? Face love with a temporary preservation mood!
————Jiang Xun
In history, we see that Li Qingzhao cherished his love for Zhao Mingcheng, and the two of them discussed poetry and studied gold and stone together, and "gold and stone" also became Another form of love between the two of them. Later, they fled together again. After Zhao Mingcheng left, Li Qingzhao wrote many splendid poems with a lifetime of love. This kind of love was full, but of course it was also sad. We also see Zhao Mengfu and Guan Zhongji, a painter couple from the Yuan Dynasty in China, who love each other, you and I. Is it possible for Guan Zhongji to retain her youthful beauty when she is old? Impossible, but the poems they sent to each other continued even when they were old. I think this is really wisdom.
I absolutely believe that love does not age with age, it still exists, not because I say this because I am old, but because I truly believe it. Just like we see in many gossip magazines, it is mentioned that after many female celebrities get old, they are still pursued by many young men. She may not be attracted by her youth, but they must have something else.
? In fact, if we think about it carefully, what is youth? It is very short-lived, it is physical lust, and the charm of lust comes from curiosity. When it is repeated to a certain extent, both parties will become tired and relaxed. Therefore, you should never rely on youth or sex. You should expand the branch of love and let love be like a net, trapping the objects of your true love.
It sounds like setting a trap, but when you expand the network infinitely, it will have no boundaries and the network will no longer exist.
? Just like a story told by Zhuangzi, there was a man who owned a treasure. He carried the treasure with him every day because he felt that everyone wanted to steal it, and he was very worried. One day, when he was changing clothes, he almost lost this baby, and he felt so sad. Zhuangzi said, if you think that this treasure is yours, if your family takes it away, you will lose it. But if you think of it as if this treasure belongs to your family, then even if your family members take it away, it will still be at home and still yours.
He thought it made sense and started putting things at home. But one day, this treasure was taken away by a neighbor. He felt very unbearable. He lost this treasure. Zhuangzi said, if you regard this treasure as belonging to the entire community, even if it is taken away by your neighbors, it will still be yours. Wouldn't it be very happy?
Later, this treasure was stolen by people from other villages... Zhuangzi expanded his love step by step, and finally took the world as his own. If you think this treasure belongs to the world, Then wherever it goes, it's yours.
Zhuangzi means that everyone has selfishness, but selfishness can be extended to the entire world. This sentence sounds very paradoxical, but it is a kind of wisdom. It is very difficult to achieve, but it is not absolutely impossible. possible. Use this attitude to face the things you love most, all the things you call treasure, and the things you are most afraid of losing, so that you will not be afraid. Because there is nothing that cannot be lost. Even if you do not lose it in space, one day you will lose it in time.
? You can only keep all the "babies" temporarily. When you face love with a temporary storage mood, it will actually be easier and more tolerant. Moreover, since it is a baby, you will never be the only one to love it. If only you love it, it is not a baby.
Slowly experience and adjust the conflicts here. When you lose the day, you will be less angry, less resentful, and less jealous - I just mean less, no. No, because even I can’t do it myself.