I have always hated cats, and I prefer puppies. But out of concern for my daughter's psychology, I agreed. We named the kitten Mimi. How do people and cats get along in the following days?
Two-month-old Mimi came to my house with a sense of mission. I hope to bring more happiness and companionship to my daughter.
My daughter chose this kitten from several kittens beside her mother in a pet shop. It was chosen to come to a new home. How can a two-month-old kitten take care of herself without the care of her mother?
On the first day of going home, Xiaomi was timid, hiding in a strange environment for a while, hiding under the invisible sofa and afraid to come out. On the first day, she didn't take a bite of cat food, drink a drop of water or pee. The cat seller said that it takes a week or so for a kitten to adapt to a strange environment, so it is not hungry.
I think Xiaomi, who left his mother, is just like a child who left his mother, and he is a little afraid of the new environment. Wrapping herself in this way is a kind of self-protection of her life safety instinct.
The next day, I found that Xiaomi actually started to take the initiative to eat cat food, like a hungry child, desperately swallowing it. This is the instinct to survive.
After eating and licking his mouth, he began to walk slowly around the room, exploring the environment at home, smelling here and seeing there, what is dangerous and safe for him, full of strangeness and curiosity.
It began to slowly try to get close to people, and began to wander around the rooms, looking for things it was interested in. The most comfortable place for it to live is under the radiator next to the sofa in the corner of the living room, which has become a paradise for it to sleep. In its view, this is a safe, hidden and warm place.
Usually, when his daughter goes to school, adults go to work and there is no one at home, he will climb under the sofa and have a good sleep in the place where he is used to sleeping. When he hears someone open the door to go home, he will wag his tail to greet him. This is a gesture of watching the domestic cat.
Whenever there are people or many people at home, it starts to get restless, get active and run around people under its feet. Running from room to room at high speed, very much like a sprinter, keen and full of energy.
Xiaomi's favorite sport is playing ball. He doesn't like big balls, but likes small balls that can be controlled in his mouth.
Its keen claws can always accurately and flexibly capture the direction in which the ball is going, jumping, tumbling and flapping, and it is more keen on challenging actions. It's good to entertain yourself, but it's more exciting to have a host to play with.
After about a week, Xiaomi became completely familiar with people. It's getting clingy. Especially at night, whenever I finish what I'm doing and start sitting on the sofa to rest, it will definitely jump on the sofa, then jump on my lap and find a very comfortable position to lie down. Lick my hand for a while, and its tongue is as astringent as a brush. After a while, he kept sniffing, even biting gently, hunching his back, rubbing his body against me and snoring. This is his way of liking me.
At first, I was a little scared and always avoided its good for me. I'm worried about being careless, careless. It scratched me, and I'm afraid it will roll on the ground and dirty me. I'm worried that it will stain the cushions on the sofa and infect my family with bacteria. I have too much worry and anxiety to get along with it every day. But my daughter regards it as a treasure, and I can only endure it. It makes me nervous.
I wonder where my worries come from. That's because in my heart, there are some judgments about right and wrong and some things that are not accepted, which are projected in my life with cats.
And I see that my daughter is always gentle and considerate to it. No matter what the cat does, she likes it very much. It has nothing to do with this. No anger, no judgment. Even if the cat goes to the table too much, goes to bed, goes to the sofa and is seen by me, ignoring the time that makes me angry. Every time my daughter sees it, she always gently takes it off.
I wonder, is there something wrong with cats? Temperament is like this, the cat presents its true self. Cats don't know what to do, what not to do, what to do to meet human standards, and how to please their owners.
Later, I tried to let go of these fears and feel the special expression it gave me. It likes me and loves me unconditionally. Even if I am rude to it sometimes, it bears my emotional fluctuations, but it is not to please my support for survival. Its complete acceptance of me awakened my inner pity for it, and gradually I liked it.
Whenever I am alone at home, I try to talk to it while cooking. It seems to understand. It will appear when I call its name. I often find that when I am working, it is always waiting by, squatting on the ground and looking at me quietly and intently. I gave it a look, and it even responded to me in its own way from time to time. I know it must have understood at that time.
Whenever I sit at the computer desk reading or typing, it will inevitably jump from the ground to the bedside table, then onto the desk, or roll on the desk, or bite my book, or bite the USB flash drive inserted in the computer, or spread itself completely on the keyboard, simply seeking attention.
Enough tossing, I will be quiet if I am ignored, and I will lie quietly beside me and accompany me to read and write. This is when I was in a good mood and gave it a lot of authority.
When I don't like being disturbed, I tell it that I need to be quiet, and it doesn't play with me alone anymore. I shut it out of my space. Knowing that I am inside, it can only wait quietly outside the door. Just like a loyal guard, sometimes he feels bored and finds a place to sleep leisurely.
Cat sex is always full of curiosity and exploration. Whenever I wash clothes, it will curiously lie at the door of the washing machine and look at the contents through the glass door of the washing bucket, rumbling.
Whenever I wash the mop and dry it, it will jump to the windowsill of the balcony and crouch there ecstatically, listening attentively to the sound of water dripping on the mop.
Whenever I listen to meditation music, it will jump on the sofa and squeeze behind me, squinting and enjoying itself. Different concerts show different attitudes, as if they were hypnotized.
Cats love themselves and enjoy themselves. People should learn to be kind to themselves like cats. He can always find the most comfortable place in his home and have a good sleep. On the sofa, in the corner of the wardrobe, on the clean mat I just washed, on the folding bench in the sun, on the rocking chair. I just brought a flower home from outside and put it in a bottle. It will also come to smell the flowers.
It is not an ordinary cat. What reincarnated into a cat with spiritual brilliance, came into my life because of some events, it must have some kind of mission, and it must be what I want to be in the interaction with it.
Regardless of happiness, sadness, anger and fear, all kinds of mixed States and emotions in the process of growth are unconditionally contained and absorbed by it. There is no judgment, no dislike, no complaint, no anxiety, and being completely accepted, which is something that many people can't bear in getting along with.
Sometimes I yell at it when it doesn't turn it into what I expect. When I am angry, it will avoid ignoring my bad mood in order to protect itself, but it still loves me.
When I am absorbed in what I am doing, I often see it silently accompanying me. Its eyes are always calm, full of trust and love for me, deeply nourishing me, just like the lover who missed it for 500 years in his last life. I was reborn in this life when a cat greeted me in this way, which instantly calmed my manic mood.
In the daily thinking of getting along with cats, I am constantly and deeply aware of my past emotional behavior patterns. I learned a lot from the natural disposition of cats.
This also made me realize how the model relationship between parents and children is correct in a family from which I came. Looking back at the children's life growth process, parents' high expectations for their children, and many things that parents and children have experienced in one place, how the so-called causes and consequences are finally presented, there must be other arrangements.