These sisters, after primary election, re-election, elimination, resurrection, finally won, after five levels, defeated six generals, braved the wind and waves all the way, and finally gained new growth! In fact, on the road of our life growth, no matter what age you are, whether you are 20, 30+ or 40+, you need this courage to ride the wind and waves, and you can continue to grow!
I believe that 99% of us will encounter some setbacks in our life journey, and some people will never get out and repeat the same mistakes; Someone crossed it, so he grew up. Just like those sisters who braved the wind and waves, several of them were eliminated, and they were really eliminated. They bid farewell to the stage of this program. On the contrary, some sisters constantly break through themselves, dare to make new attempts, and finally successfully resurrect and re-enter the stage, thus moving towards success!
This is also an attitude towards life that I advocate: braving the wind and waves and going forward bravely.
People who have only known me in recent years have commented on me: I think I am quite confident and people look more outgoing. But in fact, I have experienced some twists and turns, and through my own continuous breakthrough, I have become what I am today.
The calm before the storm.
I remember when I was in kindergarten, I once went to work in a factory with my mother. I was alone in the lobby of the factory waiting for my mother. Seeing the big boss of their factory coming from a distance, I shouted excitedly: hello, boss! At that time, the memory of that scene was still very deep, because I remember that after I politely greeted my boss, he gave me 20 Hong Kong dollars. At that time, I was not afraid of strangers. Judging from this matter, I should be an extrovert since I was a child. I think I would have been so outgoing if my family hadn't changed later. ...
Encounter wind and waves
In the first grade of primary school, my parents divorced. My father always dislikes me as a girl because he prefers boys to girls. At that time, my parents were in Shenzhen, and there were regular employees and jobs, so my mother didn't plan to have a second child. To this end, my father filed for divorce. I was seven years old that year. From then on, I became a child of a single-parent family.
Seven years old, I don't know what this means. Until the secret was discovered by my classmates, and then the monitor and other classmates began to make fun of me. I don't quite remember what they said, but a bunch of them surrounded me, looked at me with strange eyes, and shouted something ~ I still remember the horrible picture vividly, and that scene, that scene deeply came into my mind and was engraved into my heart. From then on, I became very inferior, timid and introverted. I'm afraid of contact with others, I'm afraid of contact with everyone's eyes. This is a big card point in my life.
I remember when I was studying, I always took a minibus home after school. At that time, I got off the bus by shouting. There were about five or six stops before I got off, and I began to get nervous. Why? Because I have to shout to get off the bus, and I dare not. I have been thinking that I hope someone can get off with me, so that I don't have to speak in front of many strangers. But when I saw the station approaching, no one said anything. I held my breath nervously and stared at the direction of the car door. After the stop, I was so nervous that two words came out of my throat, "Yes, come down!" " "But it's too late, the car has slowly slipped past the station and left. I stood at the door of the car and watched the car drive to the next stop. At the moment I opened the door and got off the bus, tears began to flow out. Inexplicably feel wronged. That road is the longest I have ever walked. I walked silently and cried silently for 20 minutes before I came home, as if to pour out all my grievances.
Timidity and introversion not only affected my life, but also caused too many things to go wrong. For example, one brick after another blocked my way forward, leaving me in a state of entanglement and pain. It also deeply restricted my interpersonal relationship and affected my academic performance. Because I am timid and introverted, I dare not even ask my classmates and teachers about my study, so that my grades are average.
All this was seen by the head teacher in junior high school. He cares about me and knows something about my family. Once he talked to me, she said, Xiaoying, don't be so closed up. You should meet more people, study hard and be a brave girl. Only when the heart is strong can we protect ourselves and protect our mother.
This sentence of the head teacher deeply touched me. Only when I am strong inside can I protect myself and my mother. Yes, I can't live in my own world so cowardly anymore. I want to be a brave girl! So I am determined to change myself and make myself stronger and more confident!
riding the winds and breaking the waves
The first change was the school's cultural performance, and I got up the courage to take the initiative to sign up. However, after signing up, I regretted it again. Can you feel it? It is a person who has never been on stage. I am afraid of all eyes, but suddenly I have to go on stage to face the tension of thousands of people singing solo in the whole school. At that time, I was very entangled. I wanted to break through in my mind and I was afraid in my heart.
After signing up, I began to be nervous a month ago. I am more afraid of making a fool of myself than performing on stage. There are many scenes in my mind where I forgot the lyrics because of nervousness and fell on the stage because of nervousness. In order not to make a fool of yourself, that song is played in a single loop from morning till night. When no one is around, I sing the lyrics myself and recite them until I am possessed. Even if you don't sing, lyrics and melodies often flash in your mind unconsciously, and will automatically pop up and play automatically, which feels like an illusion.
Later, at the moment when I came to power, I took off four or five Baidu glasses because I was afraid of everyone's eyes and in order not to be scared by the eyes of more than a thousand people. Finally, I finally finished my performance in a haze. When I walked down, I was already sweating with nervousness. This is the first time in my life.
Later, I began to take part in the poetry reading contest and English speech contest in the university. It was then that my classmates and teachers got to know me again.
I was discovered because of my performance. The monitor of the university thought my voice was good, and in order to exercise me, he helped me sign up for the small debate in my class. Because it is a small competition, there is no guidance and no participation, so I have no experience at all. That time gave me a big blow. As a debater, I didn't speak except for the first time. After the game, I left quietly. I feel very sorry for the monitor. Later, the monitor told me: If I were you, I would say a few more words and seize the opportunity since I came to power anyway. You don't have to win to get on stage. I just want you to exercise yourself more. Even a few more words are better than nothing.
I've reflected on it myself. At that time, I stood on the stage for the first time without fear. The reason why I didn't speak was because I didn't know how to express myself. I dare not express it because I don't know how to express it.
So when I broke through the problem of timidity and introversion, I found a new sticking point, which is the problem of language expression. But at that time, I didn't know how to improve my expressive ability. I feel that as long as I don't go on stage, it won't have much impact on my life.
This concept continued until I came out to work and met a female colleague who was doing business. She is a colleague in my department. She is several years older than me and three years older than me. It is reasonable to say that she has an advantage over me, but I don't know why, she often likes to inadvertently aim at me and steal the limelight. Even, I often blame myself for not having a false name. Most of the time, it is obviously reasonable, but I can't say it. I had a hard time in those years. I can't wait to learn to argue, so that I can argue with her.
Later, I began to express myself through writing. Then, by chance, I attended a lecture class. I remember studying and practicing on other platforms at that time. In order to concentrate on writing and speaking, I gave up other studies. In order to practice oral English, I gave up the dinner party with my colleagues and friends. I concentrate on my studies and am eager to get results in my studies.
The first thing to wake up every morning is to open the courseware and listen to the class, then write a manuscript, record a video and punch in. Although it was only a short 2 or 3 minutes, I repeatedly recorded those minutes from morning till night. In the process of recording, it is often stuck during the call. Later, I finally finished the process and saw myself in the video, feeling ugly. Stiff and unnatural movements, all kinds of problems. So, I had to re-record. I recorded a short speech for five hours and three minutes. So a month passed. Finally, in the final of more than 200 people, I advanced all the way and finally won the only special prize in the competition. And after the game, he was invited by the battalion commander to be the deputy battalion commander in the next training camp.
At the moment I learned that I won the prize, I screamed with joy, and tears could not help flowing down. This time, it was tears of joy. It is the kind of joy that you have worked hard and braved the wind and waves to grow up. Only those who have experienced it can truly understand it.
Because of continuous efforts and continuous learning, I know how to express myself better in the communication with colleagues and people in my life. Let me grow up in my life and work!
Participation again and again, efforts again and again, growth again and again, let me gain courage and regain my confidence. I deeply feel that if I hadn't plucked up the courage to come to power for the first time, I wouldn't have the calmness of coming to power today; If I didn't summon up the courage to change myself and study hard, I wouldn't know that I could have a broader sky! Sisters can ride the wind and waves, I can, and so can you!
Finally, extract the lyrics of a song. I want to say to you * * * Watch me fly, I am proud to fly high, life has started, I want you to be wonderful forever, believe me, I can fly, I sing in the sky, and you once told me to be a brave girl!