To mobilize children's enthusiasm for learning, it is important to help children gain a sense of success. When a child continues to succeed in learning, he will feel happy and love learning more. For example, when learning a foreign language, you might as well learn from your child and become your teacher. This will also greatly improve your child's interest in learning and their seriousness in learning. Learning English with his parents and teaching adults will make him happy. However, parents should arrange their time, preferably a quarter of an hour a day, and stick to it to show seriousness and sincerity. Practice has proved that: relaxed and enjoyable learning can fully mobilize and develop students' learning interest, enthusiasm and potential, thereby enhancing memory effects and mastering the ability to use foreign languages; on the contrary, dull, boring and intense learning can only inhibit thinking activities and Reduce learning effect.
In addition, we must insist on encouragement, no criticism, and little criticism, so that children can learn happily. For this reason, parents must not compare their children's shortcomings with other people's children, saying, "Look, others always take the top spot, how about you?!"... You must know that each child's foundation, body, and Hobbies, especially language skills, are different or even very different. Comparing them casually will only reduce his interest in learning.
We have put forward some of the above methods to help parents create a relaxed and enjoyable learning environment and atmosphere for their children outside of class, so that their children will enjoy learning. It can be said that if you want your children to learn well, you must first let them "love learning" and "enjoy learning". This is what modern education has repeatedly emphasized.
Specifically, creating a good reading atmosphere can stimulate children's curiosity and thus cultivate their interest in reading. Children are willing to spend two hours a day watching TV, but are not willing to spend 30 minutes reading a book. This is the crisis in our current education. For many children, learning to read is a slow, difficult process. Children should be told that the knowledge in books can broaden their horizons, enrich their lives, and let them understand how important books are to us.
The poetry of the Tang and Song Dynasties is the most vital treasure in the history of Chinese literature. It is exquisite and grand, catchy and edifying; it is very classic and has the spirit of spiritual exploration. You can advocate "a poem a day" at home. The poems should be found and provided by the children themselves. The poems should be performed in turns according to age. They must be sung and read before going to bed, supplemented by appropriate inspiration and appropriate guidance. This is a kind of penetration that is as invisible as air. Although it only takes a few minutes every day, over time, it will definitely be a reward in life.
You can also consciously introduce famous writers, their representatives, and related anecdotes to your children, thereby stimulating your children's interest in reading and encouraging them to learn more about relevant knowledge.
Of course, parents should also care about and understand their children's situation, make correct estimates and make correct demands, and never expect their children to succeed or make excessive demands. You must know that excessively high targets and expectations cannot be achieved by children even if they work hard. They will only cause children to fail again and again, causing them greater mental pressure and inferiority complex. It will not take long for them to "break the pot". If the requirements for children are reasonable, the situation will be different. There is a student in a part-time English primary school in Beijing. His language and arithmetic scores in the ordinary primary school were not good, and his grades were not good after he entered the English class. His mother did not want him to continue to attend. In one test, he only scored 9 points. The teacher did the work for the child and the parents, and said that he could retake the test. After studying hard, he scored 61 points. He was very happy. For the first time, he felt that he was not a "stupid". The parents gave him the opportunity to try again for one semester. Opportunity, just like this, with the encouragement and help of teachers and parents, this student not only made great progress in English, but also in language and mathematics. Such great progress, on the one hand, illustrates the child's strong plasticity. On the other hand, it also illustrates the importance of teachers always placing expectations on him, not giving up on him, and providing specific help. It also illustrates that parents' requirements for him are not only too high. , and encouraged him to continue working hard, giving him self-confidence and self-esteem, thus generating the interest and intrinsic motivation of "I want to learn".
What needs to be emphasized is that parents must treat "scores" and "grades" correctly, and "emphasize the process and ignore the results." That is, what is more important is that the child is happy to go to school, can study with his classmates, and make a certain amount of effort. In such a learning process, this "process" of both effort and progress is itself the effect. and grades. We should encourage parents not to keep asking how many points they got? When is the exam? In fact, correct teaching should mainly focus on allowing children to "show" rather than "test", and have fun rather than pressure.
Some parents like to set a "reference person" (model) for their children. They often praise their children for how good they are and add 20 points if they get 100 points. They think this can encourage their children to work hard. Don't you know? The result of this can only make the child very disgusted.
As mentioned earlier, each child's body, learning foundation, intelligence, etc. are different, and their language skills are also different. Moreover, every child has self-esteem and ambition. Parents take advantage of their children's shortcomings and The worst thing is to compare the strengths of other children's children. The more you compare, the more children will have nowhere to hide, and they will become more and more "hostile" to outstanding students and hate learning. The result is that education has entered a "vicious cycle" ", this is another method of "vertical comparison" that parents should often use when they "do something wrong with good intentions". Especially for children who currently have more problems, they should encourage more and make "vertical comparisons", that is, use their Compare "today" with his "before" and carefully look for his progress. This is what people often call "looking for shining points." For example, from not taking the initiative to go to school to taking the initiative; from not raising his hands or opening his mouth in class to speaking. In a word, when you go home and take the initiative to read a page of a book, etc., you must cherish every "once", a good start or a little progress, so that your children can see their own progress and feel that their parents are full of hope for them. That is when he will continue to work hard to strive for greater progress and achievements, and truly build up his self-esteem and self-confidence, so that he can have real learning motivation and self-improvement spirit.
It is necessary to encourage more, pay more specific attention to and even participate in children's learning, criticize less and preferably not criticize children on learning issues, and sarcasm, beating and scolding are even more undesirable.
Psychologist Rosenthal once conducted a famous experiment: in an elementary school, he randomly selected the names of some students from the student roster and told the teacher that, based on their Research has determined that these students are talented and intelligent, can make great progress in their studies, and will have great potential in the future. A few months later, the year-end test results showed that the average score of these students was several points higher than that of other students. Why did the scores of randomly selected students rise significantly? One of the main reasons is that teachers are influenced by the "authoritative judgment" of experts and influence these students. They give these students high expectations, not only with their words, but also with "encouraging eyes" and "Lean forward towards him" and so on to "explicitly indicate" and "hint" these students, "You are smarter than others", "You can solve this problem, think about it again", all of which will make this part of the students more Use your brain to think more and study hard, so you receive more and more encouragement. On the other hand, after students are influenced by teachers, they also think and feel that they are "smart children", "I can do it", "I am smarter than other students", so they work harder and their academic performance improves continuously. The ground rises. This is the "expectation effect" or "cue effect". The inspiration for our parents is: encourage your children more, such as saying "you have grown up and become sensible", "you can catch up", "this time" If you didn’t do well in the exam, we believe you can work hard and you will make progress” and other words of encouragement. At the same time, when you hear a child speaking English or doing actions at home, you should praise the child for "progress" or "good child", or pat the child or give him a hug, that is, you should behave towards the child. Create a sense of satisfaction and intimacy, and give play to the "expectation effect" of parents.
We believe that creating a good learning atmosphere is more important than good material conditions and directly affects the development of children's emotional IQ. It mainly includes the following aspects:
First, harmonious family relationships between husband and wife and harmonious parent-child relationships. This is based on mutual love and respect. It makes children feel safe and able to study with peace of mind; it makes children feel responsible and responsible for their families. According to various surveys at home and abroad: children from families where parents often quarrel display psychological disorders such as low self-esteem, timidity, suspicion, and unsociability, which greatly affect and interfere with the children's learning and growth. We call for creating a harmonious family for the sake of children!
Secondly, encourage children to study diligently and ask questions, and encourage everyone to learn from each other. When parents and children encounter problems that they do not understand or understand, they should look up the dictionary and read the information together. This will only enhance the prestige of the parents, increase the children's enthusiasm for learning, and add a lot of fun to the family.
Once again, a good example from parents. We know that children generally do not have clear learning goals. At this time, parents' attitudes towards learning, especially their behavior, will greatly affect their children. Parents like to read and read newspapers, especially the concepts and behaviors of learning new things and keeping up with the new era. This is the best, most long-lasting and far-reaching education for their children without education.