The issue of family education has attracted people's attention since ancient times, but it has only been studied as a subject in our country in recent years. This is an issue that must be addressed with the development of the times, the demand for talents, and the improvement of the overall quality of the nation. Here we discuss the importance of family education with parents, with the purpose of asking families, society, and education departments to jointly shoulder the task of educating the next generation. Human education is a systematic education project, which includes family education, social education, and collective (kindergarten, school) education. The three are interrelated and organically combined, influencing, interacting, and restricting each other. , this educational project is impossible without any one item, but in this systematic project, family education is the foundation of all education. The famous former Soviet educationist Suhomlinsky once compared children to a piece of marble. He said that it takes six sculptors to shape this marble into a statue: 1. The family; 2. The school; 3. The collective where the children belong; 4. The child himself; 5 books; 6 accidental factors. Judging from the order of arrangement, family is listed first. It can be seen that family plays a very important role in shaping children and occupies a considerable position in the mind of this educator. For this reason, it is very necessary for parents to understand the importance of family education.
1. Family education is the starting point and basis for educating people
Family education generally refers to the process of educating minor children by parents and their adults in the family. The educational goal should be to ensure the healthy physical and mental development of children before they enter society to receive collective education (kindergarten and school education), and to lay a solid foundation for receiving kindergarten and school education. After children enter kindergarten and school, we should cooperate with kindergartens and schools to achieve all-round development in moral, intellectual, physical, aesthetic, and labor aspects. The focus of education is moral education, cultivating children's good moral qualities and developing good behavioral habits. Behavioral habits include: living habits, working habits, study habits, etc., and teach children how to learn to "be a human being". Because family education takes place in the family, compared with kindergarten, school education, and social education, it has the following characteristics. These characteristics make family education the starting point and base point for educating people, and it has advantages that other education does not have.
(1) Early stage of family education
Family is the cradle of children’s life, the first place where people receive education after birth, that is, the first classroom in life; parents are Children's first teacher is the teacher of enlightenment. Therefore, the education provided by parents to children is the most early-stage. Generally speaking, after a child is born, after three years of development, it enters the early childhood period. From the age of 3 to 6 years old is the preschool period, which is often referred to as the early education stage. This is an important period for human physical and mental development. There is an ancient Chinese proverb: "If you dye it green, you will be green; if you dye it yellow, you will become yellow." Early childhood is the beginning of the gradual influence of life. Many basic human abilities are formed at this age, such as language expression, basic movements, and certain Life habits, etc., and personality are also gradually formed. American psychologist Bloom believes that if a person's intellectual development is considered to be 100% of the level he reached at the age of 17, then it would reach 50% at the age of 4. Ages 4-8 gained another 30%, and ages 8-17 gained another 20%. It can be seen that the period of rapid intellectual development of children before the age of 5 is also the best period for early intellectual development. If the family education implemented by parents during this period is good, it will be the key to the early intellectual development of children. Throughout the ages, many people with lofty ideals and effective celebrities received good family education during their childhood, which was an important reason for their success in the future. For example, the great German poet and playwright Goethe's success was due to his family's early education. When Goethe was 2-3 years old, his father took him on an outing in the countryside to observe nature and cultivate Goethe's observation ability. When he was 3-4 years old, his father taught him to sing, memorize ballads, and tell fairy tales. He also intentionally let him speak in front of people to develop his oral skills. These conscious educations made Goethe optimistic, willing to think, and good at learning from an early age. When Goethe was 8 years old, he could read various books in French, German, English, Italian, Latin, and Greek. When he was 14 years old, he wrote plays. At the age of 25, he wrote the famous poem "The Sorrows of Young Werther" in Europe in one month. Another example is Wang Xizhi and Wang Xianzhi, who were known as "father and son calligraphers" in ancient times, Edison, the great inventor with more than 1,350 inventions, and literary superstars Guo Moruo, Mao Dun and other celebrities. The growth process shows that family education is very important for early intellectual development. . On the contrary, there are many examples of people not receiving good family education in their childhood, which affects the normal development of intelligence. For example, Kamala, the "wolf child" in India, was bitten by a wolf when she was a child. She was discovered when she was 8 years old, but her living habits are different from those of humans. Her living habits are almost the same as those of wolves. She crawls on all fours, eats raw meat, and walks during the day and night. Later, after artificial training, he could stand after two years, walk like a human after six years, and learned 6 words in four years. When he was 17 years old, his intelligence level only reached the level of a 3-year-old child.
According to China Women's Daily, a worker surnamed Ma in Nanjing City, my country, suffered from mental illness and was deeply afraid that her children would be persecuted. She locked her three children at home since they were young and kept them away from the outside world for a long time. For more than ten years, these children have low intelligence and slow speech. Compared with their peers, their intelligence and living abilities are very different, and they are close to idiots. Therefore, the role of early family education cannot be ignored.
( 2) Continuity of family education The second characteristic of family education is continuity. After a child is born, from childhood to adulthood, he spends almost 2/3 of his time living in the family, receiving education from his parents day and night. This kind of education is carried out intentionally or unintentionally, planned or unplanned, consciously or unconsciously. No matter in what way or at what time, it is the parents who influence the education of their children anytime and anywhere with their own words and deeds. . This kind of education constantly influences and demonstrates children's living habits, moral conduct, conversation and behavior, etc., and its subtle effect is quite large. It accompanies a person's life. It can be said that he or she is always learning, so some Educators also call parents lifelong teachers. This lifelong education often reflects the family tradition. The quality of the family tradition often lasts for several generations, even more than ten or dozens of generations, and this family tradition is often related to the occupations of family members. . Such as: Xinglin Family", "Liyuan Family", "Education Family", etc. At the same time, the family style also reflects the academic style of a family, and the quality of the academic style often lasts for several generations, more than ten generations, and dozens of generations. For example, in modern China, Yan Gong from Wuxi added to the "Selected Records of the Guochao Pavilion" in the late Qing Dynasty, and counted 114 champions from the Bingxu Branch in the third year of Shunzhi to the Jiachen Branch in the 30th year of Guangxu in the Qing Dynasty, including fathers, sons, brothers, uncles and nephews. Those with continuous academic qualifications include Miao, Wu and Pan in Suzhou, Weng and Jiang in Changshu, and Chen and Zha in Haining, Zhejiang. It can be seen that the continuity of family education often has an important influence on the rise of talented groups. This situation was more prominent in ancient and modern times. In contemporary times, with the development of science, social needs, and the increase in unemployment, people have a wide range of career choices. It is impossible for all members of a family to engage in the same kind of work, but there is no shortage of people seeing this situation. This situation means that some family members have repeatedly made achievements and received commendations at work, while some family members have committed crimes one after another. This has a lot to do with the continuity of family education.
(3) Family. Educational authority
The authority of family education refers to the power and power of parents and elders on children. The existence of the family determines the blood relationship, custody relationship, and emotional relationship between parents and children. There is a great dependence on parents and elders in terms of ethics and material life needs, and the consistency of the fundamental interests of family members determines that parents have a greater restrictive effect on their children, and parents' education is easy to be accepted and accepted by their children. Obedience, parents' reasonable use of this feature is very beneficial to the formation of children's good moral character and behavioral habits, especially for young children, when disputes arise when playing games with other children. Quote your parents to validate your speech behavior, such as: "My dad said this." ” or “My mom did that. "And so on. The authority of parents in the minds of children determines how children view education in kindergarten, school and society. The relationship between children and parents is the first important social relationship that children face. In this relationship, It embodies almost all aspects of social ethics and morality. If cracks and flaws are formed in this relationship, it will be reflected in various interpersonal relationships when the child moves into society. Therefore, the importance of parental authority is emphasized because parents are responsible for the development of children in their early years. It always plays a dual role: it is both the protector of children's safe survival and the guide for life enlightenment. The effectiveness of parental education depends on the degree of parental authority established. The establishment of parental authority must
be based on it. Wise parents understand the importance of establishing authority on the basis of respecting their children's personality rather than feudal patriarchy. They also understand that establishing authority is not based on suppression, imposition, or subjective assumptions, but on the adoption of a combination of strength and softness in education. The children's attitudes should first be coordinated and coordinated with each other. They should be lenient and strict, and establish a kind and majestic image in front of the children, making it easy for the children to accept the education of their parents.
( 4) Infectiousness of family education
The natural and close blood relationship and kinship between parents and children make the emotions and sorrows of parents have a strong infectious effect on children, and the words and deeds of children towards their parents. Behaviors are often understanding and understanding. When dealing with relationships and problems with people and things around them, children's attitudes towards their parents can easily cause joy when their parents are happy. , when parents show irritability and depression, children's emotions are easily affected, even for young children. If parents are irrational and emotional, and have a bad temper, the children will blindly absorb their weaknesses when dealing with some emergencies. When an incident occurs, they appear frightened, unprepared, and have a bad impact on their children; if parents remain calm and firm in dealing with shocks, their children will also be able to remain calm and collected when encountering problems, which will play a positive role in cultivating their psychological quality. .
(5) Timeliness of family education
The process of family education is the individual education behavior of parents and elders in the family, which is more timely than kindergarten and school education.
As the saying goes: No one knows his son better than his father, and no one knows his daughter better than his mother. Parents get along with their children day and night, and they know their situation very well. Even the slightest change in their children, even a look or a smile, can make parents aware of it. Therefore, as parents, they can grasp in time through every move, word and deed of their children. At this moment, they are in a state of mind, discovering problems in their children, educating them in time, correcting them in time, not letting problems stay overnight, and nipping bad behaviors in the bud. In kindergartens and schools, teachers face dozens of children and can only provide comprehensive education for children of this age, that is, group education. Due to limited time and energy, it is impossible to take care of every child. Characteristics of teachers, it is easy to focus on one thing at the expense of another, and even cause children to have a sense of distrust for teachers' inadequate care. Parents can guide their children to correct their understanding in time. Therefore, parents' correct home education for their children can not only enable the children to form good behavioral habits before entering kindergarten, lay a good foundation for receiving collective education, but also make up for the shortcomings of collective education.
2. Good family education is a necessary condition for cultivating talents in the 21st century
The "Outline of China's Children's Development Plan for the 1990s" states: "Today's children are the masters of the 21st century. "The bottom-up protection and development of children is the basis for improving the quality of the population and is a prerequisite for human development. Improving the quality of the entire nation starts with children." By the year 2000, 90% of parents of children (under 14 years old) will have varying degrees of knowledge about child care and education." This goal clarifies that parents shoulder the important task of cultivating talents for the country in the 21st century. Whether this generation of children can be trained to become people with all-round development of moral, intellectual, physical, artistic and physical skills is related to whether the country can succeed in its century-old plan. Froebel also said: "The fate of the country is not so much in the hands of those in power as it is in the hands of the mother." This sentence is very philosophical, and it profoundly clarifies the importance of parents in educating their children. The role played. Parents must first clarify the principle that the direction of education is consistent with national interests and the needs of the people. They must not treat children as private property. They must establish the idea of ??educating children for the country and correct the purpose of education. What is my country's situation in the 21st century? To use Comrade Deng Xiaoping's words, my country must reach the level of a moderately developed country by the middle of the 21st century, with a per capita income of US$4,000 and an annual gross national product of US$6 trillion. People in the 21st century should be a new generation of all-round development with good ideology, noble moral sentiments, sound psychological quality, a spirit of active cooperation with others, strong adaptability, and hard work. Without such a group of high-quality builders in the 21st century, it would be difficult to complete this important task. Having such quality cannot be achieved overnight, and good family education is a necessary condition for cultivating high-quality people.
3. Good family education is a catalyst for optimizing children's minds
Children move from infancy to early childhood. As they grow older, the small environment of the family will eventually enter Big society, contact with people and things outside the family. The truth, goodness, beauty, falsehood and ugliness in society come into children's field of vision from time to time. It is not feasible for adults to adopt isolation methods, because TV videos in the family will continue to reflect the reality of today's society from different angles. The problems include both positive and negative aspects. of. Children, especially young children, lack the ability to rationally distinguish right from wrong, but they have keener feelings than adults. They are highly sensitive to the intimate and scary things happening around them, and this sensitivity is a good basis for cultivating the ability of rational discrimination. As parents, we should use this development point to help our children build on this ability to feel. Develop the ability to discern social life and psychological endurance, filter social information, and optimize children's young minds. If parents can focus on the characteristics of young children who are not very receptive in their daily lives, grasp specific daily chores, and help their children understand and distinguish the right and wrong happening in society, so that they can concretely feel the bright side of truth, goodness, and beauty, they will also Realizing the despicability of ugliness can help children strengthen their sense of justice to promote good and eliminate evil, thereby resisting the erosion of children's souls caused by ugliness and darkness. For example, today's television videos have entered almost every home among urban residents, and children deal with them almost every day. It can be said that they know the world's affairs without leaving home. You can receive all kinds of information from all over the world. There are various contents here about political affairs, scientific and technological progress, and ordinary people's affairs. From them, you can learn a lot of knowledge, understand major events at home and abroad, and small things at home and abroad. But it is also inevitable that some murderous, violent, absurd and obscene scenes will be reflected in the eyes of children. Parents should provide timely guidance on these issues to improve their children's ability to identify. At the same time, they should check their behavior at all times to establish a positive image for their children, optimize their minds, and prevent children from making mistakes or even violating laws and disciplines. If the family does a good job in this area, it will help stabilize the family environment. The family is the cell of society. Only with healthy cells can we have a sound body. Diseased cells will cause disease in the body. The ancients said: "If you cultivate your body, you will have a harmonious family; if your family is harmonious, you will govern the country; if you govern the country, you will bring peace to the world." This is the point of view of "Organize the family, govern the country, and bring peace to the world." For this reason, parents' efforts to optimize children's minds will contribute to a stable society and a stable country.
In short, as parents, we must fully realize the importance of family education, consciously educate our children, fulfill our responsibilities and obligations as parents, and cultivate qualified construction talents for the country.