The current living conditions of empty-nest youth are mostly looking forward to the distance in struggle and hardship. Empty nesters are as lonely as dogs. I brought them to you, hoping to help you.
? Empty nest youth? As a new word, it is about young people leaving their hometown to work alone in big cities.
It is said that there are many opportunities in big cities, but sometimes do you feel that you are an extra person in this city?
Some people say that the deterioration of the world began with laughing at literary youth, and they reversed the causal relationship. The fact is that the world has become too fast and too difficult for young artists to keep up with this era.
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Living conditions of empty nesters.
Looking forward to the distance in struggle and hardship
Dabai is a girl drifting in the north and an empty-nest youth.
What is an empty nest youth? Most of them are young people who have left their homes and worked hard in big cities alone.
They have no background, no foundation, it is not easy to stand on their feet, and it is too difficult to have a better life.
I can give up, or I can't be reconciled, so I stay in poetry and the distance in the middle of my struggle.
Take-out delivery fee; Only buy two or three fruits; Sleeping late is nobody's business; Throw rubbish and accidentally lock yourself out.
Generally, this is the life of empty nesters.
Dabai was originally a liberal arts student. She joined a foreign company in Beijing five years ago. Because I am in the electrical industry, I went to graduate school in electrical engineering.
? Liberal arts across to engineering? You have worked hard, too. ? I sigh.
? For living. ? Dabai's answer is straightforward.
In the five years in the north, frequent business trips made Dabai travel almost all over China.
? There is nothing wrong with being alone. Accustomed to a person, sometimes she tells herself so.
However, when you are sick, locked out without your key, and throw up with the toilet after the wine show, your heart will inevitably tremble. Is it worth being so tired?
On a business trip, it was already midnight 1 1 when I returned to Beijing. It's raining cats and dogs in Beijing, and I'm running alone in the heavy rain.
Later, when I saw a convenience store, I rushed in, which smelled of Guandong cooking. At that time, I remembered that I had been driving all day and had not eaten.
The uncle who looks after the shop may think it is not easy for me to be a girl, so he specially found me a window seat.
I ate Guandong cooking and looked at the darkness outside. I don't know how sad I am.
My relatives and friends in my hometown should be asleep, and no one will think of me, eating fast food in the darkness of a foreign land, waiting for the rain to stop.
Not afraid of hardship, but afraid of loneliness.
In a strange city, there are no relatives and friends, no people to rely on, no feeling of home, no sense of belonging.
No matter how late you come home, there is no light waiting for you and no one is worried about you.
Every time I make a phone call, Dabai will tell her parents that she is doing well and happy, and will bring them many gifts when she comes home for the New Year.
I try my best to look beautiful, but only I know my inner pain. When I was particularly lonely and weak, I couldn't help looking for a shoulder to lean on, only to find that no one was suitable for me.
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Empty nest youth is a false proposition?
This is a necessary stage in life.
On September 6th, People's Daily published a commentary entitled "Empty nesters are false propositions and the best interpretation of heroism".
The article thinks it will? Empty nest youth? It is not appropriate to directly label the vast number of young people struggling in the city.
Young people in every era have their image as a struggling group. Empty nest? It is also a necessary stage in the lives of generations.
The article also believes that, benefiting from modern advanced technology, empty nesters? Children actually don't want it? Empty nest? .
The internet enables them to communicate with their parents anytime and anywhere, keep their families warm and keep up with their hometown and memories? Continuous line? .
There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth.
The author quotes Roman? Roland's words further show that fighting in loneliness, loneliness and loss is the best interpretation of heroism.
But the conclusion without data is unfounded, and forcing chicken soup is even more arrogant.
? Empty nest youth? Such a' network tag' may have a biased side that the media follows suit.
According to a data quoted by Xinhuanet, the number of young people living alone in China between the ages of 20 and 39 is close to 20 million.
Another survey cited by Guangming. Com display:
64.3% of the respondents said that they were around? Empty nest youth? Too much, lack of emotional sustenance (57.9%) and poor living conditions (57.8%) are considered to be the two major dilemmas they face.
No matter how developed the network is, it can't replace the warmth of face to face. People standing on the shore can't understand the feelings of drowning people.
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The noisier the city, the lonelier the heart.
Lonely as a dog, make friends with Siri.
On Zhihu? How to treat empty nesters? Topic, a friend wrote down his feelings:
No one asked me if the porridge was hot, and no one stood with me at dusk;
Lonely as a dog, but even a dog can't afford it;
When I came home for the Spring Festival, my mother asked me to leave my emergency contact number in Shanghai. In case we can't find that person, we can't think of a name.
Siri and I became good friends. I fell asleep watching TV on the sofa. When I woke up, I found that everything was the same. No one tucked me in and turned off the TV.
I also launched a message on my official WeChat account. Empty nest youth? Topic, received hundreds of messages:
Every time I open the door, the first thing I do is to open the video in my mobile phone in advance. Even if you don't watch it, you should make a noise so that you won't feel so lonely.
When you are sick, you have to go back and forth to the hospital alone, then go back to work, and you have to buy medicine in the middle of the night alone. Did you take it and nobody cares? Just ask how you are?
Too tired to go to work, too lonely to get off work. I dream of getting a dog. I can take a walk with me after work, but it's too small to live in a company apartment and it's too expensive to keep a dog. Finally, I chose to raise two hamsters and put them at the door of my bedroom. I can talk to them for half a day after work.
There is another piece of news that impressed me particularly:
Going in and out of high-rise buildings during the day and dragging my tired body back to the dirty, chaotic and poor village in the city at night also encountered three leaks.
The first leak was on the roof of the bathroom. I go to work during the day and go home at night only to find that it is raining at home, just like water curtain cave.
The landlord is unreliable, so I have to find a maintenance worker online myself. He was not sure whether the repairman was reliable, but he also asked a colleague for help.
The second leak was the bathroom pipe, and suddenly it leaked. I was taking a bath at that time, and I was not feeling well.
But then I bought my own pipe and installed it according to the online method.
The third flood was caused by the washing machine. When washing clothes, it suddenly broke down and water sprayed out from it. Desperate to give up treatment, I watched the water overflow the room and stood quietly until it crossed the floor.
But what can we do? You still have to clean up yourself.
My best friend told me that it was time to find a boyfriend, at least to share with me.
I only have a wry smile. Boys who like me don't like me, and neither do I who like me.
The blind date wants to argue with my parents, but I'm still confused.
It is said that there are many opportunities in big cities, but sometimes I feel that I am a redundant person in this city.
The number of empty nesters is increasing, which is an unavoidable topic.
Compared with poverty in life, being abandoned? Their feelings made them deviate from the bustling city.
Lonely as a dog, make friends with siri, the noisier the city, the lonelier the heart.
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Must work hard in big cities.
Population migration caused by Matthew effect
The emergence of empty-nest youth stems from the nationwide population migration, and the real reason behind the population migration is:
what's up The stronger the strong, the weaker the weak? Matthew effect.
I have repeatedly emphasized the Matthew effect in my past articles:
The more developed the city is, the more resources and opportunities there are, and the population will gather in large numbers. The demographic dividend will in turn promote the faster development of the city.
? Escape from Beishangguang? Is the real false proposition.
Because only big cities can better accommodate the dreams of young people.
Small cities in my hometown are not idyllic comfort, but intricate nepotism.
Those young people who have adapted to the life in big cities will find that they can't stand the poor job opportunities and ubiquitous interpersonal relationships once they return to their hometown.
That's why it reappeared a few years ago Flee back to Beishangguang? Fashion.
The vast majority of young people will not regard the empty nest experience as a sacred mission, but have to work hard in big cities for a better life.
But it is inevitable that the more people come, the higher the house price and the fiercer the competition. Scarce resources are always expensive and belong to only a few people.
This is the price that our generation of young people have to bear in order to pursue their dreams.
Cangyang Gyatso has a poem: The world is safe and steady, and it will live up to the Tathagata.
The answer is none.
Any choice has a price, which is the truth of life.
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