Abstract men, realistic women. My table tennis coach often complains that girls are stupid at playing. It is clearly told to the girls that "the opponent's ball is a spin ball. You must aim to hit it outside the table so that the ball will land on the table. If you hit it on the table, it will be spun outside the table." Most boys understand it immediately, but girls don't. I know why, but they are so determined that they have to hit her on the table. I went home and told my wife. The wife actually smiled and said that if it were the same for her, of course she would hit her on the table, there is no point in hitting her outside the table. One more sentence: Girls are more down-to-earth and hit wherever they hit, not as naughty as men. No wonder it was discovered early in medicine that girls are less good at abstract things. Girls who are better at homework than boys in primary school and junior high school often fall behind boys when it comes to math and science in high school. (The president of Harvard University even offended a group of girls for saying this.) When men drive, they turn left and right while recalling the road ahead. They even look at the sunlight and shadows to calculate their direction; girls are different. What they focus on is the present, because the past has passed, and they don’t know what’s next. Men remember places. They often tell which intersection they have passed, how many traffic lights they have, and where to turn. If you meet at a crossroads, men often say whether it is at the northeast corner or the southwest corner. Women may complain: "Fuck you, east, west, north and south! Just tell me what building is there and what obvious store is next to it." Girls say this because they are "realistic"? Why bother talking about direction? Direction is too abstract. , where there is a big tree, a park, and a home 711, isn’t it more real than anything else? Even watching movies, boys and girls are different. Middle school boys especially love watching movies about faces appearing in outer space, but middle school girls have become obsessed with realistic idol dramas. If you laugh at it, it's just nonsense. No matter how you look at it, it's fake. She will probably reply: "The aliens you see are even more ridiculous!" As for middle-aged people, the difference between men and women is even greater. Boys are often childlike and curious, and they still love to watch war science fiction when they are forty years old. But if you ask ladies, 80% of them only like to watch realistic dramas. Sci-fi movies asked her to imagine, just like playing ball, but she couldn't think of anything; realistic dramas made her feel the same and make her cry with snot and tears. In the past, I couldn't understand the differences between men and women. I just felt that girls lacked imagination. After living for most of my life, I gradually figured out that women are not interested in abstract things. This is an instinct given to females by biological evolution. Women must be "real" because raising children and daily necessities are more real than anything else. Even the birds are like this. Not long ago, there was a robin nesting in my yard. I went over to take a peek. Every time I got closer, the mother bird would fly out and scream at me. A few times, it even swooped down and attacked me. As soon as the female bird cries, the male bird will definitely come and stand together on the top of the tree and yell at me. But when I left and turned the corner of the room, the mother bird couldn't see me, so she stopped calling and immediately went back to hatch her nest, as if she didn't have to worry about it anymore. Only the male bird would continue to follow me, even flying over the house to see if I was really gone. The female bird cannot think too much, otherwise she will catch cold if she thinks too much about the eggs; the male bird must not think too long, otherwise the family may be in danger. The same goes for lions and tigers. Mother Tiger gave birth to several babies. When the children were young, they could watch the tiger father scratch and bite them, but when they grew into teenagers, they began to be rejected by the tiger father. Even if there is no rejection, an adult tiger will leave home on its own initiative. It will urinate everywhere to mark its territory, indicating that it is its territory, that it has its own world, and that its world is the home of its future children. Males are born to explore and explore. Ninety percent of the ancestors who crossed the sea were men. Men are naturally curious about the horizon and the world behind the sea level, so they went out. Some died in danger on the way, and some reached the place of rebirth, then turned back and picked up the women. Males are also born to go out and look for food. Some birds, such as the giant-beaked hornbill, will even seal the mother bird in a tree hole with soil in its mouth, like a warrior putting a chastity belt on his wife. Of course, warriors on expeditions often died on the battlefield, and male birds looking for food often died under guns or claws. Those women or female birds guarding their nests lost their support. In addition to continuing to bring up their children, they also have to work to support their families. They become poor single mothers. I believe those mothers must have become more oriented. Because in the past, they only had to stay in the nest and wait for their husbands to return without having to go far. Now they have to leave the nest and find their own way home to a baby waiting to be fed. I always think of watching a mother carrying her child on her back in Orchid Island, sorting out the fish her husband had caught. She hung the fish one by one in front of the house to dry. Although she didn't speak, her face was filled with a peaceful and contented expression. I always remember when I was young, I gave my wife my salary bag, and she counted them one by one. I asked why she counted them again and again. She said that she had liked this since she was a child. She felt that there was a lot of money, even if she didn’t spend it, she would count it and listen to it. The sound is also very satisfying. I always think of the robins in the yard when they were making their nests. The male bird was busy carrying hay and twigs to the branches again and again; the female bird was busy weaving and arranging them, and kept sitting on them, twisting her fat belly, and pulling them into the nest. The shape of the nest is pressed out. Men are naturally adventurous and want to find a new world for their children; women are naturally more realistic and really want their children to grow up. Men are born to travel far, and traveling far away is for home; women are born to stay at home, waiting for their husbands to return. Men are rakes and women are baskets.
Men are abstract, women are realistic