Across Nanguan Bridge, there is a planned area in Hechuan Town with hundreds of households.
The planning area is surrounded by mountains and rivers and has a large population. A slightly famous person here is neither a cadre of the neighborhood committee nor the boss of a company, but Shen Yanmei, the good wife of my cousin Yaosheng and the filial daughter-in-law of my uncle and aunt. She is 38 years old and a mother of two children. Yanmei is neither tall nor short, neither fat nor thin, with fair skin, a full head of hair, a beautiful face, and a bright smile. She is famous not because of these things, but because of her filial piety to her parents-in-law.
Yanmei married into her uncle’s and aunt’s house and has been living with her parents-in-law for sixteen years.
This educated girl who graduated from a technical secondary school is now the hostess of this family. She is very enthusiastic about her work and is very successful in her workplace. She is a person with a bit of personality. She respects the elderly, takes care of her husband and raises her children, and works hard. She plays a good role as a lubricant in a family of three generations and six people, making the whole family live in harmony.
She takes care of her father-in-law and mother-in-law like her biological parents. Her father-in-law had a car accident in his early years and his legs and feet were inconvenient and always ached on rainy days. She went everywhere to find folk remedies, scrubbed and applied medicine to the old man. Her mother-in-law was weak and had a cold stomach. When winter came, Yanmei boiled ginger sugar water to warm her stomach. She fried coarse salt and put it in a cloth bag to warm her mother-in-law's stomach. She also asked her relatives in the countryside to find old papaya root boiling potion to relieve her mother-in-law's stomach. Pain caused by bone hyperplasia. In daily life, I often greet the old man and ask him about his welfare. When he sees his father-in-law getting up very early in the morning, he tells the old man to walk around in the yard and not to go out for a walk on the road alone. Seeing that her mother-in-law is always restless and helping people who are busy with this and that, she always advises her to take more rest. When Yanmei goes out, she always says: "Mom, I'm leaving." When she comes back, she never forgets to report: "Mom, I'm back." When guests come to the house, they see the harmonious relationship between the two women, the old and the young. , thought they were biological mother and daughter. In 2006, my father-in-law was hospitalized due to a cerebral hemorrhage. The child was only four years old at the time. She was indispensable for everything at home and work, comforting my mother-in-law, arranging and coordinating the duties of my brothers, sisters, and sisters-in-law, and taking good care of the patients. Yanmei never cried out about pain or tiredness, nor did she complain at all. In her mind, her husband's parents are her parents, and it is her responsibility to take care of her parents-in-law.
One day after breakfast, Yanmei rode an electric scooter to work. On the way, she met her mother-in-law who was returning from shopping for groceries. Because she didn't sleep well at night, my mother-in-law felt a little uncomfortable when she went out early in the morning. She walked around the vegetable market and returned home carrying a large bag of vegetables. She was out of breath and dizzy. The attentive Yanmei said a few words to her mother-in-law and found that her mother-in-law looked wrong, so she turned around and went home with her mother-in-law.
My mother-in-law asked: "Why don't you go to work?" She lied that she had something to do when she got home. In fact, she saw that her mother-in-law was not in a good state and felt uneasy. When she got home, Yanmei asked her mother-in-law to sit down, touched her forehead, took her temperature, and quickly poured a glass of warm water and handed it to her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law sat and rested for a while, feeling better, so she quickly heated up the rice and vegetables, served her mother-in-law after breakfast, and then went back to work after seeing that her mother-in-law was fine. Before leaving, she repeatedly told her mother-in-law to go to bed, lie down and have a good rest. If she felt uncomfortable, call her immediately. An hour later, Yanmei was worried and called her mother-in-law again to ask if she was still feeling unwell. My aunt said, "Even my biological daughter is nothing more than this." At this point, I saw her gently wiping the corners of her eyes with the back of her hand.
When a large family lives and eats together, it is inevitable that there will be occasional frictions and conflicts.
A few years ago, my family bought a piece of homestead land across the road, but it has always been abandoned. My mother-in-law couldn't bear to let it go to waste, and she was always nagging her to plant some crops. She was frail and sick, and her children disapproved of it. Yanmei's husband was particularly opposed. He said to his old mother: "You should take care of yourself when you are old. The cost of staying in the hospital for a day is more than a thousand. How many vegetables and pumpkins can you grow?" Ah? Besides, if you slip or fall, it will be terrible. The gain outweighs the loss. Why don't you settle the score?" Both mother and son felt uncomfortable after going back and forth about this matter. Yanmei thought that it would not be a problem if things continued like this, so she persuaded her husband that we should put ourselves in the other person's shoes and understand the old man. Mom couldn't sit still and she had something to do to pass the time. Besides, it would be good for the old man's health to move. We can divide the land into several plots and invite several neighbors to plant it together. Isn't it nice to leave a small piece of land for us to plant ourselves? You go dig and turn the soil while I water and weed. Let your mother-in-law go to the field to see and pick fruits and vegetables? When Yaosheng heard this, he thought Yanmei's idea was a good one, so he invited a few neighbors to plant melons and vegetables together. When her mother-in-law saw that the fields were planted with crops, she was very happy. Mother and son no longer have any grudges, and they are doing well. Resolved family conflicts.
Once, the grandson came back from school, put down his schoolbag and shouted: "I'm hungry!"
Grandma said: "If you're hungry, just eat first. I'll cook the food soon." "
"The old guy's cooking is not delicious, I won't eat it." Upon hearing this, Yanmei pointed at her son and glared at him. The mother-in-law didn't see it while cooking, so she said to Yanmei: "You didn't hear your son talking like this, so why didn't you care? He can scold me like this today, and if you don't discipline me, he can scold you like this in the future." At that time, Yanmei didn't explain much, and she didn't want to spank her child before meals, which would affect his ability to eat and complete his homework. She had planned to talk to her son to criticize and educate him after he finished his homework.
When Yaosheng came back from get off work, her mother-in-law told her son about this.
Yaosheng asked Yanmei: "Is that so?"
Yanmei said: "This is what my mother saw. I glared at my son fiercely, but my mother didn't see it. , thinking that I don’t care about my son. You know, I have a bad temper. If I went over to scold my son when I was angry, I would be afraid that I would beat him if I couldn’t control my emotions.”
“Oh, that’s right. Mom thought you didn't discipline your children. "
"My son speaks foul language and disrespects the elderly. He should be criticized and educated. Mom is right. I will find him when he finishes his homework." Yan said before going to bed. Mei found her son and said to him sincerely: "Grandma is so old, it is not easy to cook for you. Instead of thanking you, you use vulgar words to scold grandma. It is very rude and unreasonable. You Do you know that you are wrong? Go and admit your mistake to grandma as soon as you get up tomorrow. No matter who cooks for you in the future, don’t be picky. If you want to be satisfied, you have to learn to cook it yourself, understand? Early in the morning, the grandson got up and apologized to his grandma. From this day on, Yanmei began to teach her son to cook by himself.
Have a daughter-in-law who is like a daughter, and have parents-in-law who are like parents. My aunt said to me: "Now that she hasn't seen Yanmei for a day, she feels very worried. She feels like she has lost her soul and is restless. Having a good son is really not as good as having a good wife. How can a son be as careful and careful as his wife?" She is considerate. Let me tell you, between the two of them, I am more partial to Yanmei."
"Really?" I asked with a smile.
My aunt told me that once Yaosheng had a quarrel with his daughter-in-law. The son acted impulsively and said harsh words to Yanmei. After hearing this, her aunt immediately criticized Yaosheng and said, "Why do you speak like this? Even if Yanmei is really wrong, you still have to respect others. If I were her mother, I would be unhappy after hearing what you just said."< /p>
"Mom, I was impulsive and made a mistake. Yanmei, don't be angry." Yaosheng immediately admitted his mistake to his mother and comforted his wife.
"You can't do this again, otherwise I won't let you go." When the daughter-in-law saw her mother-in-law severely criticizing her son and protecting her in this way, she was moved and said to her mother-in-law: "Mom, he If you know you're wrong, stop talking about him. I know he was impulsive and not intentional. Besides, he wasn't doing it in public or trying to save my face in front of outsiders. It doesn't matter if a family member says the wrong thing occasionally. I also forgive him."
The aunt smiled, she admired her daughter-in-law Yanmei's reasonableness and magnanimity.
Yanmei’s careful care for her parents-in-law and her generosity and kindness to her family and neighbors were noticed by her neighbors, relatives and friends, and they all said that she was a good and filial daughter-in-law. Enjoying the coolness in summer nights and basking in the sun in winter, when some old people in the planning area get together, they often tell stories about Yanmei, the good daughter-in-law of the Chen family. Several elderly neighbors always praise her: "The planning area is so big and there are so many wives. I have never seen a good and filial wife like Yanmei."
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