The book "Perseverance" answered my questions about my growth.
Perseverance is an excellent character possessed by successful people. You may be talented in a certain area, but you must also have the courage to overcome difficulties, perseverance, and tenacity. The spirit of fighting, the life motto of falling seven times and getting up the eighth time, this kind of perseverance can make you go further in a certain aspect and lead to success.
Whether we treat other people's success, amazingness, and perfection, we marvel at this person's talent. In life, we always have a special preference for talented people, that is, smart people, and discriminate against those who are stupid and slow to respond. Naturally assign some results to smart people. The psychological implication is that smart people will definitely do better than dumb people.
We generally think that talent is important and focus on talent, but paying too much attention to talent will cause us to directly ignore all aspects of success, causing us to have some fatal deviations about the future. A person's success includes not only talent, but also hard work, perseverance and other aspects. Having talent does not mean achievement. Achievement is not just a person's talent.
Talent = Achievement
We always equate talent with achievement without thinking, but remove effort from it. This is a fatal mistake that most of us will make.
Skills are obtained through long and unremitting efforts by those who have talent, and achievements are the results obtained by those who have skills through hard work day after day. If a person wants to achieve something more than just a personal skill, then effort is counted twice instead of once.
If you like comics, you have the talent in this area, and through continuous efforts, you can become a cartoonist. If you have the skills, you will work tirelessly and finally become a cartoonist.
If a person has twice the talent of an ordinary person, he only needs to put in half the effort to acquire the same skills. But those ordinary people who have the same skills still persist in their efforts. In the long run, ordinary people achieve success in the end. People with talents are left behind, so we see that the people who achieve success are always a minority, and most of these minorities do not have such strong talents, but the character of perseverance allows them to achieve success on a path success.
If you have talent, it is impossible to achieve skills without hard work. If you have skills, it is impossible to achieve achievements without hard work. The word effort, this very important thing on the road to success, is ignored by most of us.
Dancer Martha Graham said: "It takes about 10 years to become a mature dancer." The researchers concluded: "It takes 10 years to become an especially skilled dancer." Years."
The final summary of these ten years is 1,000 hours of practice, but it is not a one-time 1,000 hours, but 1,000 hours of practice accumulated day after day, year after year. .
The process of 1,000 hours of deliberate practice is boring, and the process is even painful. People don’t like it that much, but the results are good, allowing us to have a smooth and comfortable flow experience.
First, they will designate a stretch goal, and then practice continuously, not to practice the skills they have mastered, but to practice the weak links and challenging parts.
Secondly, they will continue to practice hard during the process. A perseverant person will maintain a high degree of practice even if no one is around.
Then receive feedback and suggestions from others, and then deliberately practice the areas where the feedback is not good until they can do better in this area.
After completing the last stretch goal, set another stretch goal and continue practicing deliberately. Then all these small goals and various details finally formed a glorious achievement.
Set a fixed time and a comfortable fixed place to insist on deliberate practice and make deliberate practice a habit. This will enable us to persevere and overcome various difficulties.
We all encounter bad events in our lives, and optimists will look for temporary and specific causes of events, while pessimists will think that the causes of this event are permanent and universal. sexual.
People with perseverance generally view events optimistically, thinking that I can change events through hard work, face difficulties, and have the ability to get up again after falling.
Pessimistic people are particularly likely to form a fixed mentality, that is, I cannot change my abilities, thereby escaping reality. Optimistic people tend to develop a growth mindset, thinking that if they find the right time and enough support, they will change through hard work, develop perseverance, and look for new challenges that will make them stronger.
1. We can change our inherent mindset to a growth mindset. It is believed that intelligence, talents and abilities can be improved through hard work and are not static.
2. Good self-talk. Let some bad emotions not interfere with our goals. With some guidance and practical methods, we can change our thinking and thinking patterns, so that we can have the right direction of action when facing difficulties.
3. Ask for help.
Seeking help from more professional people is also a way to maintain hope
Talent had a great impact on my growth when I was a child. When I was a child, I was a stupid kid. Just like in the book Perseverance, when I was a child, the school would do intelligence tests. People with low intelligence were assigned to ordinary classes, and people with high intelligence were assigned to gifted classes.
Although I was not tested for intelligence when I was in elementary school, almost everyone, including my parents, would distinguish me from the people around me. I was stupid and other children were smart. In addition, I was looked down upon by teachers and classmates, and even bullied by them. They would do some things that hurt my self-esteem, which further formed a solid consciousness in my mind. I also thought that I was stupid.
I remember when I was in the fourth grade of elementary school, I scored 52 points on the math test, and another student in the class scored 42 points. The teacher suddenly asked us to write this score on a piece of paper. Walk around in the class, in the hallway, and around. God, wherever I go, wherever the laughter comes, I can always remember the faces of those hateful and disgusting classmates and the hateful faces of the teachers.
And I was like the shame of being nailed to the score of 52. My young heart was very hurt. It was particularly uncomfortable at the time. I was young at that time and didn’t understand what it was. When I grow up, Later I discovered that it was self-esteem, the feeling of being stepped on severely.
When I write down these secrets hidden in my heart, I can still feel my heart trembling. The experience of this stupid kid has been an everlasting shadow on my growth and has been with me all my life.
When I was in primary school, I was very eager to get a certificate, but unfortunately, I didn’t have one. When I was in fifth grade, our head teacher felt that I was making rapid progress and promised to give me a "Progressed Student" certificate after I finished the final exam. I was very, very looking forward to it.
As a result, I did not do well in the final exam, and the teacher gave the certificate to another classmate who did well. At that time, I felt extremely disappointed. It happened that after my younger brother came home from the final exam, he took a certificate to his father and said, "Dad, look, my sister didn't get the certificate again." At that time, I finally couldn't hold it anymore and burst into tears.
Later my father bought me a repeater, which was very popular at the time. I also happen to be learning English. The teacher teaches English from January to December. When I first started to learn English, it sounded very strenuous, so I listened to it every night for a week before going to bed.
The teacher asked the students in the first row to ask English words from January to December, but from the first to the fourth row, no student could read them, even if it was January. It was my time, and I didn't know if I would finish reading it, but I didn't panic, stood up confidently, and read the English words from January to December in one breath.
Everyone was stunned and looked at me in surprise. From then on, not only did I learn English, Chinese, and mathematics, I even improved my grades in junior high school chemistry, physics, and high school. One subject, one is good. A girl actually loves to study mathematics, physics and chemistry. She is particularly good at mathematics, physics and chemistry. The boy sitting in the front row has always been unconvinced that I am good at studying. One day, I got full marks in the second paper of high school mathematics, and the boy finally convinced me. Said, "You are so awesome, you actually got perfect scores in math!" I went from a poor student to an excellent student.
A person who was a stupid kid since he was a child actually grew up to be good at mathematics, physics and chemistry, and mathematics, physics and chemistry that are exclusive to boys were learned very well by a girl. What magical power does this contain? Will a child who was scolded by his teacher as having a stupid head like a rock in elementary school be ranked first in the class and 16th in the grade in high school? Until I saw the book Perseverance, it helped me open up my doubts.
At this moment, I think this is probably - perseverance. It is the quality of perseverance that magnifies my potential infinitely and transforms a stupid child into a particularly smart person.
I seem to see how precious the truth is. My past experiences are like those cases recorded by the author of this book, Angela Duckworth, and they seem to recreate the wonderfulness of the cases.
So never underestimate that person who doesn’t look like much. He may have perseverance and will impress you one day. And never look down on that person who looks great. He may not have perseverance, and his attitude of contempt for hard work will cause the glory of the moment to fall apart.
Now I have started a strange but passionate field, writing. I still have a lot of uncertainties about myself. I am in a vortex of being unsteady, insecure and unconfident. I doubt whether I can take the path of writing. After reading this book "Perseverance", it gave me a great deal. The courage is like a light shining into my heart in the darkness.
Now that you have started, you have to ask yourself like Cody in this book, "Why not try? If I try, there may be a chance. If I don't try, there will be no chance at all." Any chance."
Why do we always tell ourselves with a fixed mentality at the beginning, I may not be able to do it, I have no ability, I have no talent, I have no intelligence, I may not be able to do it? Why deny yourself before you even start?
I started, then I have to study hard like Cody. Just do what Jamin Franklin did in this book. He used deliberate practice to improve his writing skills.
He would collect the best articles from magazines, read them over and over again, take notes, and save the originals. In order to improve language skills, practice over and over again, changing poetry into prose, and changing prose into poetry.
Perseverance is a particularly powerful character that maximizes the potential of each of us. It makes our goals on the road of life clearer and allows us to have a deeper understanding of ourselves and to Pursue what you love and have passion for, work hard to move forward, practice deliberately, repeat, overcome various challenges in life over and over again, face difficulties, and finally achieve your life goals. The quality of perseverance will sublimate the meaning of our lives, not only improve our self-worth, but also make great contributions to others and society.
Although I don’t read many books, I am glad that every book I read has important inspirations for my life. The book "Perseverance" will be another chapter in my life. Another important turning point in thoughts, thinking, and psychology.
After closing this book, I wrote the word "perseverance" on the wall of my desk to inspire me to move towards a brighter life.