"You and I divorce, for the sake of children, also for yourself. It's just that I want to be your nanny, but on one condition. In this way, I can take care of you while raising a few children. "
"I'm determined not to divorce. I have four children, and you. Children can't live without their mothers, and I can't live without you. " Father's heartfelt words show his love for his mother.
It is precisely because of this "no divorce" that my father is facing dismissal and living with my mother on the farm. Ding Jianhua was only 8 years old when the family moved to the farm. In her memory, because she can be with her parents, even if there are more hardships in life, she will feel a different kind of stability and happiness.
Ding Jianhua likes to use the word "strong" to describe her mother. She suffered a lot in the wave of the Cultural Revolution, but she never shed tears in front of her children. Mother has to do heavy work every day, but she still has to take care of her father and children when she gets home. At dinner time every day, mother always leaves the delicious food for her father and children, and eats the rest herself. Ding Jianhua said, "If we have no leftovers, she will eat her pickled dried radish and pumpkin. During the natural disaster, my mother was swollen because of malnutrition. " The hard life on the farm didn't make young Ding Jianhua pessimistic. On the contrary, it made her smart and fragile. She is good at singing and dancing, prefers literature and is good at expressing her feelings. In the fields, I am busy plowing with poor middle peasants or studying with educated youth, but whenever someone says, "Jianhua, sing us a song!" " Ding Jianhua will sing loudly: "The sun is out." ... "She sings with great devotion and fascination. No matter what kind of emotion she uses, she always grasps it just right. The land on the farm nourishes Ding Jianhua's artistic cells.
When Ding Jianhua 13 years old, the wave of "Cultural Revolution" hit her family. She should not only worry about the safety of her parents, but also shoulder the responsibility of protecting her younger brothers and sisters. At this time, she began to become a little silent, and it was easy to stop singing.
However, this did not affect her desire for art, whenever her mother asked her, "Jianhua, what kind of person do you want to be in the future?" She replied, "I want to be Wang Fang."
The image in the movie "Heroes and Children" is deeply influenced, and she hopes to become a literary fighter. Time flies, time flies. In the late 1960s, Ding Jianhua graduated from high school. It happens that the East China Sea Fleet Art Troupe is coming to Shanghai to recruit students. Ding Jianhua, who is good at singing and dancing, quickly signed up for the exam. After several rounds of rigorous screening, Ding Jianhua was admitted with excellent results. However, many things happened. Because of her mother's birth, she failed to pass the political exam. Finally, after local poor middle peasants and relatives constantly reported the situation to the Party organization, nearly a year later, Ding Jianhua was able to join the Cultural and Art Troupe of the Political Department of the East China Sea Fleet and become a drama actor.
Despite Ding Jianhua's outstanding performance, due to the special political environment at that time, Ding Jianhua was not promoted to join the Party because of his mother's composition. Ding Jianhua recalled: "Although I feel wronged, I will always trust and love my mother emotionally. In order to change this state, I came up with the idea of taking off my military uniform. "
With curiosity and pursuit of film dubbing art, Ding Jianhua applied for Shanghai Film Translation Studio without telling her parents. Speaking of the scene of the exam that year, Ding Jianhua still remembers vividly: "With my own understanding of the voice actors, after I read a poem praising Lu Xun with passion, a deep voice from the audience reminded me that voice dubbing is not recitation, we should turn recitation into a speech, while maintaining that passion. Later, I learned that the low voice under the stage was Qiao Zhen, one of the examiners. "
Soon, Ding Jianhua was successfully admitted to Shanghai Film Translation Studio and officially became a voice actor. That year, she was only in her early twenties. When Ding Jianhua was six months pregnant, she was dubbing the role "Mayumi" in the famous film Chasing in the studio of Shanghai Film Translation Company. When Yumi really fled to the tree and shouted "Help", Ding Jianhua was in high spirits. The daughter in the belly was obviously affected, punching and kicking, as if to remind her mother of her existence.
The first cry of her daughter's birth rang through the room. Ding Jianhua joked, "That's not just crying, it's crying. Even doctors lamented that another Ding Jianhua was born. " Ding Jianhua is proud of her daughter's delicate and beautiful voice. "My daughter's voice has inherited my characteristics, and it is particularly pleasant to hear until now."
My daughter has participated in the dubbing of many TV dramas, just like an "old dubbing". Ding Jianhua's "Mother and Daughter File" has brought many excellent works to the audience. Recalling the scene of dubbing with her daughter, Ding Jianhua never forgets a little conflict between mother and daughter.
The Shanghai Translation Factory once accepted the dubbing of an important film "Piano Lesson", with Qiao Zhen as the dubbing director and Ding Jianhua and her daughter dubbing the mother and daughter in the film. The mother in the film is mute, so the daughter becomes the "protagonist" in voice. Ding Jianhua, who is eager to become a Phoenix, hopes that her daughter can match the role well. However, my daughter was repeatedly stopped by the director because of improper sound handling. Ding Jianhua attributed the mistake to her careless attitude. After a little girl's crying scene was played in the film, her daughter went to play without listening to the playback carefully. In this case, Ding Jianhua couldn't help but say a harsh word to her daughter in public: "Is this play all yours?" If it was 10 years ago, I would play this role, and I would give you a chance to play it. You can't be serious! "
Hearing this, my daughter burst into tears and shouted, "I don't deserve it ..." As a director, Qiao Zhen had to be the "mediator" of this "mother-daughter war" at the same time. The daughter said with tears: "I can continue to match, provided that my mother can't be next to me."
Ding Jianhua stayed outside the dubbing room all the time, but interestingly, Ding Jianhua heard her weak voice: "Mom, come in." Ding Jianhua was very happy: "I know she still trusts me the most. In fact, my daughter understands that without her mother's strict requirements, she can't match the play with the tolerance and forgiveness of others. "
"Mother strict father" bickered for her daughter.
Ding Jianhua's husband works with her in a translation studio, and their attitude towards their career is based on diligence. Under the example of parents, daughters have followed their down-to-earth and serious attitude in their studies since childhood and now in their work performance.
In Ding Jianhua's eyes, her daughter is a smart and excellent child, and her grades have been excellent from primary school to entering the world finance major of Fudan University. But even such an excellent child was beaten by his father when he was a child.
Ding Jianhua likes to use "strict father's loving mother" to describe her husband and herself. Her husband's education is a bit "rude" to Ding Jianhua. "If a daughter doesn't understand the truth, her husband will beat her. He feels that only when his daughter knows the pain will she make sense. " Ding Jianhua said with a smile that on the issue of educating children, she often has conflicts with her husband, and sometimes even cries, shouts, shouts and scolds her daughter.
"My daughter writes a good hand, all of which are typed by her father." Ding Jianhua recalled. Once, when she and her husband came home from work, it was already 1 1, and her daughter was asleep, leaving an exercise book on the table for her father to check. After reading her daughter's handwriting, the husband felt that she didn't write seriously. Without saying anything, he "hugged" his daughter from the bed and asked her to rewrite it. The daughter cried with injustice. Ding Jianhua was anxious and advised her husband: "It's so late, don't write." The more someone protects her daughter, the more her husband hits her. The daughter was beaten crying and screaming. Ding Jianhua was in a hurry and scolded her husband with clear pronunciation and mellow voice in Mandarin: "You fascist!" Say that finish and run out the door. It was getting late, and Ding Jianhua walked around the house for a long time, calmed down and prepared to go home. On the way home, I always felt that someone was following her. She went upstairs, and so did the man. On the fourth floor, I suddenly turned around and found that it was Liu who lived next door. Uncle Lu said, "I heard your family crying and arguing. I was afraid that something would happen to you, so I followed you all the time ..."
However, for her father's strict discipline, her daughter not only does not bear grudges, but has a particularly good relationship with him. Every time her husband goes on a business trip, her daughter wants to cry. Sometimes Ding Jianhua will say jealously, "Mom never hits you, but she always helps you. Why don't you cry when I am on a business trip? " My daughter jokingly said, "If you hit me like my father did, I might have died long ago."
The daughter has grown up, and the relationship with her father is still very good. The daughter said, "If my father hadn't been strict with me when I was a child, maybe I would have accomplished nothing now."