Someone in Zhihu asked: What are educated people like?
The best answer is: engraved on the face, engraved on the heart? Respect? Two words.
From the relatives and friends of the elders to the children of the younger generation, he always gets along with them with respect, never raising himself or belittling others.
People will always meet too many people in their life, and there is no need to divide their existence into high and low.
On the contrary, people who get along with others and gain a sense of superiority can be called ignorance.
Being a man is such a principle.
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Excellent people know how to respect others.
Ji Xiaolan, a college student, has been to Wutai Mountain.
When he entered the temple, the abbot looked at him and saw his general way. He said, sit down? Call again? Tea? Eat with casual tea.
Knowing that he was a guest from Beijing, the abbot stood up respectfully and immediately led Ji into the inner hall and changed his name to:? Please sit down and make tea. ?
After detailed discussion, I realized that it was Ji Xiaolan, the minister of does. The abbot humbly led Ji Xiaolan into the meditation room and smiled awkwardly. Please sit down and make tea. ?
When Ji Xiaolan left, the abbot took out a pen and paper. He insisted that Ji Xiaolan stay in Mo Bao to show off the temple.
I saw Ji Xiaolan with a good face write such a couplet:? Sit down, sit down, sit down; Tea, make tea, make good tea. ?
The abbot was ashamed when he saw this.
There is a saying: others respect you, not because you are excellent, but because others are excellent.
This may be a blow to many people, but in retrospect, it is true:
When a person is not in contact with acquaintances, he will always unconsciously raise himself and enjoy the respectful appearance of others in front of him.
And often a good man never thinks so.
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The most taboo of being a man is to have a sense of identity.
Many people care about whether they are decent or not, in order to be cocky in front of others or to show their sense of identity.
So this kind of person is used to comparing with his own identity when interacting with others.
High status, servile; Low status, dogs look at people.
In Xingtai 1966 earthquake, Premier Zhou Enlai rushed to the earthquake area at the first time.
A farmer's grandmother poured a bowl of water for the Prime Minister to drink, but the bowl was covered with corn flour and looked very dirty.
The accompanying doctor tried to stop him, but was rejected by the Prime Minister.
Then Premier Zhou picked up the bowl and gulped it down. This move moved everyone present.
The value of a person lies not in his high position, but in his ability to remain humble to others forever.
Those who think they are noble are not worthy of respect.
Zhuge Liang once said: Don't be expensive and cheap. ?
A man of status, he lost at the beginning.
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True respect is a kind of cultivation.
Carnegie, the master of interpersonal relationship, once said: respect other people's opinions and never say: you are wrong! ?
Mr. Lu Xun once gave a banquet at home, and his son sat at the same table facing the sea.
When eating fish balls, all the guests praised the freshness and delicacy of the fish balls, only Yinghai said: the fish balls are sour! ?
As soon as the mother heard this, she immediately blamed the child for his nonsense and unruly behavior.
Seeing his unhappy son being scolded aside, Lu Xun tasted the fish balls that his son had bitten, which was really not very fresh.
People are always used to falling into a state of strong self-affirmation and sticking to their own views.
True respect is not politeness in social occasions, but recognition and understanding of people, which is a rare accomplishment.
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Respect for others is solemnity.
People have unlimited possibilities in this life, but those brave people who finally win often have a kind temperament.
At least I won't feel embarrassed when I contact him. The atmosphere is always mild.
This is a new aura and a rare personality charm.
A true wise man knows better than anyone. Respecting others is actually respecting yourself, and respecting others is respecting yourself.
Remember, don't be expensive and cheap