Selected essays: The tea is not cold when you leave
A quiet home
A friend whom I haven’t seen for a long time has returned from a distant place and made an appointment to have tea and reminisce. I picked out a long dress that I liked and happily went to the appointment.
Perhaps they have been separated for too long, or perhaps they have experienced too much. When they meet again, except for polite greetings, it seems that they can no longer find topics of interest to each other. Even the tea they liked to drink the most in the past has no familiar taste. However, they are still acquaintances, and talking about old friendships has alleviated a lot of embarrassment. From this point of view, if an old friend comes back again, there is no need to ask about the future. It is enough time for a pot of tea to air out the old memories.
After saying goodbye to my friend, I received a message from her before I got home: Thank you, I can still remember the past and the friendship between us. I thought that in this city, I was already a stranger after leaving for a long time.
I gently typed the next sentence: The tea is not cold when you leave.
In fact, it’s not that the topic of homosexuality disappears after we have been separated for a long time, but that many people have been chilled by the saying “the tea is cool when people leave”...
< p> I once had a colleague who resigned and went to other places due to personal reasons. During the Spring Festival in the first year, she returned to her hometown and brought some specialties back to her workplace to visit her old colleagues. However, many people's indifferent attitudes and perfunctory words made her never show up again. I asked a colleague who was once a good friend of hers: You were so good in the past, why do you feel like strangers when we meet again?I never informed the colleague who left about her reply. She said: Now that we are no longer colleagues, why are we still so enthusiastic? Besides, she used to be my superior, but now she has nothing to do with me, so why should I fawn over her?
At that time, I felt as if there was an iceberg in my heart, which collapsed instantly, and the hard ice cubes flew away in all directions.
It turns out that the so-called "goodness" and the so-called "old love" can actually be temporary "flattery", or, to put it more nicely, it is all about "acting skills". I finally understood the weight of such a sentence, "When people leave, the tea will cool down." Since some favors are obtained in exchange for benefits, of course the tea will be cold when the person leaves. Only true friendship is a cup of heart-warming hot tea.
I have had a similar experience, so I understand how profound this "coolness" is. No matter how long we have been apart from friends or colleagues, when we meet again, I always smile and say: Let's go for tea. Not cool yet.
In this world, there is an emotional need between people, which has nothing to do with identity, status, or wealth. Moreover, such feelings need to be mutual and sincere. It is different from "catering", different from "flattery", and even different from "perfunctory".
Many times, there is a "mutual use" relationship between people. Of course, this "use" should more often be a compliment. There has always been controversy between the good and evil of human nature, and the winner has not yet been decided. But I would rather believe that true friendship can withstand the test of place and time. Just like a cup of tea, it will naturally get cold after being left for a long time, but when you want to drink it, you can reheat it, so the cup of tea will still be as warm as ever. It's a pity that some people left, and no one was willing to heat the cup of tea.
A cup of hot tea has warmed the hearts of many people. If I leave, whose tea will become cold, I don't want to guess, and I can't guess. We cannot use our own temperature to warm every cup of tea, but we can warm the cup of tea in front of us.
On a drizzly evening, I passed by a bar and accidentally saw a large line of words on the clean glass window. It instantly warmed my heart: Leave a light for you at any time.
That light is like a candle in the cold dark night, small but full of power.
And I also want to write a sentence in the palm of every friend who passes through my life: The tea is not cold when you leave...
Editor's Note The article is meticulous and spreads beauty. In a fast-paced city with indifferent people, people need to uphold their own hearts.
2018.8.30 Yumuzhai