This is a book for my daughter. I didn't pay much attention to it before I bought it, thinking it was a story about foxes and grapes that we are still familiar with. When I opened it, I found that the content was completely different.
This is one of the few excellent picture books in China, which tells the story of a fox and grapes. This is a very clever fox. Through his own hard work and consulting others to cultivate and grow his own crops, he finally got a bumper harvest.
In order to grow the sweetest grape book, the fox went to the library and searched online, and specially visited the grape experts, and finally got the most authoritative truth-love!
However, what is love? In order to understand this truth, the fox decided to ask some top caring people for advice.
First, he found a sow, a very loving sow mother, who was nursing her piglets. She told the fox: love is for him to eat and feed!
Then, he found Father Goat, and Father Goat said that protecting her means having love!
Next, he found a gentleman who proposed to his girlfriend. The gentleman told the fox to rely on him. This is love.
Fourth, the fox found a teacher who was teaching the children to dance. The teacher said that love is to edify them with your own actions.
Finally, the fox found a priest, and the priest said. Love is patience.
The fox wrote these things down in his notebook and began to do them strictly: watering, fertilizing, catching pests, setting up grape racks and cultivating his grapes with sweet music. Grape has experienced flowering-fruiting-ripening, which is a patient process. Finally, the fox got a bumper harvest. He ate up all his achievements, leaving nothing.
From the story, the children saw a hardworking little fox, and got delicious grapes through his hard work. But I read the best way for husband and wife to get along.
1. To love someone is to rely on him.
When you love someone, you will become dependent on them.
The growth of grapes needs a grape trellis to climb, and the grape trellis needs grapes to set off, otherwise it is useless to stand straight there.
And love a person, it is necessary to become the other person's dependence, give the other person enough sense of security, make her tired, have a hug, hurt, and know how to ease. Even if it is a pair of eyes, it is silent love, even if it is silent thoughts, it is also practical peace of mind.
As the saying goes, you have to look back 500 times in your previous life before you can pass the test in this life. It's not easy to meet, but it's even harder to know each other and love each other. Only by relying on each other can we go on for a long time.
There is a saying to describe husband and wife: husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster strikes. How many people are sad? It is never the last straw that crushed marriage, but Qian Qian in life. When we are no longer dependent on each other, the only thing waiting for us is to go our separate ways!
Xiaoyu next door just got divorced two days ago. They used to be a model family that everyone envied. When we all live in daily necessities, it is still poetry and distance.
Travel together, watch movies together, exercise together ... as close as conjoined babies, and then all the beauty comes to an abrupt end at the moment when the children arrive.
Xiaoyu, born after childbirth, is seriously out of shape, soaring from 90 kg to 140 kg. Not only that, insomnia and depression also follow. I thought her beloved husband could help her in her most difficult days. But I never imagined that all I got was his indifference and indifference again and again!
In order not to be eliminated by society, Xiaoyu returned to work after maternity leave, while the child was still breastfeeding. Frequent night milk at night exhausted her and she had to face heavy work during the day. When I got home, I complained to my husband. My husband said directly: So-and-so in our unit also takes care of children. How do people balance family work? Why not?
Sadness that no one understands is staged again and again in the light rain life. Over time, Xiaoyu stopped asking her husband for help and complaining to him. She said her heart was cold. People who have vowed to take care of themselves all their lives can no longer rely on them in life. After all, they can only forget each other in the Jianghu.
2. If you love someone, you should support and reflect on each other.
Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu are both gifted scholars and beautiful women. The love between her and Qian Zhongshu must be envied and yearned by many modern men and women: holding your hand and growing old with your son is the real hand in hand.
The legendary long-term romance of soul mates is so true and transparent, so meaningful and touching by their marriage practice. This kind of love is undoubtedly the best love in the world.
And such love stems from their mutual support and appreciation.
Their love began with romantic "love at first sight". The first time Jiang Yang saw Qian Zhongshu, he was wearing a blue shirt and a pair of old-fashioned glasses. He was elegant and handsome, and he felt that he was "as beautiful as a fairy". Qian Zhongshu also thinks that Jiang Yang's face is white and delicate, his personality is gentle and kind, and he has his own charm.
At that time, although we met in a hurry and didn't even say a word, it was unforgettable. In the future, Qian Zhongshu wrote to Jiang Yang and asked her to meet. On their first date, they chatted happily. From then on, they began to correspond with each other and wrote letters more and more frequently, until one day they wrote a letter and they both fell in love.
"Just because I took one more look at you in the crowd, I never forgot your face." What a romantic and legendary relationship!
This relationship quickly turned into a positive result. In July 1935, Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu got married in Suzhou. Shortly after their marriage, Qian Zhongshu won the Sino-British Geng Scholarship for Studying Abroad. Considering that her husband is a gentleman who can't take care of himself, Jiang Yang is afraid that he can't take care of his health, so he will stop his studies in Tsinghua and accompany him to study in Britain and France. During her study tour, Jiang Yang took care of all chores in her daily life, cooking and dressing, cleaning and shopping, and got the kitchen under the hall, becoming the "most virtuous wife" in Qian Zhongshu's mind.
She is still "the most talented woman" in his mind. In fact, Jiang Yang was famous for his writing before Qian Zhongshu. When Fortress Besieged was published, people didn't know who Qian Zhongshu was and were told that he was "Jiang Yang's husband". Jiang Yang wrote many successful plays and translated the famous work Don Quixote, especially his prose. Even Qian Zhongshu admitted: "Jiang Yang's prose is better than mine." Before his novel Fortress Besieged was adapted into a script, Jiang Yang wrote a paragraph-by-paragraph revision when reading the script, which gave him great support for his creation.
They have appreciated, supported, reflected and tolerated each other for many years. Really not only a secular caring couple, but also a soul mate.
3. If you love someone, be patient.
How much love, lost to a real marriage.
When two people enter the besieged city of marriage from passionate love, they show everything naked in front of each other and tear off the white veil between them, everything seems so unreal. At one time, we all tried our best to show our best. Now, everything is back to the beginning.
We all envy the love we had, the time when we only loved one person in our lives.
Perhaps this "once slow" life, like my parents' generation, is simple and beautiful. Because I saw you again in the crowd, and you are my world from now on. I will endure for a lifetime, and your goodness and badness will become dazzling stars on the horizon in the long river of time, illuminating my life.
The most enviable love is to love only one person all your life, just as the lyrics say, "All your life, snow is you, plain is you, poverty is you, glory is you, tenderness in your heart is you, and eyes are you." And all this requires our constant patience.
True love is a time when we depend on each other, cherish each other and influence each other to make a boring life interesting!