Primitive book of songs
Plums fall to the ground, leaving 70% of the trees. Please ask me to be a scholar, and I will be lucky.
Plums fell to the ground with only three branches. I have a heart to ask my young man not to wait any longer today.
There are plums and a basket. My child, please don't hesitate to ask me.
Online translation of ancient poems;
Plums fell to the ground, leaving 70% on the tree. If you want to ask my young man, please don't delay.
Plums have landed, leaving only 30% of the branches. Young man who wants to beg me, don't wait until today.
Plums fall to the ground one after another and need dustpans to clean them up. The young man who wants to beg me, say it quickly, don't hesitate.
This poem is probably the earliest hate marriage poem. Mei is a metaphor for people, from three maturity, seven maturity to full maturity. The girl hopes that the concerned young man will come to ask for relatives and friends as soon as possible. What happened afterwards? Who knows, maybe you, me and him are all descendants of poets.
This problem really needs to be viewed historically. Generally speaking, the economic status of ancient women was low. At home, they were married from their fathers' families and from their husbands' families. At a certain age, if you are not married, you will start to be rejected at your parents' home. If they want to support themselves, courageous girls may have to dress up as women. Not to mention the inhuman bad habit of asking women to bind their feet in the Song Dynasty, which greatly limited the scope and types of women's activities.
So how old do you want to get married? According to the Book of Rites, you should probably be 15, 16 years old. 13, 4 years old is still a girl's cardamom, and she should be engaged in general. 15 years old is a girl's birthday (J:ρ), and the hair should be combed into a bun, which means that the girl is mature enough to become a monk. And 16 years old, the year of Jasper, is also the age when girls get married. 15, after 6 years old, is an older young woman. The famous older married woman in A Dream of Red Mansions is probably Xue Baochai. She was about 18 years old when she married Baoyu. The book also explains that she was delayed because she was running for the imperial concubine. As for Fang Qiu, another golden woman, who is only 23 years old, no good marriage awaits her.
When the flowers should be folded, we should fold them quickly, and don't wait for the flowers to wither before folding one.
About hate marriage, I also found some poems about hate marriage on the internet, so I can have a glimpse.
Since the beginning of the last century, with the continuous advancement of the New Culture Movement, the status of women has also undergone earth-shaking changes.
Although there is still a love triangle in the park today, uncles and aunts are all running for their children, on the whole, women can be economically independent, so even if they don't get married all their lives, they don't have to look at their faces. In other words, women nowadays, with their backs to the times, can no longer hate marriage.
10 years ago, when I was working in O Record, I often traveled to and from Hong Kong. Once, I was surprised to find that at that time, Hong Kong women got married for the first time at the age of 40. I was shocked at that time. According to the mainland standard of being forced to get married at the age of 30, this age is incredible.
There are more and more single women now, especially in big cities. From a woman's point of view, since I can handle everything in my life (even having children), why does a man have to stand in my way? Will marriage, a stable social cell, die with the development of human society? Maybe!
But at least, over 1000 years ago, Su Shi said, "Who's afraid! A misty rain is a lifetime! " Today, women can also shout it out.