From the fourth month of our son's life, before breast-feeding, we first gave him some mandarin juice, and then added banana puree, apple puree, carrot puree, green vegetable porridge and so on. When he was a little older, he began to feed him soup and eat boiled eggs and potatoes. Cereal crops are the best food that most children like to eat, but Carl doesn't like them. I think a child's favorite food is good food, so I only give him what he likes. But we won't let him eat meat until he is two years old.
There is a German proverb that says, "A person's character depends on food." Food does have something to do with people's personality. Some people once advocated "food therapy". They thought that letting children eat different foods could make children form different personalities. For example, giving children more carrots will make their teeth and skin beautiful; Eating more potatoes can improve children's logical thinking; Eating kidney beans can increase children's interest in art; Cabbage and cauliflower will make children think simply and become ordinary people; Eating green vegetables is easy to be rash. In this way, children who hate mathematics can eat more potatoes, children who lack interest in art can eat more beans, children who lack perseverance eat peas, and children who are grumpy eat cabbage.
Half a month after the birth of our son, we insist on feeding him regularly, so that his biological clock will be more regular at the beginning. Even after he can eat, he can only drink water between meals and can't eat other snacks, lest his stomach always get no rest, and his blood will always concentrate on his stomach instead of his brain. If the child's energy is only used for digestion, his brain will not develop well. In addition, eating too much not only hinders children's brain development, but also harms children's health and makes them suffer from various gastrointestinal diseases.
It is generally believed that educating children means teaching them to read, read and learn knowledge. Admittedly, these are an indispensable part of education, but they are not enough. I think, from a baby to a grown-up, everything in this long process is inseparable from education. Regrettably, many parents and even some education experts are not aware of this.
Take children's eating as an example. Generally speaking, the more they eat, the better, and the more healthy they are. That was not the case. Eating too much will not only hinder the development of the brain, but also make the child's brain think that eating can solve all problems. You know, for a baby, the most uncomfortable thing is hunger besides illness. If a baby is hungry, give him a lot of food and make him eat too much, it will make him think that eating and filling his stomach is the only way to eliminate uncomfortable feelings. When he grows up, he will form the habit of relying too much on material things.
Of course, here, I don't want parents to limit the food their children need, but I want to remind parents who love their children. Everything should have a reasonable limit, so should eating.
One day, I saw my wife feeding little Carl milk, so I went over and asked, "Honey, did you seem to have fed it just now?"
"Yes, I think he is crying, so I want him to drink some more milk." The wife said.
"No, Carl was full just now. He doesn't need to eat anything else, at least not yet." I took the bottle back from my wife and said.
because of the sudden loss of delicious food, little Carl burst into tears, and his wife was a little unhappy and didn't understand my behavior.
At this moment, Carl's grandmother came over.
"my god! How can you treat this poor child like this? "Grandmother complained endlessly." Babies want to drink milk, so why not let him drink it. The child was born so unlucky, why should he be treated like this? Oh, my poor child! "
"It's not that I don't want him to drink milk. I just don't think he needs it yet." I explained.
"You always say that you want to cultivate Carl into a talent, but how can he become a talent if you don't let him drink milk? You always talk about education, which I think is useless. " Grandmother said angrily.
I had nothing to say about my grandmother's incomprehension. How can I argue with such a kind grandmother?
Afterwards, I explained the truth to my wife, telling her that loving children is not about loving him blindly and obeying him. We should treat his training and education rationally.
My wife knows the big picture and is sensible. Since then, she has never been too obedient to her children as before.
some people may think that I have gone too far, but anyway, I think I have done the right thing. Because it is necessary to start from these details in life to cultivate excellent children, we should not ignore anything that seems trivial.
Someone once said, "Different stomachs make different people. It determines whether this person becomes an optimist or a misanthrope. " I think this sentence shows that eating not only affects people's physiology, but also affects many other aspects.
children sometimes cry for no reason. Adults always think that when a child cries, he must be hungry or sick and so on. In fact, this is not the case.
Like adults, children have a desire to be valued by others. Even a newborn baby will have this instinctive desire that is almost natural to adults.
it is true that it is our expectation to be respected or valued by others. However, how many people have really achieved this in our lives?
Some people are valued by others through their own talents, while others are valued through their own efforts. In either case, they are worthy of our respect. However, there are also many people who take the attitude of begging for alms because they are eager to get others' attention. This practice will not only get the dignity of others, but will cause others' disgust, which is a stupid behavior.
One day, little Carl in the cradle burst into tears for no reason.
Just as my wife was going to visit Carl in his room, I stopped her: "Did Carl eat just now?" ?
"yes, I have just been fed." The wife replied.
"So, does he feel unwell these days?" I asked.
"No!" The wife replied.
"If this is the case, you'd better ignore him." I said.
"why? Carl is crying! " My wife looked at me strangely.
"I think that since he is not hungry and shows no signs of illness, it is his own business to want to cry, so we don't have to pay attention to him." I said.
"Crying is a child's nature! I will be fine if I go to comfort him. " The wife said.
"Do you know why children are crying when they are neither hungry nor sick?" I asked.
"Oh, children are like this!" The wife said, "Maybe he needs me." .
"Of course, he must miss you." I explained to my wife, "but I think the fundamental reason is that he wants us to know his existence and to attract our attention." .
under my persuasion, my wife didn't rush to see the child as soon as she heard him cry as usual. Sure enough, it didn't take long for little Carl to stop crying when he saw that crying was useless.
after a while, when my wife and I secretly went to see him, he was lying in the cradle, enjoying himself.
The purpose of doing this is to make little Carl feel that it is impossible to win the attention of others by crying and pleading. On the contrary, you should seek happiness for yourself when others don't pay attention to you.
Although Carl, who is still a baby, can't understand this truth, I think he will understand it when he grows up.
if we don't use and develop the potential of children in infancy, these abilities will never be developed. Therefore, I decided to start by training his five senses (ears, eyes, mouth, nose and skin) to stimulate brain development. Because listening to the party, vision, taste, smell and touch are the physiological basis for human beings to perceive the outside world. Fully stimulating children's sensory organs can promote the active activities of all parts of the brain. If his brain can be actively activated by stimulating his senses, the child will become smarter.
Listening is the first of the five senses to be developed, because babies' hearing develops earlier than their eyesight. Mother's sweet singing is extremely important and effective for training listening. Fortunately, my wife has a very good voice. Ever since he was born, he has often heard the beautiful folk songs sung by his mother. Although I can't sing, I often recite poems to him.
Six weeks after my son was born, I gently recited Virgil's poem Alice to him, and the effect was very good. Whenever I read this poem aloud, my son can calm down and fall asleep quickly. With the change of the tone of the poem, the son's reaction is also measured. When Macquarie read "Horatius on the Bridge", he became excited, and when he read "His Dream" by tennyson, he became quiet again. Through this way of education, my son can recite the first ten lines of the first volume of Alice and His Death when he is one year old.
I want to emphasize that I didn't force my son to memorize poems, but let nature take its course. Take "His Death" as an example. Because my son likes it very much, he recites it like a prayer every night, so he can quickly memorize it skillfully.
In order to make my son feel the music, I bought him a Jason Chung that can make seven sounds in the music score, and tied red, orange and yellow clocks respectively. Whenever my son wakes up before feeding, I will ring these clocks for him and slowly move them left and right to attract his attention. When my son was less than six months old, he was able to ring the bell accurately according to my name-blue bell, purple bell, etc. I think this is an effective way to make him form sound and color.
Training eyes effectively is also an important step to develop children's intelligence. When my son was born two or three weeks ago, I prepared some colorful cloth kittens, puppies and deer for him, and put them all around my son. I often moved toys to stimulate his vision. I often showed my son the rainbow reflected on the wall with a prism. My son likes watching it very much. When he cries, he stops crying as long as he sees the rainbow.
In order to train his olfactory head, we give our son various kinds of stimuli, but considering that eating too much sugar and salt is not good for his health, we always insist on eating light food, which can keep his sensory sensitivity and avoid forming the bad habit of eating too much sugar and salt.
After the full moon, my son was able to look up in bed, so I lined his feet with my hands and taught him to crawl. Parents must let their children learn to crawl as early as possible, because lying prone is beneficial to babies. When babies crawl, their neck muscles develop rapidly, and they can look around freely with their heads held high, which increases the chances of accepting external stimuli, thus promoting the development of children's brains and making children smart.
After the child's visual development is achieved, it is necessary to cultivate the child's observation ability. There are two ways: one is to cultivate children's observation ability through colorful colors. I hung copies of various famous paintings and a large number of imitations of famous sculptures around my son's room and read the names of these items to him. At first, my son only paid attention to the color of the painting, and gradually he understood the meaning of the painting.
Painting plays a great role in children's intellectual development, and children who can grow up under the training of parents who are good at painting are very happy. Knowing a little about painting, I prepared many beautiful paintings of flowers, birds and animals for my son, as well as beautiful picture books, and read them to him. He can always listen quietly, which shows that although my son doesn't know anything, he has begun to take an interest in my voice and the color of the painting. Moreover, I often draw pictures of my conversations with my son to inspire his intelligence.
I bought all kinds of balls and wood chips with beautiful colors to cultivate my son's sense of color. He is also often asked to play games with all kinds of dolls in bright clothes. The reason for this is that if children don't start to develop color perception at an early age, they will be very dull in the future.
crayons are also good toys for children. I often use it to play a "color competition" game with my son. I prepared a big piece of paper. From a certain point, I first drew a three-centimeter-long line with red crayon, and then my son drew a blue line with the same length with red crayon. He also drew a blue line behind the red line he drew, and so on. If the crayon used by my son is different from the color I used, the game will be over and my son will lose.
I often take Carl for a walk as soon as he learns to walk. When walking, let him pay attention to the color of the sky, the color of trees, the color of flowers, the color of Yuan Ye, the color of buildings and the color of people's clothes, all in order to develop his sense of color.
In addition, I also pay attention to cultivate his habit of concentration, so that he can learn to observe things keenly. My son and I play a game called "Watch carefully" to do this. Whenever I pass by the front of the shop, I ask my son what items are displayed in the window of this shop, and then remind him of these goods. Of course, the more goods my son can say, the better. If my son doesn't remember as many items as he should, I will criticize him. This game can also effectively train the son's memory. Because we insisted on doing this for a long time, when my son was only two years old, one day I took him to a shop selling carved imitations, and he said to the clerk, "Why don't you have Vinius de Vero and Vinius de Maide?" Such a young child should know these two famous paintings, which surprised the clerk.
Because the baby's attention is not easy to concentrate, I teach my son various adjectives with vivid objects. In the sixth week after my son was born, I bought him some red balloons and tied them on his wrist with a short rope. The balloons swayed with his hands swinging up and down. From now on, I will give him a different color balloon every week. Through this game, I easily taught him adjectives such as red, green, round and light, and my son seems to like this game very much.
after realizing the benefits of this method, I also asked my son to hold wood chips or other objects with sandpaper in his hand and teach him rough and smooth words. Of course, this kind of education sometimes has some unexpected bad effects, for example, babies often like to send things from their hands to their mouths. Therefore, parents should be more careful, and children will not form this habit.
It is very effective to let children's hands give full play to their functions for cultivating their observation ability. It takes a long time for a baby to know his own hand. In order to let the child find his own hand as soon as possible, he should have something to do with his hand.
every time my son wakes up and opens his little hand, my wife and I quickly ask him to grab something. At ordinary times, we often move our son's fingers and often let him