So how to guide high school students to form personality beauty in love?
First of all, as educators, we should have a full understanding of high school students' heterosexual communication, change our concepts and not make a fuss about their love. With the progress of society, most of our requirements for teenagers are to educate them to have lofty ideals and not to have wild ideas about sex. "Get married first" has always been our "mantra". Therefore, as educators, we don't study how to get married and what kind of family we become, but blindly blame our children and don't want them to show their humanity. Once a student pays attention to the opposite sex, we will feel that this child is not promising. This practice is the same as "defending people's mouths is not as good as defending Sichuan", and blocking is not acceptable. The key is to dredge. But let's look back. Who didn't fantasize about the opposite sex when they were young? People who grew up in the 1950s and 1960s can still remember that sex was "imprisoned worse than canned food", but what is the real situation? There are still young people falling in love underground. I still clearly remember that when I was watching Song of Youth, boys and girls in our class messed up the paragraph about love between Lin Daojing and Yu Yongze. But we are adults, how can we feel abnormal about their love? Here I quote grandma Liu from a dream of red mansions: "Everyone came from here when they were young." Educator Rousseau clearly said: "If you want to cultivate him into a natural person, you can't make him a savage because of it, but you must drive him into the forest." Especially today, with the improvement of living standards, teenagers' physiological maturity is faster. The yearning for the opposite sex is a natural law, and no one can avoid it. As educators, whenever they show sexual curiosity and love for the opposite sex, we are often suppressed by a moral principle of "don't learn bad" and "don't fall in love". According to the survey, although the number of high school students who advocate dating is small, they think they can have single-minded friends of the opposite sex. Some of them have been dating, caressing and kissing, and they don't know whether to make friends or fall in love. It shows that heterosexual communication is irrational and influenced by emotional impulse. The key is to let our students know what is normal heterosexual friendship, what is feelings and behaviors outside friendship, what is reasonable and healthy communication, what is cross-border unhealthy communication and so on. According to the investigation of juvenile offenders, they are generally tempted by unhealthy consciousness and sexual behavior, and many of them are caught in the quagmire of sexual deviation. How to make teenagers realize that the love between men and women is normal and noble? The purpose of sex education is not only to let students master sexual knowledge, but more importantly, to let them know the nature and social function of sex, to cultivate their sense of responsibility and obligation for love, marriage and family, to communicate with the opposite sex correctly, to let our teenagers know what noble and holy love is, and to shorten the process of their social maturity as much as possible. These are all things that our teachers should learn. Writer Lu Yin said: "If there is no emotional support in life, no matter how vast the sky is, it is difficult to put down the depressed heart." Rose buds in spring, not because of sunshine, how can they show delicate colors? Care is love, friendship is love, and love is love. "
In this pluralistic society, it is also necessary to educate high school students about noble love. Such as revolutionary traditional education in Red Rock, Jiang Jie's revolutionary love in Red Rock, Zhou Wenyong and Chen Tiejun's love in Wedding on the Execution Ground, and Paul's love in How Steel was Tempered. These are the best teaching materials for us to educate high school students in revolutionary tradition and establish a noble concept of love. There is another way for students to understand the understanding of aristocratic love in different periods, such as China's yearning for revolutionary free love when New China was founded, the yearning for laborers' love in the 1950s and 1960s, the worship of soldiers' love in the 1960s and 1970s, and the yearning for intellectuals' love in the 1980s and 1990s, which all reflect the love views in different periods, but no matter how they change, they all reflect young people's yearning for aristocratic love.
Secondly, we should guide young people to overcome the negative impact of social and cultural shallowness on young people. With the expansion of opening to the outside world, social culture has broken through a single model, and diversified and multi-level prosperity has emerged. The opening of commercial culture has opened various channels for the expansion of shallow culture.
Teenagers' sexual psychology is in its infancy. In the social and cultural environment with staggered ideas, various forms and endless sexual impact, their budding psychology is also induced. Young students who lack social experience and life experience, due to the need of sexual psychological development and under the influence of the trend of thinking against traditional ideas, tend to abandon traditional virtues, and also tend to mistake decay for fashion, and sexual morality lags behind sexual psychological development. Young students with low moral quality and weak self-control ability in low-level environment are more likely to be tempted by social and cultural stimulating factors, leading to deviation of sexual concepts and mistakes in sexual communication.
Let high school students understand the essence of love. Engels pointed out that love is "a relationship between people based on mutual admiration". Sex, ideal and obligation are the three basic elements of this feeling, and the organic unity of the three is the basic meaning of "real love" Make middle school students understand that true love must be cultivated and nourished by noble social morality; Career first, love second, this is the starting point and basic moral requirements of love; Love is subordinate to the cause and serves the cause ... the cause has opened up fertile soil for love and provided sunshine. Understanding this dialectical relationship, calmly thinking about the true meaning of love, sincerely cultivating noble sentiments, treating this problem carefully and respecting personality are the moral standards required by their noble character.
To cultivate high school students' noble sexual morality, we should pay attention to the following three issues: 1, and cultivate high school students' correct sexual concepts, attitudes and moral responsibilities. It is necessary to explain to them that human sexual behavior not only involves personal life, but also affects others (husband and wife, parents) and society. Sex and love are not the same thing Love is not only to get, but also to give. Love needs commitment and pay; Sex is not the love between sexual organs, but the mutual love between two hearts, so sex should never be just a rash act out of physiological needs. 2. While purifying the cultural market, we should cultivate high school students to consciously resist the temptation of "yellow pollution". The society should provide healthy, beneficial and appropriate reading materials and film and television works for adolescent boys and girls. It is strictly forbidden to spread obscene articles, pornography and violent stories in the mass media. We should tell them that the sex spread in pornographic culture has been divorced from normal and healthy human nature. It preaches sex without feelings and human feelings, and is often full of prejudice, contempt and praise for female violence. It is a spiritual opium and sexual garbage that poisons young people. Adolescence is a period of study, training and practical morality. We should cultivate our good sexual adaptability and self-control ability, so that we can not only cope with the complex social and cultural environment, but also cultivate the positive force to accept mature love and prevent sexual deviance. 3. Develop normal heterosexual communication. Adolescent boys and girls are full of mystery and curiosity about the opposite sex, so it is very important to advocate collective communication. Especially for the only child now, it is very beneficial to develop group communication between the opposite sex in school to make up for the lack of social environment in the family. Organizing entertainment and sports activities by schools or youth league committees to meet the communication needs of boys and girls will reduce the interest of boys and girls in personal contact. Because collective communication can meet their psychological needs and balance their sexual psychology.
Third, use high school textbooks to cultivate students' personality beauty in love.
There are also many works related to the theme of love in high school Chinese textbooks: Lin Daiyu entered Jiafu, 13-year-old aristocratic girl, describing the love between Lin Daiyu and Baoyu at first sight; Jade by Liu Yong in Song Dynasty describes the sincere feelings of male and female lovers "holding hands and looking at each other with tears"; Thunderstorm describes the complicated love relationship between Zhou Puyuan and Lu Shiping. Shu Ting's poem "To the Oak Tree" praises the lofty and independent understanding of love. In the Book of Songs, it is the poem "Meng", which describes how a young girl is entangled by an infatuated youth and finally abandoned after marrying that youth. The love between Liu Lanzhi and Jiao Zhongqing in Peacock Flying Southeast is a matter of life and death. According to People's Daily Online, No.26 Middle School in Anshan City, Liaoning Province, combined a love poem "I am a River" in the Chinese textbook in class, telling adolescent children what love is, and that the beauty of love and its affection and friendship are important components of human emotions, so as to correctly guide adolescent children to know love and make them understand that "love is not just like Meteor Garden and Titanic". In 2003, the novel Dust Settled by Alai, a writer who won the Mao Dun Literature Prize, became a selected work of contemporary novels in the newly published "Required Reading Series of Chinese New Curriculum Standards" by People's Literature Publishing House. Because there are some descriptions about sex in the novel, some parents are very worried.
In fact, we don't have to worry about the content of love description in textbooks. Sometimes, we don't know everything about children, and we want to keep them sexually pure. Actually, it's not like this. They are behind us adults, and the sex works they are exposed to are much more complicated than this. If we don't infect and influence them with works that embody noble love, then their world will be occupied by those vulgar cultures. Sometimes don't look down on us as children. Most senior high school students are not all vulgar about sex. I remember the first round of high school Chinese new textbook teaching, and I took the lesson of "Broken Arm Venus". At that time, there were no image inserts in the text, so I printed out the sculpture portrait of Venus and distributed it to my classmates. For such a nude portrait, I don't think some students blaspheme, such as drawing something on the image. All beautiful things are the same and noble. Therefore, it is not surprising that literary works describing love have entered middle school textbooks. I think this kind of works describing noble love should enter our textbooks earlier. The new Chinese syllabus for senior high school stipulates that "through Chinese teaching, students are trained to improve their moral cultivation, aesthetic taste, ideological quality and cultural taste, develop healthy personality and form a sound personality". Then, to guide high school students to know beauty in love and form a beautiful personality, we must play the role of the main channel of the classroom. Enable students to learn the nutrition of love from excellent Chinese and foreign literary works and find a truly noble love home.
I divide the love works in high school textbooks into the following categories: such as beautiful lyric works, such as the novel Border Town, Lotus Lake, Liu Yong's poem Yulin Ridge, Li Qingzhao's poem and Dai Wangshu's poem Rain Lane; In teaching, guide students to analyze the background of the works and discuss how these classic love works show a moral and noble personality beauty. When explaining love, this kind of works, whether novels or poems, describe the meaning of love very purely and with dedication. For example, the novel Border Town looks like a love triangle, and the beautiful and simple scenery in western Hunan also makes this love story mysterious. Nature conservation and their love for Cui Cui is so pure and sacred. They have a kind of attachment to their loved ones, which shows the healthy, beautiful and simple beauty of human nature and human feelings. Lotus Lake is a lyric work of lofty love. In the smoke-filled anti-Japanese battlefield, the author went deep into the love life of a guerrilla captain's family, especially the passage of "farewell between husband and wife", and wrote the delicate and profound love between husband and wife. When the national interest is above everything else, the love between husband and wife is so noble and selfless that people can't help crying. Bold and straightforward: for example, the quiet girl in The Book of Songs, some love poems in the ancient poems Peacock Flying Southeast, Nineteen Ancient Poems and To the Oak Tree, Pushkin's I Want to Be a Riptide, and the novel Lin Daiyu Entering Jia Fu. For example, To the Oak is a standard love poem, but it is different from the general love poem. It breaks away from the stereotype of the general love poem, gets rid of the infatuated person in love, observes love as an outsider, and makes a rational inquiry and judgment on the nature of love-"great love" is a kind of mutual understanding and equality. With her sensitivity, sobriety and profundity, the author Shu Ting shouted out women's yearning and pursuit for independent personality, sound mind and equality between men and women. She is not bound by the secular world, expressing the call and yearning of a mature intellectual woman for ideal love. Some love poems in ancient poems "Peacock Flying Southeast" and "Nineteen Ancient Poems" are branded with the times because of their different backgrounds, but they have one thing in common, that is, loyalty to love, which is completely different from the love embodied in modern works and plays a subtle role in students' love concept. There are also derogatory works, such as Meng in The Book of Songs, The True Story of Ah Q by Lu Xun and Thunderstorm by Cao Yu. These works give a good explanation of the seriousness of love, and "A Q-style sleepy love", "A Q-style chaotic love" and "incestuous love" are definitely to be condemned.