Secret love has existed since ancient times. In the Book of Songs, National Style and Han Guang, it is exactly what the woodcutter said: there are trees in the south, so you can't think; There are women on the Han River who want to pursue the impossible. The trees in the south are tall and big, but I can't rest under them; Hanshui girl is very beautiful. I tried to chase her, but I couldn't catch her. In the article "Nanxiangzi", it is: linglong dice Anhoudou, I wonder if I missed it? In Su Shi's "Die Lian Hua", it is: the swing in the wall is outside the wall, the layman is inside the wall, and the beauty is laughing inside the wall. The laughter faded without hearing it, but the passion was ruthlessly annoyed. In Xu Zhimo's "Accidental", it is: you and I meet in the dark sea, you have your own, I have my direction; You may remember, but you'd better forget. The light released by each other when they meet. Here, Mr. Jin Yong is the hostess Xia Meng, and the little dragon girl is a classic figure based on Xia Meng in his works. Therefore, it is not surprising that secret love has existed since ancient times. Fishermen, woodcutters and vagrants have all told such stories. The problem is how to solve this negative emotion.
For boys, the first thing to do is not to draw the ground as a prison, but to take the initiative and give yourself an account. Secret love is rich in inner drama. For example, in Faust, the naive Margaret clung to the petals and thought, "He likes me, but he doesn't like me; He likes me, he doesn't like me ... "I am intoxicated and heartbroken in such a game. Say it generously if you like it. Don't be afraid of rejection, don't be afraid of failure. Young people are most afraid of failure Secondly, even if you fail, you should face the result bravely, don't be discouraged, don't think, and don't run amok. You know, it is inevitable to pursue the bumpy road of feelings. Once you are discouraged by this and give in to the vulgar tastes of the world and yourself, the probability of finding a soul mate with similar interests will be even more elusive. If you think wildly and act rashly again, you will go further and further on the evil road of giving up on yourself, and you can't even love yourself. What about love? Isn't this more proof that the girl who rejected you has a sharp eye and knows people very well? Finally, there must be hope. There is a line in The Wandering Earth: In this era, hope is something more precious than diamonds. Not only in movies, but also in reality. Have hope for yourself, believe that you can find the lifelong partner who will never abandon you, and make efforts and actions for it, then the pain of unrequited love is only temporary.
For girls, the mind is delicate, and when they encounter this situation, they will be full of worries, more unhappy and unable to get rid of it. However, girls, you are so sad, just like Yi 'an laity: "I'm afraid the boat can't carry joy and sorrow", and that gentleman looks back at "Iraqis are in the dim light"? I do not think this is necessarily the case. From the genetic point of view, most men are always visual animals, and their first impressions are extremely superficial because of their appearance and figure, so the above two points are sufficient conditions for men to identify women. However, the temperament, knowledge, pure and kind character that women exude from the inside out often play a decisive role, which is a necessary condition. Sufficient conditions do not play a necessary role, but necessary conditions are the key. With the growth of age and the passage of time, the sufficiency of sufficient conditions will decrease year by year, while the necessity of necessary conditions will increase year by year. So, girls, please believe that if the people you admire don't appreciate you, there is no need to worry about it. Cultivate internal strength and improve taste. Naturally, people who appreciate your value will actively approach you and pursue you. Just like in margaret mitchell's Gone with the Wind, Scarlett O 'Hara's excellent character of freedom, daring to love and hate attracted Rhett Butler's attention and made him infatuated with it. If Scarlett O 'Hara was not such a brave girl, no one would fall in love with Rhett Butler. The key to liberation is still on yourself.
In I Love You, Yu Xiuhua talked about the humbleness and bravery of unrequited love: if I send you a book, I won't send you a poem; I will give you a book about plants and crops; Tell you the difference between rice and barnyard grass; Tell you a barnyard grass; Terrible spring. Yes, unrequited love is hard. For example, Mao Amin sang in "Acacia": "Keeping love is afraid that people will laugh and see clearly." But how many people will understand this kind of distress except their own digestion? And you hope that this kind of distress can be understood by everyone except the unrequited lover. There is a good chance that you don't want others to decompose and digest your pain. More likely, your hopes are dashed and you have to digest them yourself in the end. If you are uncomfortable, you are uncomfortable. Others are in good health and eat well. Is your pain still meaningful? Certainly not! Besides feelings, there are many other more meaningful things in the world, waiting for us to discover and explore. Therefore, the pain of unrequited love is really unnecessary.