Zhang Youyi, in 1922, made most people in China know her, just because she didn't want to, but she became the first newly divorced person since the Republic of China. Of course, all this is thanks to her husband. There are not many photos left by Zhang Youyi, but just one photo shows her dignified atmosphere and quiet eyes. Such a woman should be cherished and cared for by her husband all her life.
However, she accepted an arranged marriage of "parents' orders and matchmakers' words". Her husband is Xu Zhimo, a poet whose passion is more important than responsibility and who always pursues "the only soul mate" like fire. Her long marriage with Xu Zhimo had an irreparable "congenital deficiency" from the beginning.
After all, she is just a victim of Xu Zhimo's resistance to the arranged fate. Accepting her means accepting the old-fashioned marriage and family arrangements, which is contrary to his advocacy of free love. So, shortly after he got married, he declared that "I want to be the first divorced man in China". He did it. On their wedding night, Zhang Youyi's dream withered before it came true.
And Zhang Youyi, also because of Xu Zhimo, is intertwined with the fate of Lin and Lu Xiaoman, which has become a unique landscape for women in the Republic of China.
At first, I didn't think she had met this marriage, but she heard that Xu Zhimo was introduced by her family, and with her trust in her elders, she was full of expectations for this marriage. She thought, maybe you can't live without the deep affection of "thrush is deep and fashionable", maybe you can't live without the romance of "gambling on books and splashing tea", but you can always respect each other, right?
What she didn't expect at all was that her husband's rejection of her in the future was forced to start by accepting this arranged marriage. He looked at her photo, glanced at it a little, and concluded, "Hillbilly." After that, the impression of this "bumpkin" left a mark on her.
Facing her, his eyes never drifted over her head and threw them into the distance. He blamed her, but he never thought that as the other side of the marriage, she also had commitments and contributions. At that time, she was also a fancy woman of 16, 17 years old, which was the most dreamy and beautiful time for women.
Sometimes, I can't bear to guess that if the object of arranged marriage is Lin, because Xu Zhimo hates arranged marriage itself and has the nature of "following feelings" to find a "soul mate", the outcome may not be much better than that of Zhang Youyi. The poet's self and willfulness can be seen.
How can she be a "bumpkin" My grandfather was the magistrate of the Qing Dynasty, and my father was the rich man in Baoshan County, Shanghai. Zhang Junli, the eldest brother, is one of the leaders of inspirational society, a man of the hour in politics and one of the main drafters of the Constitution of the Republic of China. He is known as the "father of the Constitution of the Republic of China" and a famous philosopher.
The second brother, Zhang Jiaao, is the governor of the central bank and the minister of the Ministry of Railways. At the beginning of the 20th century, the Zhang family was definitely a prominent family. She also received a modern education. 12 years old entered Jiangsu Provincial Normal School for Women.
In fact, if you think about it carefully, if Zhang Youyi's life experience is ordinary, how can he get into the eyes of the Hsu family? Marriage has never been a matter for two people, let alone a famous family like the Zhang family and the Xu family.
Zhang Youyi is also a sensible woman. /kloc-when he was 0/6 years old, he married into a famous family like the Xu family. If her behavior is not dignified enough and her speech is not decent enough, it is estimated that it is difficult for her in-laws to like her. But judging from the in-laws' support for Zhang Youyi, she is obviously popular.
Break up with you, forget each other in the Jianghu.
After marriage, Zhang Youyi soon became pregnant and gave birth. Xu Zhimo, who believes that he has completed the task of carrying on the family line, can't wait to leave home to study in Beijing and then go to the United States. There he met the "goddess" Lin, who was a smash hit. He is madly in love with her and has no scruples about having a wife and children.
The situation of Shaston, an English town, was later described in detail by Zhang Youyi. Maybe Xu Zhimo doesn't want to be alone with her. As soon as she went, Xu Zhimo invited Guo Yushang, a China student, to live with her.
At this point, Zhang Youyi was pregnant. When she wanted to tell Xu Zhimo the news with a trace of expectation and joy, what she heard was that he wanted to divorce her and let her abort the child. At that time, the risk of miscarriage was great, but Xu Zhimo said indifferently: "There are still people who died by train. Do you think people don't take the train? "
After that, Xu Zhimo suddenly disappeared from Zhang Youyi's life. Clothes, books are still there, even glasses are still on the open pages, but people never appear again. Guo Yushang, who felt strange and abnormal, twisted his luggage early in the morning a few days later. After breakfast, she drifted away, leaving Zhang Youyi pregnant.
I don't need to think about how bad Zhang Youyi is now. Originally regarded as relying on her husband, she chose to disappear without warning. But she doesn't speak the language, has financial difficulties, is unfamiliar with the environment and is pregnant.
Hate, also want to have time and energy, and Zhang Youyi doesn't even have the time and energy to hate, she is not only for herself, but also for her unborn child to make a living in a lonely foreign country.
Affection is always a person's last warmth and confidence. She wrote to her second brother who studied in France and her seventh brother who studied in Germany. With the help of her second brother and seventh brother, she first went to France, then went to Berlin, Germany, and gave birth to her second son Peter at 1922.
Just one month after giving birth to the baby, Xu Zhimo rushed to Berlin with a clear purpose: to get Zhang Youyi to sign the divorce papers without waiting for a moment. Zhang Youyi stared at her husband's eager eyes. He longed for, not for the children, nor for her, but to get rid of them and find "freedom" and "soul mate" in his life. Without too much entanglement, he wrote and signed.
Some people show pride and think they are backbone, but the real backbone is carved in the bones and hidden in the flesh and blood. Zhang Youyi is naturally the latter. Let nature take its course and leave. So there is no love, no warmth, and you may be placed in a desert marriage at any time, so be it. From now on, I will break up with you and forget each other in the Jianghu.
At this time, Xu Zhimo, who was free, pursued Lin with unspeakable passion, but unexpectedly Lin quietly returned to China with Liang Sicheng and soon married another woman.
Even spare tires should be cultivated into goddesses.
After Xu Zhimo's death, Lu Xiaoman quickly withered and withered; However, after her husband forced her to divorce and lost her beloved son, Zhang Youyi suddenly realized that she was on her own in life.
Maybe the child is really a gift from God to this couple. When he feels unwelcome, he will choose to leave. Peter, who had never been taken care of by his father, died of peritonitis at the age of 3, left them and returned to heaven.
Zhang Youyi was in great pain, and the early death of her young son became the shadow of her life: his arrival failed to win her husband's favor, let alone his parents' expectation of happiness. I can hardly get fatherly love, and even maternal love is extremely limited. Because Zhang Youyi was busy with his studies, Peter, who frequently claimed that he had a stomachache, was left out for half a year. In the end, it is hard to return.
On the train back from Berlin, there are large green fields outside the window. However, Zhang Youyi was holding his youngest son's urn, but he was not in the mood to enjoy the scenery outside the window. Her face is always calm, a kind of stillness.
After nearly a hundred years, let's look back on the years. Zhang Youyi was afraid of herself on that train, and the days of relying on her husband are gone forever. Zhang Youyi later admitted that after returning from Berlin, her life was divided into two parts.
Pain makes people awake. The marriage broke down and Zhang Youyi began to think about all the old things, afraid of her husband's abandonment and divorce. As a result, although she was treading on thin ice, she was severely hit by fate and fell into endless abyss and mud. She died once and was born again, and the whole world changed before her. What can't be lost? What is there to be afraid of?
Many years later, she won a reputation for herself. When she mentioned the divorce, she smiled indifferently: "I want to thank Xu Zhimo for his divorce. If it weren't for the divorce, I might never find myself and never grow up. "
Zhang Youyi may not have a chance to be a successful wife because of Xu Zhimo, but she is definitely a successful wife. When Xu Zhimo divorced, the old couple announced that they would stop giving him financial aid, but handed over the economic power to Zhang Youyi.
In Germany, she studied German hard, overcame language barriers and spoke standard and fluent German. I studied in Pestalozzi College, majoring in preschool education, and continued to complete my studies that were interrupted at the age of 15.
After returning to China, I founded Shang Yun Clothing Company. Although it is a partnership, in fact, everyone is in the majority, and she is the main operator. She doesn't want to be a boss, but as a "manager", she always thinks that this is a "small business with eight brothers and a few friends". Among those friends, Xu Zhimo is also included.
The phoenix nirvana of Zhang Youyi has gradually found its own stage. She successfully runs Shang Yun Clothing Company, selling ready-made clothes and taking orders. Hang the exquisite finished products in the store, and then modify them according to the customer's figure.
Shang Yun's clothing materials are exquisite, and he pays great attention to details to highlight his taste. For example, beading, buttons and ribbons are exquisite and unique, and they are also very innovative in style. It not only adopts three-dimensional cutting method, but also combines Chinese and western cultural elements, which quickly became popular in Shanghai.
In addition, because their partners are celebrities, many upper-class ladies and celebrities are proud to wear "Shang Yun" clothes. Shang Yun has become a leading women's clothing company. Even later, Zhang Youyi became the president of Shanghai Women's Commercial Savings Bank, and went to the clothing company for inspection and supervision after work every day.
The success of "Shang Yun" clothing not only made Zhang Youyi rich, but also made her name spread in the fashion circle at that time. The "bumpkin" in Xu Zhimo's mouth is now leading the fashion trend in Shanghai and even China. Zhang Youyi became a legend. Zhang Youyi told the abandoned wives all over the world with her own experience that even if she was abandoned, she could be so proud and so popular.
Compared with the richness and scenery of Zhang Youyi, Xu Zhimo was much more embarrassed after marrying Lu Xiaoman. In fact, Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo are children who need love and care in their bones, and they are not suitable for a fireworks-like life. They can imagine life together. Lu Xiaoman continued her profligate and decadent life, while Xu Zhimo had to work part-time everywhere in order to support his family, and often went to Peking University by postal plane to give lectures to supplement his family.
Xu Jiaer keeps his word, so there is no financial support. No parents don't care about their children. In the eyes of parents, all Xu Zhimo's behaviors are childlike willfulness. They believe that as time goes by like a knife, the poet's burning heart will gradually return to the world, and he will also long for stability. At that time, perhaps, he will return home calmly and naturally like a child who goes out to play. I'm afraid this is the reason why the Xu family no longer gives Xu Zhimo financial support.
So, they accepted Zhang Youyi as their adopted daughter and let her be the master of the house. Zhang Youyi helped Xu Zhimo pay several debts privately, and Xu Zhimo had mixed feelings in his heart. It's hard to imagine that when Xu Zhimo holds five jobs and struggles for his life, will he occasionally blame himself, think of Zhang Youyi, who was once ridiculed by him as a "bumpkin", and look at him with resigned eyes?
In fact, the person who is really suitable for Xu Zhimo is Zhang Youyi, but he has never given it to her all his life. They finally missed each other. He was the love of his life and paid the price of his life, while she tried to stand on her own feet and became a "spare tire".
He didn't give it to her Finally, fate gave it to her. Of course, the most important thing is that she can wake up in the deepest darkness and struggle out of the mud of fate. At the age of 50, with the support of her children, she married a China doctor who rented her downstairs. She is very gentle and has achieved worldly perfection.
Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi are always reminiscent of another arranged marriage that is strongly opposed-Lu Xun and Zhu An. Although Lu Xun didn't like Zhu An, even when he made his bed in Zhu An, he flew into a rage, uncovered the quilt and clamored to move the bed, but he never really abandoned Zhu An all his life. He always supports her life and keeps her with his mother.
When Zhu An is ill, Lu Xun will take her to see a doctor. Because Lu Xun knew that if he divorced Zhu An, it would undoubtedly force her to commit suicide. It was not until Lu Xun and Xu Guangping lived together and had children that Zhu Cai completely let go and called himself "Mr. Old Story".
Perhaps, like Zhu An, Zhang Youyi hopes that Xu Zhimo can go back and remarry, but unlike Zhu An, even as a spare tire, she is trying to cultivate herself in the direction of the goddess. Change is not without. With the establishment of Shang Yun Clothing Company, their relationship has begun to improve. Imagine that if Xu Zhimo had not had a plane crash, the outcome would be unpredictable.
For Xu Zhimo, whether she was unfaithful or remarried, she never accused him. Even after his death, she helped Lu Xiaoman and asked someone to publish poems for him, probably not because she still loved him, and how much love could withstand countless injuries? It is that she can face the years and injuries calmly and bravely.
Whatever you want, time will give it to you.
1927, Zhang Youyi moved to the home of fourth brother Zhang Gongquan in the British Concession, and accepted the invitation of Soochow University to teach students German. Just as she finished teaching German for one semester and planned to teach German for the second semester, Shanghai Women's Commercial Savings Bank suddenly found Zhang Youyi and asked her to be the president of the bank. This bank is run by some women, most of whom are female employees, but it is on the verge of bankruptcy due to poor management.
The chairman of Shanghai Women's Commercial Bank is Ouyang Huiran, who is the wife of Ou Bin, the manager of Shanghai Shixian Department Store. The president and business director is Yan Shuhe, who is experienced. At the same time, he is also the general manager of the bank, and Yao Zhilian is the deputy general manager. They hope that Zhang Youyi can turn the tide.
Zhang Youyi held a high position in the women's session at that time. Of course, they chose her because of her second brother's position in the financial world. She also feels that the life of teaching and running a clothing company can't display all her talents. She is also a person who likes challenges at heart, so she agreed.
At this time, fate opened another picture to Zhang Youyi. So, as long as you have enough patience and hard work, you will get what you want in the end.
This women's bank has actually become her kingdom. She put her desk in the last corner of the lobby, so that she can not only see the dynamics of the staff at any time, but also communicate most effectively. Moreover, how can the staff be lazy when they see that the president is working hard? Although she is the president, she goes to work on time at 9 o'clock every day and is never late.
Zhang Youyi's efforts, coupled with the support of his second brother, Chen Guangfu of Shanghai Commercial Bank and Li Fusun of Zhejiang Industrial Bank also strongly supported him, and his business situation improved day by day, and he soon turned losses into profits. By the end of 193 1, the total paid-in capital and savings capital of banks exceeded 20 million yuan, creating a miracle in the financial field.
As a result, "Shanghai Women's Commercial Bank" emerged in Shanghai banking industry and achieved great success. Women's banks are especially popular with women, the elderly and young people. In Zhang Youyi, which has experienced difficulties in Shaston, it is gratifying and bitter to see women working in nearby shops cash their wages and checks immediately and then deposit the money into their accounts. Zhang Youyi also became the first president of China Women's Bank.
With the rise of the ideological trend of women's liberation, Zhang Youyi has undoubtedly become a representative of women's independence by running such a bank with the purpose of promoting women's economic independence. With her business talent and personality charm, she won a good reputation for the bank. And relying on her personal ability and charm, she saved the bank in several crises.
After the outbreak of War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression, when the Japanese army occupied Shanghai, all the refugees went to the bank to withdraw cash. One day, a customer rushed into Shang Yun Clothing Company and found Zhang Youyi, demanding that she do everything possible to take away her 4000 yuan in the bank. However, once the cash is withdrawn, the women's bank is likely to close down.
Besides, it is not safe for the other party to escape with such a large sum of money. After discussing with the general manager, Zhang Youyi suggested that the customer accept the guarantee and return it with interest after the difficult period. The client agreed. The reason for the promise is: "If Zhang Youyi tells me that you guarantee the money, I believe you. I don't believe what others say, I believe what you say. "
Shanghai Women's Commercial Savings Bank survived the darkest and most turbulent period in China. It was not until 1955 that the public-private partnership in the financial industry came to an end and started for 3 1 year. This bank witnessed a woman's self-improvement, wisdom, shrewdness and profundity.
1949, Zhang Youyi left the mainland and married a Chinese medicine practitioner named Su in Hongkong. This time, she met someone who understood and cared about her. They have lived in Hong Kong for 28 years. Dr. Su died, and Zhang Youyi went to the United States to reunite with his beloved son.
Without Xu Zhimo, Zhang Youyi might be a good wife and mother at home. Because of meeting him, Zhang Youyi was pushed to the forefront by fate, which made the wound grow a red flower of life, fame and fortune, and his children and grandchildren wrapped around their knees. However, such growth, such success, 15 age, is this the life she originally wanted? She just held her breath and tried to compete with his frozen world. This is self-confidence and tenacity. So, she can help herself.