Love only occasionally turns back at the wrong fork. The peach blossoms on the roadside may still be there, but the spring breeze of that year will never appear again. It's much better to just remember.
Gratitude and cherish are not the same as commitment to each other.
People should love each other, not envy and pain, and so should work and emotion.
Self-knowledge is a virtue, and it is also a good practice to face praise with a peaceful attitude and politely return "thank you".
A beautiful woman should be a flowering tree with delicate flowers and firm roots.
Growth is the accumulation of lifelong learning.
Once the responsibility becomes multiple, it is no longer for yourself, so you can't just let it go.
Every relationship is worthy of attachment because of sincerity and respect because of responsibility.
If you can't completely ignore what you have done, don't go to bed with others easily.
When a man wants to love you, nothing can stop him from realizing his wish; And when he doesn't love you, he can find a thousand reasons to break up.
If you love someone too much, you will suddenly lose the ability to defend yourself, just like a castle without any protection.
If you are kind-hearted, you can find some love in the tragic experience.
The greatest value of success should be the ability to laugh at life.
There is no perfect love in this world, only men and women who are willing to stick to it.
Life is a lonely journey.
For men, success means taking whatever you want, material and emotional; For women, success means more loneliness. The world still belongs to men.
This is the charm of untie the knot. Let the resentful heart regain the power of love.
It's not that the other party can't do it, but that we are too demanding.
I can live without money, but I can't live without love, feeling and experience of love.
When you think of yourself as a helper, it means that you think of yourself as smart. This kind of cognition will obscure your spiritual wisdom, block your connection with the Tao and the spiritual world, and you will not see the truth.
Our problem is that we often doubt ourselves, so we can't trust others and the world. When we doubt, we forget that the world is responding to our negative thoughts.
When you are immersed in yourself and the past, you will never get out of that haze. The only way to get rid of the problem is to find love, believe in love and accept love.
Love is giving, love is going to that person, not simply waiting.
Buddha said that a brave heart chooses a challenging life. Suffering is the best way to grow, if you can take care of yourself as much as possible.
Only by perfecting yourself first can you love others.
Love is a kind of giving, in order to make the person you love happy and get better growth. Unfortunately, we often see possession and restraint in the name of love.
Osho said that once the bondage enters the relationship, love begins to die, and the rest is bargaining in the dark. If you love him or her, set him or her free.
Love is beautiful. Think of the person who once appeared in your life and brought you so many other feelings and feelings, such as heartbeat, missing, caring and so on. This is very beautiful. Break up and start a new life. It is also a kind of beauty to meet the right person who really belongs to you. This is love, healthy and mature love.
If you let a person leave at any cost, no matter how beautiful the love was in the past, it was cut into pieces in the entanglement of breaking up, which not only failed to live up to the initial love, but also ruined his emotional contribution. It is really not worth it.
The ability to love includes:
The ability to meet love
We should have good psychological quality, including objective cognitive ability, tolerance and patience, courage and strength to bear setbacks, etc. Cognitive ability not only refers to the understanding of the world and society, but also includes the understanding and evaluation of others and themselves. Both love and being loved need ability. The ability to give and receive is the same quality.
In the face of others' love, a person can make a timely and accurate judgment on love and make a choice of acceptance, rejection or re-observation, which is also a kind of love ability. People who lack this ability, either act in a hurry or are not sure, appear panicked, at a loss and slow to respond, which will cause lifelong regret. So, be brave to accept the love of others. Love is two-way, not only giving, but also gaining.
The ability to love yourself
Many people take it for granted to love others, but they feel guilty about loving themselves. It's selfish. In fact, healthy love comes from mature self, and loving yourself is also a part of it.
To love yourself, you must first know yourself, believe in yourself and appreciate yourself;
Love yourself, be responsible for yourself, and strive for spiritual and material independence in order to be responsible for others;
To love yourself, you must know how to relax and adjust yourself properly, but don't indulge your inertia.
Love yourself and protect yourself;
If you love yourself, don't embarrass yourself. To others, you may be just a nobody, but to yourself, you are the world.
Cultivate the ability of love
Since love, why can't we feel the warmth and beauty of love? In fact, it is one thing to have love in your heart, and how to love it is another matter.
Learn to be confident in love. People with low self-esteem often love others badly. Because I am not confident, I am worried about love, afraid of getting it, afraid of losing it, and even more afraid that the other party will not see my love. When they get along with their relatives or lovers, they may be hurt even if they love each other. Confident people can stick to their love promises and still trust and love each other when they are hurt.
Love should learn to act. Love can't be hidden in your heart, but let the other person feel your love with concrete actions. Cooking a delicious meal, walking with them where they want to go, buying back things they want to buy but don't want to buy, and caring about their fatigue and tiredness are all ways to express your love.
I also hope that you can read these two parts carefully and reflect on yourself.
Love should learn to respect. Treat the other person as a completely independent individual, respect his thoughts and behaviors, and respect his lifestyle, no matter whether he is your junior or elder.
Learn to accept love. You have your own personality, values and living habits, and he must have his own things. If you love him, you can't force him to be what you expect, but accept him and encourage him to be himself.
Learn to take responsibility when you are in love. Taking responsibility is the core of love. Being a child has the responsibility of being a child, being a parent has the responsibility of being a parent, and being a husband and wife has the responsibility of being a husband and wife. Maybe you have multiple identities, and every responsibility cannot be shirked.
Love should learn to be tolerant. Love should learn to be tolerant.
Love is an emotion and an ability. It is a kind of ability to make yourself happy and others happy, a kind of ability to make peace, a kind of ability to turn a hundred pieces of steel into soft fingers, a kind of ability to know how to pay, a kind of ability to accept and be selfless. As long as you have the ability to love, you and the people around you will definitely feel happiness deeply.
The reason why we try our best to get something from the outside world is because something is missing in our inner world.
Freud believed that people's desire to pry into other people's privacy stems from their childhood curiosity about their own life and origins.
Meditation and the law of attraction are actually just a positive self-suggestion. What really works is this positive self-suggestion, and there is really no mysterious power controlled by your mind.
Positive self-suggestion has two advantages: 1. Look at the world and problems from a higher angle, so as to find different aspects of things and problems, and have more choices and coping methods. 2. Enhance personal charm. As the saying goes, it comes from the heart. A person who is full of love and confidence in his heart will exude. People can't help being attracted. When we are attracted to a person, we can't help but want to do something for him or her to make him or her happy, so we will try our best to help him or her and support him or her.
Whether it is love or career, all kinds of myths created by meditation are, in the final analysis, the great influence exerted by positive self-suggestion. If you can't concentrate on your goals, it is also a very good way to do meditation and imagine some beautiful events and scenery. Its benefits are as follows:
First, let you know yourself, your reactions and thoughts, you can see your thinking mode and grasp the thread of your thinking.
Second, decompress and relax. Reflect on the mistakes in our lives and see what is bothering us.
Third, strengthen our energy and concentration, and let us do more work.
Meditation helps us to know ourselves better. I don't know if you realize it. Most of us actually find it difficult to really get along with ourselves. When we meditate, we can really learn to enjoy the happiness of being alone.
Five, make the body and mind regain vitality, reduce recession and delay aging.
Sixth, make the feeling sharp and clear.
Seven, let the thinking clear and calm, and increase creativity.
Eight, increase cerebral blood flow by more than 35% to make blood pressure more normal.
Nine, improve the immune system.
X. balancing the secretion of hormones
Eleven, get inner peace and happiness.
Twelve, aware of their own universe
Frank: "Even in an extremely harsh environment, people will have the last freedom, that is, the freedom to choose their own attitude and how to treat it."
Action is more important than constant inner reflection.
If there is no active aesthetic learning and accumulation, all practice is just learning a technology, and the distance is getting better and better.
A true yogi must be a beautiful person. This kind of beauty is the beauty of high-energy harmony and tranquility, which has nothing to do with the appearance of the five senses, the gorgeous or simple clothes, but is closely related to its internal cultivation.
The world is fair. If you plant beauty in your heart, you will gain a lot.
Tips: How to practice beauty
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Read an essay, a poem or a few pages of novels every day; For example, Bing Xin's prose, although ancient, has a sustained and peaceful beauty.
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Listen to some music every day; Enya's music is relatively safe, and Huilan yoga music is a great spiritual nourishment.
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Choose one person every day to discover his or her beauty and advantages, even if only one can be found;
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Clean up your environment at will and keep yourself in a clean and tidy environment. Cleanliness is a good positive energy.
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Any kind of art works, choose works that can bring you calm, cheerful, positive, loving, warm, caring, moving and other positive emotions and positive strength, so that works can really have higher emotional energy and help you better obtain mental health and self-integrity promotion.
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When you don't have enough determination to understand negative emotions and negative events, try to avoid works of art that will make you feel depressed, sad, depressed, angry and irritable, including events or people that make you feel similar in real life. Negative energy is far more destructive than you think. If a person always makes you unhappy, it is better to avoid it than what you do for him or her.
The most precious thing in the world is support and sharing in difficulties.
According to the principle of the law of attraction, when you are ready for something and have lived in that state, it will surely come soon.
Happiness and self-confidence come from giving and giving, not waiting and getting.
The secret of happiness is that no matter what the other person does or says, you only need to remember one thing: he (she) loves you, and what he (she) does or says is for love.
Choosing your first job and company carefully is responsible for your own behavior and your own life.
Long-term neglect is the sharpest killing weapon.