How to like a person's internal friction?

How to fall in love at first sight when you like someone, and then get along with each other with the object as the goal? As long as the other person doesn't meet his expected feedback, he will be swayed by considerations of gain and loss. He will be very excited if the other party exceeds his expectations. In short, it is to lose yourself and pin your emotions on each other's feedback on their thoughts and behaviors. In this way, it is easy for you to get caught up in internal friction and affect your daily life, so you can't concentrate on what you want to do.

The correct way is not to get the other person as the goal, not to think about how I can be with him, not to fantasize about all kinds of things together, but to get along with each other with the attitude of making friends, or even never being with each other.

Because of this, you won't ask too much of each other, and you won't put the feedback of each other's behavior in the framework of whether they like you or not, so you won't be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and it will be more natural to express it.

Become indifferent and lose your cool. Maybe you will have such a mentality.

Because you want a result so badly, you regard love as a formula, and only a fixed solution can get the result.