It has nothing to do with you if I delete you
Text/Butukema
After get off work, several of our friends met to have dinner together.
While we were enjoying the hot pot with great enthusiasm, Ms. S, who was late, came towards us angrily, tapping her high heels viciously. Looking at her hair that was messy in the wind, her eyebrows drooping and her forehead wrinkled, I knew something was wrong.
She is the famous "upstart" and "fire-breathing dragon" among us. She roars with anger, and we will roar when she is told.
Sure enough, when she arrived, she started to spray: "Li Xiaomeng, please explain to me clearly, why are you deleting me?" Miss S was so angry that her spittle splashed all over the hot pot.
I just remembered that Miss S had just sent another group message to check whether she had been deleted as a WeChat friend. Miss S sends this kind of news once a month, more punctually than her aunt. Normally, a few of us don't pay attention to it, and we don't mind it. If she wants to do anything, just let her do it.
I didn’t expect Xiao Meng to really delete her this time.
I glanced at Xiao Meng and found that she was sitting upright, her expression unchanged, and she was slowly rinsing the mutton. Xiao Meng is the kind of calm and ruthless person who speaks his mind and is the most assertive among us.
“One day I suddenly became unhappy and deleted it.” She said lightly while eating mutton.
In fact, we all know that Xiao Meng is not unhappy suddenly, but has been unhappy for a long time.
Ms. S was one of the first to start a micro-business business. Her spirit of hard work, tirelessness and sleeplessness is really touching. She had a great time posting seven ads in the morning, noon and evening, plus three selfies during a break to go to the bathroom. Unfortunately, we all had a miserable time scrolling through our Moments. We often complained in private, but when we thought about how we were all friends, we were too embarrassed to say anything.
"Why did you delete me? I have been paying attention to your updates, but you just deleted me without saying a word!" Miss S said confidently.
Ms. S and Xiaomeng are usually very good friends, and they go shopping together to compete for men.
Suddenly she found out that she had been deleted as a friend, and she had no idea about it. Naturally, she felt betrayed, which is why she felt so aggrieved. Everyone in the world can betray me, but you can't, because she never thought that Xiaomeng would delete her WeChat in anger.
Xiaomeng put down her chopsticks slowly: "I block you and delete you, do I still have to fill out a form and apply for a report? This is my circle of friends. I can block whoever I want to block. I can delete whoever I like, it has nothing to do with you.”
Ms. S’s eyes widened and she was immediately speechless.
Although Xiaomeng’s words are straightforward and crude, it is indeed the truth.
You post your baby in your circle of friends to show your affection, post it in an auction advertisement or serve chicken soup. Post whatever you want, however you want, whenever you want. There is nothing more fun than this. Be free, no one will ever stop you, and no one can stop you. Sometimes you want to send some private things, and you can also send some people to the dark dungeon like an emperor, send some people to the frontier, and leave a few close friends to bring them into the palace to drink and talk.
In the same way, I also have the right to choose freely. I can choose to review it carefully and then give you a thumbs up to show that I like it; I can also choose to ignore you and directly block or even delete it, but you can do nothing to me! Each of us has our own independent circle. Everyone is the king of his own circle. No one should want to run wild in other people's circles.
We often add a lot of friends in a cheap way. When we go out for a drink and take a piss, we will get a long list of WeChat friends. At first we thought we could expand our social circle by doing this, and we often proudly showed off the number of WeChat friends we had. But then we scrolled back and forth and liked again and again, but instead we complained that the circle of friends was getting lonelier and lonelier, and there were not many true friends in it.
Are you inherently lonely and have nothing to do, or is it really just checking Moments that makes you lonely?
The larger the number, the larger the circle.
Don’t think that just by clicking a few likes and commenting on someone else’s post and saying a few innocuous words, you have really connected “your heart and mine.”
Nowadays, the “Internet” is popular, and everything needs to be O2O, but I think online emotions will always be just a by-product of offline emotions or just a gift. Only in reality, you and I, and in various social tools, others are willing to allow you to run wild on their territory. Otherwise, no matter how many likes you give others, they will just treat you as farting too much.
So in order to verify whether we have really obtained the qualification certification, we want to know whether others have deleted us, so we come to check with all kinds of friends, and forcefully put our hearts to the test. Glass shards smashed to the ground.
Why do you expect others not to delete you? Or why do you ask others not to delete you?
There is a kind of person who you don’t know at all, but his enthusiasm is really like a fire. He asks to add you as a friend over and over again, and he will not give up until he achieves his goal. I thought: "Maybe he is a fanatical suitor." Then I will be merciful and pass you. What you never expected was that when you woke up early the next morning and opened your circle of friends, you would be filled with surprises from him. The overwhelming product advertisements make you mistakenly think that you clicked on the wrong icon and opened Taobao instead of Moments. Then I'll just block him.
The most hateful thing is that he shamelessly comes to you and asks: "Why? Why? Why didn't you forward it for me?" Do you think you have to sign in for class and punch in at work? Do I have to sign in to your Moments? It is obvious that they are adding people desperately just to promote the product, and it is obvious that they are purely using others but still despising them.
For this kind of person, a deletion determines life and death, and cannot appeal or overturn the verdict. So stop asking others with a **** face why they deleted you. If a person does not spend even a second to think about whether he should block or delete you, it can only mean that you really mean nothing to him and you have not produced even a little bit of value for him. Maybe he won't be able to remember who you are when he deletes you. Therefore, your test is completely meaningless, and it is not worth mentioning that you are crying because of it, the whole thing is the same.
For strangers, of course we can be confident and confident, "sharpening the sword against the pigs and sheep". When soldiers come, they will block the water and the earth will cover them. Who is afraid of whom? But there is another type of people who will post 360-degree pictures of their children in your circle of friends showing affection, taking selfies and serving chicken soup to sell ads, but there is nothing you can do about them. They are the relatives and friends who hold your imperial token. You have to be slow to even block them, let alone delete them. If you are not careful, they will sue your father, the emperor, and your empress, and you will suddenly be accused of "disrespecting elders, not united and friendly, untutored and rude" and other charges. Bite you "What does it have to do with you if I sell ads in my circle of friends? You never buy them anyway!"
Haha, at this time you can imitate sister Zhang Ailing's sentence:
"I love you, what does it have to do with you? All the weird things can't be blamed on you."
"Then if I block you and delete you from my circle of friends, what does it have to do with you? Nothing can be blamed on you.”
In fact, sometimes when we block some friends and relatives, we don’t really hate them, just like Xiao Meng deleted S. Just like Miss S, it doesn’t mean that Xiaomeng really wants to break up with Miss S. After deleting it, she treated Miss S as always, like a biological sister.
We just want to make subtractions in our lives. Simplify our lives and get rid of things that don’t make sense to us and may even annoy us.
We want to retain the original function of Moments.
Through it we can truly feel every bit of the people we care about.
Whether you are happy or sad, married or broken up. Although we can't be together all the time, we still try to overcome obstacles in our circle of friends, push through the clouds, and try to feel what the people we care about are going through. That’s why useless information is blocked and deleted. Everyone is so busy, so when browsing Moments, naturally you don’t want to feel like you’re in a noisy wet market. Some people are selling vegetables, some are selling fish, and some people are shouting with a big loudspeaker: "My oranges are the sweetest, try them for free!" Of course you can post anything you want in Moments and say whatever you want. But we are not responsible for helping with digestion.
But some people have correct views and pure conduct. They do not sell advertisements, show off their children, or take selfies. Everything they publish in their WeChat Moments is carefully considered and polished word by word, and is full of themselves. of joy, anger, sorrow and joy. But even if he walks on thin ice and is cautious, he may still be blocked and deleted. Because people only like things that are consistent with their own views and experiences.
If you study literature, occasionally post a few poems that touch your heart, and seriously share your views on a certain literary work, others may call you a "literary bitch" and block you directly. ; If you study music, post a photo of a concert and express your excitement, someone might scold you as a "pretender" and block you at the same time; You finally won a grand prize and can't hold it back Feel the joy in your heart, strike a pose, and post on WeChat Moments, you may be considered self-righteous.
Now you understand, no matter what you post in Moments, someone will be unhappy. Do you just stop using Moments because of this, and judge that Moments make people more and more lonely? When you focus on one or two boring trolls, your view of the world is full of negativity. But when you broaden your horizons, you will find that there are still many people who appreciate you, silently follow you, like you and cheer you on.
Furthermore, a "moment" is a moment. What you record is every moment in your own life, not every moment of others.
So again, it has nothing to do with you if I delete you.
Because this is my circle of friends, maybe I just want to be quiet and subtract from my life.
If it really has a relationship with you, please think about whether you can balance yourself and others, at least so that it is not troublesome or disturbing.