the online newspaper said they were happy. Many young people don't really care about the life of empty nesters, and many parents who work outside the home don't care much about their children who stay at home. Many patients in hospitals don't quite understand the difficulties of doctors, many ordinary people don't understand the advantages and disadvantages of national policies, many vendors are doing unscrupulous black-hearted business, and many migrant workers sleep on the streets. It is not easy to ask grandpa to sue grandma for making money. Soldiers defend their country, but in real life, many people think they are very leisure. Without war, the professional charm of soldiers loses its appeal. Public officials in any institution also have their own difficulties, but people say that they are idle and do not serve the people well. Ordinary people are suffering in order to survive. Environmental problems have a more serious impact on everyone's life, and food safety is listed as the biggest "killer".
As a good writer, one should write such a theme, reflecting the truest spiritual life and humanistic atmosphere in contemporary China. We should really think hard and write well. Throw away any high-sounding titles, cool down any fiery lens of chasing fame and fortune, study hard, study hard. Of course, writers have to eat, which is a social problem. If it's about money, please don't be a writer, but become a businessman. If you love being famous so much, please be a civil servant. If you are so eager to be famous, please become an artist. Any good writer is the idol of the whole people and the backbone of the nation. He doesn't care about gains and losses, and he doesn't care about the undercurrent of ignorance and selfish desires. His life will be devoted to literature, just like Cao Xueqin, Balzac and Hugo. ...
I love literature and like to write all kinds of things in the world and trivial things in life with my heart. Everyone who loves literature should speak for the people. This is the greatest value as a writer.