Outside the window, the rain was falling, but it sounded like a crash to me. I couldn't help thinking of the summer rain in 1982.
That day, my second dad, who was only thirty-five years old, was buried.
The whole family, men, women and children, wept bitterly. It seemed that God could not bear the sudden death of the young talent he loved so much, and he could not stop crying, making the roadway full of river water and mud.
I don't know how the coffin with my second dad was carried out by so many villagers from the narrow old doorway, and how Yang, who was carried out in the muddy alley, was one foot deep and one foot shallow, swaying from side to side.
I only remember a few times when climbing, the uncle who carried the coffin kept slipping and stumbling, and almost fell down, almost falling off the coffin.
At that time, I only thought about whether my second dad was safe in the coffin, and I didn't care about the danger of my uncle lifting his legs, scraping mud and carrying heavy loads. I still keep complaining in my heart that they didn't go all out to make my dead second dad suffer again!
Eight-year-old Li Jie (second dad's eldest daughter) followed closely behind the coffin, with a straw rope tied around her waist and a filial piety stick in her hand, crying miserably. I kept wiping my tears behind her.
Three-year-old Pingmei (the second daughter of the second father) may be held by her elders and walked in the funeral procession. May be too young to remember, don't understand what's going on, so I don't have a good impression of my father. This should be a good thing, at least she has lost a lot of growing pains after remembering.
From this point, I think Pingmei is much luckier than Li Jie!
The early death of my second dad dealt a great blow to my grandparents. The pain of "white-haired people send black-haired people" has always been heartbreaking and heartbreaking! I was young then, and I couldn't understand how painful they were!
When the second father dies, the most painful and helpless thing is the second mother. A young woman and a pair of young children suddenly lost their days at home. What should they do in the future?
Think about the two old people in the husband's family who are old and don't drag themselves down. The two brothers have a heavy family burden and can't take care of themselves. Second mother was really helpless at that time!
In that era when the family was generally poor and the rural areas mainly relied on their own men to support their families, the second mother had to choose to remarry.
Fortunately, not long after, my second mother found a capable uncle in a place dozens of miles away from my home, and once again formed a happy family, and my young Li Jie and Ping Mei once again had a warm home and a loving father. After that, they can live happily and grow sturdily like other children, and peace and happiness have continued for decades.
During this period, my grandfather died in 1985 and my grandmother died in 1999. Sister Li was told to come to the funeral, because she remembered that when she left with her second mother, she felt the care of her grandparents. So I was very impressed with my relatives at home. Pingmei didn't come because she didn't remember at that time, so she hardly knew her relatives at home. What a pity!
Tomb-Sweeping Day in 20 13 years is an unforgettable day for me. On that day, as soon as I entered the house, my parents excitedly told me: "
Your second father's two daughters, Lily and Pingping, went to his father's grave yesterday. As soon as they entered the door, they shouted' three fathers and three mothers'. We were cheated for a while, and it took a long time to react that it was your second dad's girl, so excited that she wanted to cry! "
Your sister Li is fatter and your sister Ping is thinner. You have no idea how ostentatious they are. Really concentrated the advantages of your second father and your second mother! They also brought expensive gifts, and we are very unhappy: do you think our family has taken care of them since your second dad left ... They are also poor and can't take care of themselves, and they have given away your brother who is not yet full moon ... "
Do you think we can accept their gifts with peace of mind? I didn't buy anything, so I had to get them some jujube buns at home ... they don't have jujube buns at home, so it should be rare! "
Then I took them to the altar and grave of your second dad and told your second dad that you two women came to see you. Look how well they grow and live happily ... Don't worry, the more you talk, the more emotional you are, the more you can't help crying, and the two women cry ... "
You see, how nice two women are, not forgetting their roots and roots ... your second mother is active, affectionate and educated! When you have time later, let's see if your second mother and your two sisters can go ... "
Oh, how could we get stuck and forget to ask them for their phone number? Really, really ... "
Looking at their regret, I quickly said, "Never mind, never mind, they are in our county, and they are easy to be found!" "
Having said that, I haven't acted. Until yesterday afternoon, I suddenly thought of going to Tomb-Sweeping Day to visit the grave. An uncle in the village said that he had seen two strange women and a man burning paper in my ancestral grave earlier, so I guessed that it might be Sister Li and Sister Heping. So, I immediately asked a classmate who works in the county through WeChat (this classmate's husband and Li Jie's husband work in the same unit).
Soon, good news came: "I have her phone number, and I will send it to you right away." When I got a call from Sister Li, I was afraid that I didn't call abruptly. I just added her micro-signal with the same phone number three times at once and signed my name.
Two hours later, I finally waited for Sister Li's approval. She made two expressions of shaking hands, and I threw out two words directly: "Hello, sister! Do you know who I am? " My sister also bluntly said, "You are writing your name! Can relatives forget? "
Then, after introducing some information about the other party, she said emotionally, "I knew it was my family when I heard from your classmate that a relative was looking for me ..."
Then, I mentioned Pingmei again and said that I really wanted to see her. Sister Li immediately sent me her photo ... Not long after, she told me that Pingmei had added me. What a wonderful thing! So, I said goodbye to Sister Li in a hurry and started our first meeting (not reality but network) and the first chat in Pingmei's memory:
Pingmei looks more excited than me. She spoke first: "Hello, brother!" "
"I'm so excited, my mind is the same as before you were three or four years old!" I responded.
Pingmei said with surprise, "I'm so glad you still remember me!" "
"I also hugged you! When you were a child, you liked to cry. My sister and I always coax you! " I quickly told her the characteristics of her childhood.
Pingmei said with emotion, "I am so excited to hear from my sister that you are looking for us, and my tears are coming down!" "
Later, we exchanged some basic information as usual, and ended the first real chat in my life with the voice of "looking forward to seeing you soon"!
Finally, I found Sister Li and Sister Heping and started to establish contact, which was surprisingly smooth and fast! The first chat was so empathetic, affectionate and heartfelt, without any reluctance, perfunctory, hypocrisy and politeness.
Suddenly I thought of an article "Family is always the heaviest" posted by Sister Li in a circle of friends late last night, and my sister and I almost unanimously praised it.
Three brothers and sisters scattered in three places, in the same night, trouble sleeping, thinking about the same thing, is it a coincidence? No, not at all. As described herein:
The family is as stable as Mount Tai! Affection is the nature that blood is thicker than water, and it is an inseparable feeling!
Relatives are connected by blood! In the face of the test, the thunder can't move, and the longer it is in front of time, the heavier it will be.
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Yes! Otherwise, Pingmei, who was only three years old when she left, and had become a complete stranger with her family 36 years later, how could she add my WeChat as soon as she knew I was looking for them, and she was so excited that she couldn't wait to say "Hello, brother"? Otherwise, how could Sister Li say, "I know my family is looking for her, and my heart is warm" and Sister Peace "Tears are almost falling"?
At this point, it was already dawn, and the rain outside the window suddenly became violent and knocked on the window. I think, it must be that my second dad learned the news in heaven, and tears of joy rolled in like rain!
Dad, cry! I know you have been wronged for so many years. Although some nephews burn paper for your grave year after year, you rarely see a pair of your own flesh and blood and your baby daughter come to see you. You have a complaint in your heart about why my nephew refused to find and contact his own daughter. Although there are nephews offering spiritual tablets to themselves, and there are delicious foods in festivals, I never forget to offer them to myself, but I still feel sorry for my daughter!
Dad, you are right to complain, you are right to complain, my nephew is really careless, my nephew is really stupid, I don't understand your mentality and your difficulties! Why didn't you dream about me earlier, so that I could fulfill your wish earlier?
No, I put my foot in my mouth again
My second dad is so capable and strong, how can he humbly ask his nephew for advice?
According to my dad, my second dad used to be the secretary of Commander xx of the Navy and the pen holder of the whole army. After leukemia, he returned to the village to recuperate after surgery in the city.
However, after he returned to the village, he was unwilling to be lonely or mediocre. Instead, he organized a group of semi-musicians, who practiced the skills of playing, playing and singing seriously and assiduously during the slack season, and cultivated them into a team of famous musicians who are famous in the eight townships! If he hadn't worked so hard, maybe he would have survived!
My second dad loves me and teaches me. How could he think that his nephew could not understand his inner pain for so many years?
I remember that every time I see him, he always lifts me up to see how much I have grown; After putting me down, I took out a delicious candy from my pocket that was hard for children to get in those days and stuffed it into me. When I arrive at his house, he often takes out a beautifully bound and hardcover book, which is the kind of Marxist-Leninist literature of China, and points it out to me while speaking in a language I can understand. ...
Later, when I grew up, I also saw his allegro, poems and articles. He wrote it in his notebook before he died. I really admire it and spread it proudly everywhere! Unfortunately, at that time, I only looked around and didn't even keep any ink properly, so today has become an eternal regret. ...
Dad, please forgive my nephew's carelessness and stupid mistakes!
Now, I have found a pair of flesh and blood relatives for you-my sister Li and sister Ping. I will never lose contact with you again. Now you should rest assured! They are all very happy, and you are still worried that your second mother is in good health, but her leg hurts a little. However, it doesn't matter-it's just a phenomenon that the elderly naturally wither!
Dad, don't worry about this and that, just live your immortal life in heaven! Don't ask when you miss us, let's come together!
Dad, now, be happy! Then you can laugh loudly!
With your care and protection in heaven, our brothers and sisters will be more caring and happy!
? Written at 9: 45 am on April 20 18 12.