Family is of special significance in the traditional culture of China. Confucianism advocates self-cultivation, keeping the family in order and governing the country. If the family is not harmonious and the backyard is often on fire, it is impossible to do great things. The ancients often compared the home country with the world, which shows the importance of the family. Indeed, although a family is small, there are many things that are as complicated as social affairs. As the saying goes, it is difficult for an honest official to break housework. It may be easy to manage state affairs, but housework can't be sorted out. Many great people have done great things, but their families are in a mess. Every family has its own problems that others don't know. We always think that other people's homes are quiet and peaceful, and we admire and admire them in our hearts, but we don't know that the surface is calm and problems are piling up. It's just that some people hide it well, some people don't want to expose their dirty linen, and some people don't care if they can perfunctory it.
Among all family problems, economic problems are the most common. The so-called but not as those who have been poor together know, the family is poor and disputes are inevitable. Poor family, left and right, clumsy, life is a problem, let alone others. Everyone is short, and people feel short of breath. The family situation is not good, so I am not in a good mood. Although rich families also have a lot of troubles, poor families are definitely more unhappy. Money may not buy happiness, but there is no happiness without money.
Emotional problems are eternal family problems. Especially in a family with many members, we will not suffer inequality because of widowhood. Everyone wants wealth but can't get it. Parents have different feelings for their children. Of course, they blame each other and even fight with each other.
The most difficult emotional problem in the family is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which has been a difficult problem since ancient times. Because it leads to family tragedies everywhere. The story told in the well-known classic poem Peacock Flying Southeast stems from the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Jiao Zhongqing's husband-wife relationship was originally harmonious, but due to her mother-in-law's strict requirements, Jiao Zhongqing's wife couldn't bear it, went home angrily and was forced to get married by her mother-in-law. In desperation, Jiao Zhongqing and his wife both committed suicide, which became an eternal tragedy. Lu You, a poet in the Song Dynasty, also encountered this problem. After he married his cousin Tang Wan, their feelings were very harmonious. But his mother disliked Tang Wan so much that she forced him to abandon Tang Wan. Lu you had to do it. Although both of them have their own families, they are both very sad and care about each other. Lu You also visited Tang Wan later. After Tang Wan's death, Lu You once again came to the Liangyuan where Tang Wan lived, and wrote poems to express his deep nostalgia: a corner of the sunset painting on the city was mourned, and the Shen Garden was not revived. Under the sad bridge, the spring waves are green, which used to be a stunning photo.
The relationship between husband and wife is the most important issue in the family. It is not easy to live in the same room for decades. Even if it is sweet and loving at first, it is dull all day long. The so-called familiarity, no scenery. Gentle time will inevitably kill the years. What's more, people with weak emotional foundation are more likely to get bored after years of getting along. Some even broke up noisily and went their separate ways. Sometimes couples who look particularly well-matched to outsiders have actually reached the freezing point; There are also couples who quarrel all day, but they stumble through life together. Difficult scriptures are known only by Buddhist practitioners, and outsiders only see the unreal surface.
Children's education is also a difficult problem in the family. Modern families, in particular, have to face various educational challenges. Every year, we will see groups of young people entering the university. I don't know how many families have made great sacrifices behind each child. Youth and ignorance, adolescent rebellion, parents' anxiety, family crisis. A sleepless night, years of worry, poor wind. Only when the children are admitted to the university normally can the family tide over the difficulties.
Natural and man-made disasters are the most easily broken factors in a family. In case of natural disasters, sometimes a family is completely destroyed, such as earthquakes, floods and droughts. Even if this family is lucky enough to be preserved, it is incomplete. But it's providence, and manpower can't compete. And pain and suffering, accidents, but also bring great changes to the family culprit. As long as someone in a family is terminally ill, it means that the family will never be at peace. And sudden accidents may make every member of a family bear a heavy burden all his life.
Although the family is the smallest unit in society, it has to go through all kinds of difficulties. Every family has different problems, some of which appear in stages, so solve them immediately. Some problems are protracted and entangled for life. Every family will not always be smooth sailing, and problems will inevitably follow, or coexist at the same time. The difference lies in how to solve the problem and the attitude and mentality to solve the problem.