-Yu Xiuhua
Yu Xiuhua, a 46-year-old poetess with cerebral palsy, took wedding photos with her boyfriend in the scenic spot just because the exposure of her 15-year-old boyfriend caused controversy.
Previously, every appearance of Yu Xiuhua was full of controversy.
A disabled peasant woman living at the bottom of society, her poems are full of bold, strong, straightforward and unrestrained passion.
My speech is awkward, and I have never wronged myself.
However, such a woman has gone through hardships in the real mud for the first half of her life.
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Yu Xiuhua was born in rural Hubei.
Due to an accident at birth, he became a cerebral palsy patient.
Walk unsteadily and speak vaguely.
When I was in high school, my Chinese teacher gave me 0 because of my crooked writing.
She tore up the book in a rage and never went to school again.
19 years old, parents made a decision and recruited a door-to-door son-in-law Yin Shiping who was 13 years older than herself.
Like thousands of Qian Qian people in this land, Yin Shiping doesn't like her ugly appearance, physical disability and inarticulate speech.
He works outside for many years, and only goes home during the Spring Festival and busy farming. Sometimes, he would abuse her and drag her hair against the wall.
Yin Shiping hates her poems, too.
Sitting with the workmates for dinner, Yin Shiping's friend imitated Yu Xiuhua's trembling appearance and said with a smile, "Women are pigs. It' s just fine. "
Yin Shiping cheerfully should be "yes".
One year, Yin Shiping was working outside, and the foreman owed him 800 yuan. He dragged her for a salary and asked her to stop the boss's car.
Because she is disabled, the boss dare not hit her.
In his mind, Yu Xiuhua's life is only 800 yuan, even worse than a pig.
Although Yu Xiuhua is physically disabled, he has the innate delicacy and sensitivity of a poet.
She values the spiritual world and longs for love.
But such a husband cannot communicate with her in the spiritual world at all.
But Yin Shiping doesn't want a divorce. Because there is a house to live in and a woman to sleep in, you can give him a son and food when you go home.
Poetry, for Yu Xiuhua, is the outlet to dispel these turbid realities.
She lived in the mud for the first half of her life and wrote poems on the clouds.
The author Ye Fu once said: I think the birth of poets is more made by fate than by talent.
Perhaps it is the real sufferings that Yu Xiuhua encountered from birth, and these muddy realities contributed to the inspiration and tension of her works.
She once said, "Even if I am polluted by this society and there is no clean place, I will be clean again when I return to poetry. Poetry has been cleaning me and pitying me. "
In 20 14, Yu Xiuhua wrote "I came to sleep with you halfway through China", which caused thousands of reposts and became an instant hit.
"I accompany you through the bullets to sleep.
I pushed countless nights to sleep with you at dawn.
I can't count the one I met. I'll go to bed with you ... "
People were shocked by her bold words and strong emotional expression.
In particular, she turned out to be such an ugly and disabled peasant woman in the eyes of the secular.
Since then, Yu Xiuhua and her poems have been surrounded by controversy.
"Slut poet" makes some people feel indifferent and even spit on it.
But it is undeniable that both her people and her poems are full of vitality.
She is a truly gifted and talented person.
Liu Nian, editor-in-chief of Poetry magazine, once described Yu Xiuhua's poems as follows: "Her poems stand out among the poetesss in China, just like putting a murderer among a group of ladies-everyone else is neatly dressed, painted with powder and perfume, and there is no sweat in black and white, but she is smoky and confused, with obvious blood between the lines."
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Yu Xiuhua became famous.
The first thing to do when you get the payment is divorce.
Yin Shiping didn't want to, so he called him: "Come back this month to get a divorce and give him150,000. Come back next month, 100 thousand. "
Finally, at the cost of money, she was free.
She began to boldly pursue her love.
She caught up with the writers association and the poet and radio host in the county cultural center.
Write love poems and express your love to Li Jian unscrupulously on the Weibo.
However, people are avoiding her.
People think she is making a fool of herself and can't recognize herself.
The core idea is "you deserve it."
Further subconsciously, it is "we all agree, why don't you accept it?" ! "
Like Yuqi Zhang and Cecilia Cheung, if you want to leave, you can find small fresh meat, and if you want to have children, you can have children.
Because people are beautiful, rich and willful.
However, when people are old, ugly and physically disabled, they are not qualified to pursue the beauty in their hearts?
Imagine if the identities of men and women were reversed. A talented phenomenal disabled male poet, in his forties, found a young wife who was more than ten years younger than himself and was born in the countryside. Will it cause so much criticism?
Once, when Yu Xiuhua was drunk and talking nonsense in her live studio because of lovelorn love, a young man named Yang Chuce sent her some honey that she raised herself.
I hope she will take good care of herself and stop her stomachache.
Born in 1990, Yang Chuce is a rural beekeeper.
There was a marriage before, and I had a son and a daughter.
But he likes literature at ordinary times, writes his own poems and is a fan of Yu Xiuhua. It can be seen from this that Xiao Yang is at least a person who pursues spiritual life. It's not so incredible that he worships Yu Xiuhua. )
He did many things that moved her, including walking from the foot of Wudang Mountain to the top of the mountain, just to make a wish "I hope Yu Xiuhua will be happy."
One to two, two people are online.
Now happy to run, the two ran to Zhengzhou. Go to the theatre, chat, drink and brag.
In the evening, I have sex in the hotel.
Yu Xiuhua wrote this process on his official number.
In this fresh and refined little Huang Liwenli, she wrote, "Yang Chuce carried me back to the hotel again and again, bathed me and shined my shoes ... The only thing I did was keep shouting: Yang Chuce, come on!"
Seeing this, I can't help laughing.
Mr. Yu Xiuhua, that's interesting.
So, for the first time, Mr. Yu experienced that "the body will be so beautiful, which broke my inherent disgust and suspicion of the male body." I was born a man, and I don't lose money here. "
Of course, after all, it is a little German shepherd ten years younger.
But people are full of doubts about this relationship.
Of course, from a secular point of view, Yu Xiuhua's appearance does not have any charm to attract men, let alone a healthy young man who is ten years younger than her.
Yu Xiuhua has publicly stated that Xiao Yang is in his thirties and has no independent thoughts of his own.
Obviously, in this relationship, Yu Xiuhua is in an advantageous position in terms of experience, knowledge and financial resources.
Yu Xiuhua is well aware of this relationship.
She has long said that the essence of gender relations is to have a plan. If you have nothing and nothing for others to remember, what is the value and meaning of your life?
Appearance is only one aspect. At least Yu Xiuhua has something for men to look after.
Her heart is like a mirror.
He wants her talent and fame, and she wants his youth and body, each doing his own thing and getting what he needs.
Even if one day Yang Chuce dislikes her leaving him, she will gladly accept it and let him go.
She doesn't have any extravagant hopes to grow old together forever.
Compared with the first half of her life, she just wants to enjoy the present.
Many people haven't realized that Yu Xiuhua has actually made an annual income of tens of millions by virtue of his works and live broadcasts.
She has her own way to deal with being abandoned and cheated.
What's more, there may not be so much malice and deception in reality. It's just that two people have their own defects in the secular vision, and they just report to the group to keep warm.
Yu Xiuhua is not a pure love brain in essence.
She said: "I love literature first, then flowers and plants." As for men, it's just a footnote in life. "
She doesn't love a specific person, and love may be just a carrier of a better life for her.
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Yu Xiuhua has always called herself a "female rascal".
She is real, vulgar, pungent, full of passion and vitality.
Born from humble origins, but refused to be a docile sheep honestly.
She is always like a fighter of life, showing no mercy to all those who look down on her and try to insult her.
I not only woke up, but also taught a group of women bad luck.
Make them grow up with clear self-awareness and pursue inner and sexual liberation.
This is easy to cause many "guardians" to panic.
She is the kind of woman that people want to suppress and stifle most in a patriarchal society.
Although Yu Xiuhua is physically disabled, his soul is not bound by this broken body. He is sound, transparent and free.
Always have the courage to fight against fate.
Although many people are healthy and normal, their souls are incomplete.
Yu Xiuhua's view of love is mature and transparent, which shows the essence of sexual relations.
What is the essence?
To put it bluntly, the relationship between men and women is just three views.
The first is sexual value.
That is, desire (including face value, figure, temperament, attraction, etc. )
The second is economic value.
That is, support (family, property, income, development space, etc.). ).)
The third is emotional value.
That is, companionship (temper, personality, three views, consideration, care, etc.). ).)
Why are you getting married?
I only hope that at least one of the three can be obtained.
Many people have nothing to offer in love and marriage.
But fantasizing about a perfect couple falling from the sky.
With what?
We must realize that good love and marriage should satisfy each other.
Yu Xiuhua's mature and transparent concept of love is also reflected in another place.
She said, "If one day he doesn't like me, break up with me. I will also help him.
Because the meaning of everyone's life is greater than the meaning of love. "
Writer Li Xiaoyi once made a survey about women.
After investigation, she came to a conclusion:
Any woman who regards love as her life will almost never have a good result in the end.
"A woman who truly understands life, like most men, will lead her life into multiple choices.
Like a chair with four legs, you can stand without one leg. "
Therefore, in a healthy relationship model, the proportion of love should only account for 30%-70%.
Because you have to leave room for your career, family, friendship, hobbies and so on.
Liking someone should bring happiness and fulfillment to your life.
Not the other way around.
Give me a compliment. Yu Xiuhua is quite cute.
Just like a netizen said, "If you don't love her, remember to put her down and don't fall." She is a new milestone for us women. "