Answer other people's questions skillfully. Many people don't know how to answer questions. Not only should you be skillful in asking questions, but you should also pay attention to skills. Only in this way can they have good results. Let's take a look at the clever answers to other people's questions and related materials.
Answer other people's questions skillfully 1 (1) and answer directly.
Direct answer is to answer directly from the front according to the other person's question. For example: Q: What was the benefit of your factory in the first half of this year? A: Very good. In the first half of the year, 70% of the planned annual output was completed, with the per capita output value of 1.2 million yuan, up by 10% year-on-year, and the profits and taxes paid were 32 million yuan, a record for the same period in history. This kind of question and answer is friendly, frank and straightforward, and is usually used most frequently between superiors and subordinates, between colleagues and relatives, between customers and waiters, and between teachers and students.
(2) Change the answer
Changing the answer is changing the answer. "The Art of War" said: "Soldiers are impermanent, but water is impermanent. Being able to win because of the change of the enemy is called God. " Changing the answer is a clever way to change passivity into initiative, defense into attack and obstruction into advantage.
The characteristic of variable answer skill is "anti-"answer, that is, after briefly answering the other party's question, use the other party's content to answer. For example, when former US President Carter was campaigning, a female reporter found Carter's mother. The following is a question and answer between a female reporter and Carter's mother-female reporter: "Your son told voters,
If he tells a lie, people should not vote for him. Do you dare to say that Carter never lied? Carter's mother: "Maybe my son lied, but it was all for the best." Female reporter: "What is a white lie?" Carter's mother: "Do you remember a few minutes ago, when you crossed my threshold, I told you that you were beautiful and I was glad to meet you?"
Carter's mother's answer was tit for tat, which made the questioner very embarrassed. But this can't blame Carter's mother for being unfriendly, impolite and unkind. Her response was provoked by the unkindness of the other party and was "forced" step by step. As far as the content is concerned, its appropriateness, ingenuity and simplicity are impeccable.
There is also a more special situation of changing the answer, that is, seeking the answer. For example, on one occasion, four agreements on the limitation of strategic weapons between the United States and the Soviet Union were just signed, and Kissinger introduced the situation to the accompanying American press group in a hotel in Moscow. Here is their conversation record-Kissinger: The Soviet Union produces about 250 missiles every year. Gentlemen, if you arrest me here as a spy, we know who is to blame.
Reporter: What about our situation? How many submarine missiles are equipped with multi-warhead missiles? How many militia missiles are equipped with multiple warheads? Kissinger: I'm not sure about these figures. As for submarines, my pain is that I know the numbers, but I don't know whether to keep them secret.
Reporter: Not confidential. Kissinger: Isn't it confidential? How many do you think? Reporter: ... Kissinger obviously knows that these are confidential and can't answer. However, he didn't prevaricate with "no comment", but changed the answer to a question and answered it with a question. As a result, he turned to customers and pushed the questioner to an awkward position.
It must be pointed out that only when the questioner is hostile or aggressive can the answer be changed, otherwise it cannot be abused. Because it hurts the spirit, the result will be deadlock, silence and unhappiness.
(3) Hold and answer
Sometimes, in the face of deliberately making things difficult or even insulting questions, if you answer them directly, you will feel powerless. Even if your answer is good, it's just a defense language to excuse yourself. At this time, you can use the skill of holding and answering. The use of answering skills is to grasp the correspondence and connection between things and put forward a proposition involving the respondent and the questioner, resulting in a situation of both glory and loss, so as to offset the opponent's offensive and make himself invincible. For example—
When he was sent to Chu, the king of Chu asked an insulting question: "Why did Qi send a short and immoral person like you as a special envoy?" Yan Zi said, "It is a rule for the envoys of the State of Qi to send different people to see different kings: the sages go to see the sages,
An immoral man appeared before an immoral king. I am the most immoral person, so I was sent to the king of Chu. "The king of Chu wants to humiliate this and is humiliated by this. Yan Zi's answer linked his honor and disgrace with the king of Chu, which made the king of Chu unable to refute and self-defeating.
The secret of keeping the answer is to hold yourself and the questioner tightly together in words, so that the other party can't be in the dominant position of attack. But pay attention to the discretion when answering, because "interests are linked, honor and disgrace are * * *", so don't belittle yourself and each other too much. There should be ambiguity in the general answer. I am like that, and so are you.
(4) Wrong answer
Answering mistakes is also an alert eloquence expression skill, which can be used in both serious oral communication occasions and interesting daily oral communication occasions. Its main feature is that it does not directly answer questions or refute them. Instead, use words to change questions and make answers that are incompatible with the meaning of the questions. Look at the following example-
A beautiful girl is sitting alone in a bar. A young man came up to pay tribute and asked in a low voice, "Is anyone sitting here?" "to the Avda hotel?" She said loudly. "No, no, you are mistaken. I just asked if anyone else was sitting here. " "You said you were going tonight?" She screamed, more excited than before.
The young man blushed with embarrassment and went to another table. Many customers looked at the young man angrily and contemptuously. This example is a typical wrong answer. Wrong answers, as a mutually exclusive and evasive means of communication, are often very useful.
(5) Find the solution
Solicitation is to quote famous sayings, sayings and proverbs of celebrities to answer, so as to show your meaning or prove your point of view. This kind of answer has obvious advantages, which not only increases the authority and credibility of the speech, but also saves a lot of explanations and explanations, and also increases the vividness and appeal of oral English. For example:
Someone asked a parent, "I heard that after your child was fostered in Liu Jiaoshou's home, he kept discipline and his grades improved. Is it true? " Parents replied: "Some people say' near Zhu Zhechi', which is not bad at all." The idiom "near Zhu Zhechi" is quoted here to answer, which is very accurate, concise and vivid.
(6) Answer
Answer-to-answer is a kind of eloquence expression skill, which closely follows the words in the question, uses the method of answer-to-answer, makes a slight change on the basis of the original words, and makes an accurate, vivid and vivid answer. If this question and answer is used well, it can achieve good results. For example:
In 1950s, Wang Meng became famous for writing "New Youth of Organization Department", and was later wrongly detained as a rightist. After returning, the reader kindly asked Wang Meng: "Can you continue to maintain the creative style of" New Youth of Organization Department "?"
Wang Meng replied: "No matter how many well-meaning readers want me to keep the style of" New Youth of Organization Department ",it is impossible and unnecessary. In the past 20 years, of course, I was forced to leave the' Organization Department' and was no longer a' young man'. "
This passage uses the conjunction method: "forced to leave the organization department", which shows that he has been wronged and "is no longer a young man", which shows the inevitability of changes in his life and creative style. The answer is very artistic and ingenious. If you directly give a few reasons to talk about the relationship between life and creation, it will be stiff and old-fashioned In this way, the meaning of the text is skillfully connected between the author and the reader, and the effect is very lasting.
(7) Interrupt the answer
Interrupted answer is a kind of oral communication skill that intercepts the other person's question and makes a wrong answer before the other person has finished or finished something. The difference between it and the wrong answer is that there is a human dislocation between the answer and the question, that is, the answer is irrelevant; Moreover, the wrong answer is the answer after listening to the question.
Interrupting an answer means answering a question without hearing it. A young man and a young woman work together, and the man has a good impression on the woman. The man is eager to express his wishes. Although women get the message, they are unwilling to develop friendship into love. She thinks it is best to keep pure friendship. As a result, the following answers appeared:
Young man: I want to ask you if you like ... Young woman: I like the philosophy book you lent me. I have read it twice. Young man: Don't you see that I like it ... Young woman: I know you like philosophy, too. Let's exchange learning experiences together in the future. Young man: Really ... Young woman: Yes! I've always wanted to learn from each other and from you. Young man: …
The young woman interrupted her answer three times, which made the young man understand her thoughts and stopped asking. This is much better than asking him directly, and the young woman refused to face it.
Answer other people's questions skillfully 2 1, and you can answer them vaguely.
When encountering an embarrassing question that is difficult to answer, instead of giving someone a specific answer immediately, it is better to take an ambiguous answer, that is, to prevaricate the answer with meaningless words. For example, I need time to think about this question, and I'll give you the answer later, give myself time to think, and let others realize that this question really makes us a little embarrassed.
2. You can answer irrelevant questions.
When someone asks us a question that we don't want to answer, we can shift the specific question of yes and no by answering irrelevant questions. For example, colleagues who work together in the company asked our boss if he gave you a raise. In the case that it is inconvenient to answer such personal questions as yes or no, it can be said that the newcomer has been in good shape recently, doing really well and so on.
3. Clever crooked answer.
When we meet some ridiculous questions asked by the other party, we can make a crooked answer to steal the concept, and it is also a good way to throw the questions to the other party. For example, when applying for a job, the other party asked us, how many people have watches on this day? What color? You can answer the question that some of our candidates wear white socks. It is illegal to steal the concept.
4. Avoid directly.
When we encounter a difficult problem, we should not be afraid to refuse. We can directly say the reasons that make others feel really so evasive, such as asking us if someone has a problem with their private style and others will stay away from them. We can directly say that this is someone else's private matter. I don't comment, so I will naturally answer politely, so that neither myself nor others will feel embarrassed.
5, the way to induce others to recognize.
If we meet a friend and ask us a private matter that we can't talk about, we can ask her first. After I tell you, can you keep a secret? Then the other party will definitely answer that I can keep it a secret, so that we can say that I happen to be the same, which can induce our friend to tell us why we don't want to answer, but we have already answered her on the surface.
6. Learn to use it flexibly.
Although it seems awkward to avoid answering, as long as we study hard and skillfully express avoidance methods with our own little wisdom, it is also a kind of knowledge that can handle interpersonal relationships well. If you can't avoid it properly for a while, then you can honestly show your difficulties to others. As long as you study hard and use it flexibly, you can better master it.
Answer other people's questions skillfully. 3. The first answer is irrelevant. Answering irrelevant questions is an evasive strategy in debate. In some cases, when the other party asks some questions that can't be answered for some reasons, but it's not convenient to answer them directly, you can take the tactics of answering irrelevant questions, avoiding the truth, and distracting the other party's attention with immaterial words. It seems that you have made a general answer, but in fact you have quietly avoided the original thorny question.
Once, composer Brahms attended a concert by a young pianist. The young pianist specially held this concert after composing music for Schiller's poem The Last Song. Brahms listened attentively to the concert and showed a very intoxicated look. The pianist is very happy. As soon as the concert was over, he asked Brahms:
"Do adults like this kind of music very much?" Brahms answered irrelevant questions and said with a smile, "This finale is indeed an immortal poem." He cleverly evaded the question and tactfully expressed his true thoughts. In other words, he appreciates this immortal poem, but he thinks the pianist's music level is not high.
Second, invalid answer. Making a meaningless answer with some meaningless words is called invalid answer, which includes valid, invalid answer and pure invalid answer. On the surface, the former does not directly answer questions, but actually has deep connotations that need to be understood by the other party; The latter, that is, no answer can be found from the respondents' answers, is mostly because the respondents are unwilling to answer or difficult to answer.
The staff in charge of enrollment in a university went to a school to recruit candidates. Once the examinee asked, "I heard that my name has been registered in the enrollment list of your school." Can I be admitted to your school? " The staff said with a smile: "Our school wants to recruit some new students. I have registered the names of many candidates on my roster, and your name is also recorded on it. Can you be admitted?
Please look at the list of freshmen admitted to our school in the newspaper! "although the staff also answered the questions raised by the candidates, there is no answer from the answer that can be admitted. The only answer you want is to look for the admission list of freshmen in the newspaper.
The third method is indirect answer, that is, the person who answers the question raises some sharp questions with clever language analogy. When Churchill visited the United States, an American congresswoman who opposed him said to him:
"If I were your wife, I would poison your coffee." Churchill smiled and replied, "If I were your husband, I would drink that cup of coffee." Churchill used this different tone to resolutely hit back at the female parliamentarians, which was more powerful than the direct answer and made the female parliamentarians ugly.
The fourth is to retreat for progress. Retreat for progress, that is, in the answer, the respondent acknowledges what the questioner said, and then gives an appropriate reply, such as "You are so beautiful, why haven't you found someone yet?" Answer: "Yes, because I chose it more carefully than you." In this conversation, because the questioner is aggressive, sharp-tongued and reckless, the respondent adopts the way of recognizing first and then returning. This is called retreat for progress.