Zhang Ailing wrote in "Half Life": "A man after middle age often feels lonely, because as soon as he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who rely on him, but there is no one to rely on. "
Yes, when you reach middle age, who will tolerate your willfulness and understand your bitterness?
How many times have I been alone with one sheep, two sheep, three sheep, and countless sheep in the night when I opened my eyes one after another.
Start to stop thinking about who can stand up with you in the evening, and who can ask you whether the porridge is warm.
Everything is your own business. Whether you are independent at dusk or have a busy stomach, asking for someone's attention and greetings is the easiest and most difficult thing in this world.
Especially after entering middle age, as the mainstay of the family, he understands more what it means to be lonely and can only be carried by one person.
Middle-aged men are fathers, sons, husbands... With their identities constantly superimposed, their personal parts are infinitely squeezed, and the only thing they can do is to walk in front of their homes. The cat stayed in the car in silence for a while, then put on his best mask and went inside.
I woke up early the next morning and continued to devote myself wholeheartedly to my career. This was not only to prove myself, but also to gain a sense of security in my life so that I could relieve myself from the stress of life. heavy burden. However, there are unforeseen circumstances, and people have misfortunes and misfortunes. Not everyone can succeed with all their efforts. How many people got the opportunity to show their talents in their early years, only to be wiped out overnight.
When a person reaches middle age, his career collapses and his ideals are shattered, which is a tragedy in itself.
But what is even more painful for the middle-aged man is that because his career failed, he instantly changed from the family's "star of tomorrow" to the "star of the family". Countless eye rolls and schadenfreude began to come one after another, hammering his heart. However, he could not say anything. He could only put on a thick mask and nod and bow to the world again.
The young man who once said that he was "unruly and unruly in nature" has unknowingly lost all his edge as he moves toward middle age.
They can live for everyone, but they alone have no self.
He began to learn to process his own grievances, and no longer told sad stories to everyone, because there were only a few people who truly understood you.
He began to learn to swallow the teeth broken by life and face all the sufferings arranged by fate alone.
Has your career failed?
Okay;
Are relatives and friends separated?
Okay.
Some people say that the loneliness of middle-aged people is that as long as they still have a breath, they have an inherent attribute of perseverance.
But if there is no support behind, who would be willing to choose one person to stick to.
Just like the classic line in "Reply 1988": "Adults are just enduring, just busy with adults' things, just pretending to be strong to bear the burden of age. Adults, It will hurt too.”
Yes! Human beings are all just flesh and blood, and who has more structure than the other.
Some people say that middle-aged people are too old to talk about love and too young to talk about death. Although this is just a self-deprecation, it also fully illustrates the last resort of middle-aged people in relationships.
Perhaps it is because there was a time when the sea was difficult to overcome, except for Wushan, it was not a cloud.
Or maybe the husband and wife are birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster strikes.
This may be the loneliest look for a person in a relationship.
When a person reaches middle age, he has experienced the beauty of love and endured loss, so it is difficult to meet someone who will be unforgettable for him.
However, even if there are too many dissatisfactions in life, life still has to go on.
"Life is just about being born and living." They laughed at themselves silently and laughed.
But every time in the dead of night, he looked around, but there was no one around him to ask for help. The inner wall he built during the day would collapse in an instant, so he cried hoarsely in his heart. Split lung.
Then they further accepted the imperfection of life and married the person who they just thought was more suitable in all aspects, but never talked about love.
People often say that the person who accompanies you to the end is often not the person you love the most, but the person who happens to appear.
Yes! The emotions of middle-aged people are mostly covered with thick moss by secular life. The passion may not all die out, but it no longer blooms as easily as it did when they were young.
Presumably on the night of the remarriage, the groom just sighed secretly in his heart: "Forget it, true love is just a luxury wish for a middle-aged man."
p>"Forget it!"
These three words carry so much insincerity, sadness and loneliness! Everyone only sees their maturity, stability, and indestructibility, but who would really carefully observe their inner loneliness and helplessness?
Writer Jane Eyre said: "After middle age, I gradually understand that there are some encounters in life, and the vicissitudes of time leave only a sigh.
Like fireworks, after a moment of brilliance, there is a long silence.
I feel wronged and have to comply with others, but there are too many things that I can’t let go of. This is probably the loneliness of middle-aged people, and they can’t hope for a happy ending. ”
In the face of their true feelings, the greatest loneliness for middle-aged people is not that they cannot love, but that they clearly know what love is, but they have to choose to bury themselves in the face of reality.
While they long for mountains and rivers, they have to face daily necessities.
They are no longer as passionate and unreserved as they were in their youth, but more out of considerations of reality and interests.
Start to learn to compromise with life. Start to make friends with people you don’t want to make friends with, and smile and cater to people you usually don’t like; start to do things you don’t want to do before, and try your best to do them. The best.
I don’t want to do it, but I have to do it.
Probably, this is the deepest loneliness of middle-aged people.
This kind of loneliness is called middle age.