What three views of love did Shu Ting mainly express in To the Oak Tree?

Shu Ting mainly expressed the following three views on love in To the Oak Tree:

First, be independent in love.

Second, we must have the courage to share weal and woe.

Third, tolerance in love.

Shu Ting shows her distinct female consciousness through The Oak Tree. But if we read her poems carefully, we will find that most of her poems reveal elegance in romance and carry the glory of ideals in sadness. I especially like the roots in To the Oak. They cling to the ground and the leaves touch each other in the clouds. You can clearly feel the poet's strong desire for mutual respect for love.

Writing background:

Shu Ting once talked about the creative background of the poem "To the Oak Tree": "In fact, the production of this poem is simple and ordinary." Shu Ting recalled. 1975 Cai Qijiao, an old returned overseas Chinese poet who once helped her a lot in writing, visited Gulangyu Island. One night, while Shu Ting was walking with him, Cai Qijiao told her about the girls she met in her life. It's bold to talk openly about the girl you liked in the 1970s.

Cai Qijiao said that there are beautiful girls, but no talent; Talented girls are not beautiful; Beautiful, talented and fierce, he found it difficult to find a perfect girl. Shu Ting said that she was very angry after listening to it. She thinks this is male chauvinism and men and women should be equal. So that night, she wrote a poem "Oak Tree" and gave it to Cai Qijiao. Later, when it was published, it was changed to To Oak.

"In fact, oak trees in the south can never grow with kapok trees. In this poem, they are used as references for men and women. " She added.